The One Who Stood Strong: Empowerment and Recovery w/ Kyrie Blaney

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Oh, yes, here we go.

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It's Radio Daybreak, the best podcast in Utah.

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I am Just Blane.

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No Becks today.

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Becks is actually in Kyoto, Japan.

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With her whole family, all 15 of them are out there.

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That's gotta be a crazy sight, right? 15 Americans going wild in the middle of Japan.

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I wish I was over there.

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Actually, I'm going to go over there one of these days.

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Becks will be on our interview today with Kiri Blaney, the confident mompreneur.

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Before we get to that, I got a couple of announcements though.

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Listen, Laura from Empowered Community Markets posted that June 8th, put it on your calendar, June 8th, Farmers Markets return to Soda Row.

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It's going to be amazing.

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Another announcement from the DBC, the Daybreak Business Community, also daybreakbusinesscommunity.

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com.

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We are at Harmon's all month again.

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This is the month of May.

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Happy May.

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Speaking of May and the DBC, May 16th, we've got a workshop.

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That is going to be done by me.

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I'm going to show you how to do a podcast.

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We're going to actually go in there.

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We're going to sit as a group, whoever shows up and we're going to do it.

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Um, Right there on the spot from scratch.

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We're going to throw out ideas and we're going to mold it.

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It's going to be fun.

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Listen, there's so much stuff going on around Daybreak.

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If you want to find all the info for the, for the fun stuff, stay off of that other Daybreak Facebook group page and come to Daybreak Happenings.

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Google it right now.

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You'll find Daybreak Happenings, Facebook search it, Meta AI search it.

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If you're into that, you can find Daybreak Happenings.

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It's the second largest group.

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on Facebook right now for Daybreak.

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We're really proud of what we're doing.

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I'm sitting by right now waiting to approve you.

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You can find out about all the people from the DBC, from Ride the Wave Media, doing incredible things here in Daybreak.

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Ben Brown, the Fresh King Benjamin, just had his first comedy pop up show at Biscott's with Precaution Amp sold out.

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You got Courtney Pearl doing tarot for tips all over the place.

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She's doing it big, great podcast.

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We've got all kinds of stuff going on, but let me tell you what we're going to get to right now.

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I got something real special, real important that we've got to, we've got to do something about.

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And I'm going to bring in Robin from KW Keller Williams right here in South Valley from Daybreak.

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Adjacent, Daybreak Adjacent.

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And we're going to talk about Red Day.

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So let's go to it.

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3, All right.

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I got a very special guest right here with me.

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Robin Buckwalter.

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Thanks for joining me.

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Becks is the one she was, look, Becks hit me up wild hours because she's in Japan or something right now doing, doing Japan things with the family.

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Having the time of her life.

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But she hit me up at a crazy hour.

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And she's like, look, you got to get Robin on ASAP because she's got a cool thing that you're working on.

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I didn't even have to look into it.

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I was like, yeah, let me, let me go.

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Sure.

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Book it.

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So Robin, yeah.

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Appreciate you jumping on with me.

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What, what is it that you're doing? Okay.

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I work with Becks Nielsen at Keller Williams, South Valley, right at the border of Daybreak on the East side.

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And we are doing the coolest fundraiser slash service project.

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In a couple of weeks, we are collecting funds from all kinds, anyone who wants to donate to buy duffel bags.

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These are big duffel bags with new teddy bears, hygiene kits, blankets, and coloring books for kids in foster care.

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And I think most people have seen or heard about, like, I've seen movies where they're like, kids get a garbage bag and they put their clothes in it and they go to the next foster care house.

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And every time they go, they get a garbage bag.

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And I've got a few people I know that have been through this.

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And so they're like, wow, I already feel kind of disposable, kind of trashy.

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And now I put all my stuff in this trash bag.

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So look at this.

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You've got to thank you for the picture of these darling duffel bags.

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They're brand new and they're going to be filled with brand new items with enough space for the kids to put their belongings.

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The few belongings they have will go in these backpacks.

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So each, each one of these is 30.

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And our office is collecting 30 donations, and we're looking for, honestly, a hundred more 30 donations through this weekend.

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And we're ordering these.

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They'll be in our office May 9th, which is a Thursday.

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And then we'll be, you can see there's a little bit of stenciling and coloring.

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We're gonna be coloring on the bags.

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Yeah.

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Putting a, a loving message on each bag.

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Slice.

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Lemme ask you that.

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Lemme ask you something on that, on the messages.

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Are those all handwritten? Are you guys putting the messages? Oh my gosh.

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That's awesome.

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I love that they're handwritten.

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So we, we we're paying an extra thousand dollars for a bunch of stencils paints and marker.

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So you can see the lettering looks really nice on those.

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And there's, there's an ocean picture.

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I see a house picture.

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So we're going to have stencil.

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There might be some artists in the group that do a really good job without a stencil, but we'll have the stencils, the paints, the markers.

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And then we will individually stuff each bag.

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And our goal is thousands of bags, several thousand bags.

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To donate here locally in Utah to the foster care program.

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Now that's, that's incredible what you guys are doing.

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Now I see the stat right here on this flyer and it says every day, 1200 children enter the foster care system.

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That's real.

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It's real.

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That's crazy.

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That's, that's crazy.

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So as you, as, as we hear about these kids, they don't just move once.

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They typically move.

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I don't know that stat several times.

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You know, every few months, every year as their life changes, as the families change, or we don't want this kid, or we'll take more kids.

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They're on the go.

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It's pretty unstable.

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Yeah.

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So if anything, man, give 30 bucks out there and get them a bag.

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That's some sort of stable for them.

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That's something that is consistent.

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No matter how many times they move, it looks like they've got good quality.

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You've said they're good quality.

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They're not carrying around trash bags anymore.

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Right.

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30 bucks people come on 30 bucks.

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I know I'm like 30 bucks is like three or four trips for coffee or like two lunches.

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If that, if that, like, come on and look what's in there.

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They get a teddy bear, a blanket, some crayons, coloring book and a hygiene kit.

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Yeah.

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Honestly, I'm going to tell you what, Robin, this 30 bucks right here could change a kid's life.

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You hear that kind of stuff all the time, but it really could change the trajectory of somebody out there that's going through the foster care system.

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They might get that and think, Oh my God, I'm loved.

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It might change what they're doing.

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Come on, people.

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Yeah, I know it's 30 bucks.

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It's nothing to a lot of us.

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It may be a sacrifice for somebody, but it's like, you know what? Ask a few friends, see if your kids want us to go sell lemonade for two hours.

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They'll make 30 bucks fast.

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I mean, this can be put together pretty quickly.

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And you know what? If you don't have the money out there, you have a social media account.

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Cause you're watching this right now, share this clip, get it to the people who have the money, get the 30 in the hand.

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How do we give the donation money? Where is that money going to? How do we get it to you? Okay.

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This is pretty easy.

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We're going to do Venmo.

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Now someone could bring a check to the KW office at 40th, 4000 West, 114 South.

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You could, I don't know who still has checks, but some people do.

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The easiest thing is K.

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W.

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South Valley is our Venmo name.

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So K.

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South Valley and all you have to put is Red Day or Duffel Bags or Foster Care.

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Any term like that, we'll know.

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Thank you.

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There it is on the screen.

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KW South Valley, send 30.

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I mean, if you can only send 10, send 10, we'll put it together for a kit.

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If you can send 50, send 50, right? I love that idea.

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I love the idea of, if you don't have 30, send what you have.

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Cause you can use it, right? Like it's not, yeah, it's not 30 or nothing.

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Like you can, you can send whatever.

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Yes.

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Venmo at KW South Valley or show up down there with a check.

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If you still got to check, if you still got to check, send us a picture of that thing, blur your numbers out and all that.

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But I want to see that because that's like a, that's an antique or something.

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This is a relic.

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I know it really is.

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I didn't, I'm like, what are people going to use? I think Venmo, a few, I've met a few people that don't use Venmo, not very many, that's what I'm saying.

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Or you could bring cash.

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Come to our office again, 4, 000 West, 114 South.

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We on the whole building, there's a lobby up on the second floor and there's a reception area right when you get up there and you can ask anyone, Hey, I've got money for red day or I've got money for duffel bags and you can turn it that way.

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Yep.

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There it is.

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And it's a charity write off, of course.

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And if your business, your office, your church group, your gym group, any group of friends you have, if you say, look, do you guys want to donate? Let's get.

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Three bags.

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Let's get 90 bucks.

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150 bucks, five bags.

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That would be incredible.

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I love that.

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Thank you so much, Robin, for jumping on with us.

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Robin Buckwalter, KW South Valley.

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Venmo, whatever money you got down there to KW South Valley.

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Help with Red Day.

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1, 200 kids going into foster care every day.

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They can't be walking around with trash bags, people.

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Come on.

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Let's get some money to them.

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Let's help out.

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Let's get them these teddy bears.

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Let's get them these bags.

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Thanks again.

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We appreciate you.

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Thanks for making a change out there.

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This is cool.

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We'll help you out.

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Thanks Blane.

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Thanks everybody.

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Listen, you gotta go out there and put 30 on that for Keller Williams, for Red Day, for the foster kids out there.

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Get in that bag, man.

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30 for that bag and a teddy bear and something that they can take with them and have a little sense that, hey, I'm human.

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30.

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Come on.

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Let's go to another hard hitting interview.

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Now, let me tell you something before we get into this.

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There is some pretty rough talk here in the sense of about domestic abuse, violence, that kind of stuff.

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If you hear this interview and it doesn't make you mad, sad, upset, stop listening now.

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Stop listening now because I don't think you've got a pulse, you don't have a heartbeat, and you shouldn't be listening to our show because Kyrie Blaney has got one of the most incredible stories.

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You've got to hear.

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This kind of stuff shouldn't be happening.

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Let's get to that.

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And Becks is in this interview.

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So stick around with us and, and, and, and then we'll be back out on the backside.

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Alright, let's bring her in.

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Kyrie Blaney, the Confident Mompreneur.

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I love that.

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Love it.

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I'm so excited she's finally joining us.

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Welcome.

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Welcome Kyrie.

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Yeah.

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Welcome to show.

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What's a mompreneur? Tell me what that is.

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I love that.

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A mompreneur.

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Uh, it's the mom that's doing everything.

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That's what I always tell people.

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It's the moms that are running businesses and.

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Raising babies all at the same time.

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I get it.

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I love it.

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That is awesome.

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Yeah, that is amazing.

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I was going to say you get it, Kyrie.

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I get it.

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Yeah.

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Well, tell us what, what, what, what journey, what led you to be a mompreneur and help others balance that personal and professional life? What made you want to do this for people? Well, obviously my own journey.

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I think that's usually where it starts and why we get into the things that we get into.

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Um, you know, being a mom, a young mom and working a job that just like wasn't fulfilling and wasn't a great environment to be working in.

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So I went back to school when my son was about a year and a half old.

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And as I was going to college, I ended up starting my own non profit at the same time too.

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And so it was a lot that I was trying to balance school and babies and businesses and all of the things and just realize how hard it is.

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Eating and eating and sleeping.

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That wasn't part of it, right? There was so much going on.

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And I think anybody who is a parent who is also doing all the things gets it.

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Yeah, for sure.

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That's very true.

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That is very true.

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So this started how, how many years ago did you say? So the Confident Mompreneur started about three years ago.

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Three years ago now.

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Okay.

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Yeah.

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And you've got, you've got multiple companies, right? Is that what I'm hearing? So I started a non profit and I ran that for about two years.

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Um, and so I helped a lot of other moms that were going to college.

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And it was a great experience.

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I did an entrepreneurship competition with it and won some award money and did a bunch of stuff.

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But then I went through some big personal changes and it was just too hard to balance everything all at the same time.

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So I took a step back from that one and I went fully in on the confident mompreneur.

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Gotcha.

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I love it.

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No, I know that you talk a lot because as we were talking before the show, you know, I have stocked your social media pages.

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It's great.

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I love your social and social is fantastic.

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Hey, what is your social real quick? Tell us what it is.

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The confident mompreneur.

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That's where I'm at everywhere.

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I love that.

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That's so good.

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It's so fun to watch you just in your element and with your family and just the gratitude that you have and just wholeheartedly being authentic to you.

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Like, look at me.

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I'm getting teary eyed because it really means so much to me.

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I'm like, Kyrie, we got to have her on the show.

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Um, but that being said, I wanted to dive into, you mentioned a little bit about your partner.

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Is that something that you wouldn't mind just kind of giving us a brief overview of what your story is, where you came from and how you got here? Yeah, it definitely had its big ups and big downs.

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I think like anybody kind of goes through.

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Um, so I started my non profit.

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I finished college.

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I did all of the things.

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Um, and during that time.

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Kind of unbeknownst to everybody around me.

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I was going through a abusive relationship and that was really difficult.

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And I was really, that was a big motivator for what I was doing so that I could get myself and my son out of that situation.

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And so I was finally able to do that and I went through a divorce, which when you're going through a divorce, it's hard enough.

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And then having And abusive spouse on the other end of it, very, very different.

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Yeah.

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And so that came with its own set of hardships.

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There was a lot of financial hardships, you know, mental abuse throughout the whole thing.

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There was a lot going on.

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And I was also going through my own transformation.

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I had been handling somebody else's emotions for such a long time that I forgot how to handle my own emotion.

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And so it's like this torrential downpour of emotional things that I was going through on top of the financial and everything.

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So it was a really difficult period of time.

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And then, um, I ended up having some health concerns kind of come up.

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I, uh, had a cancer scare and I always tell people mental health and your physical health are so tied together and my physical health started to go downhill because of my mental health.

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Um, My body was telling me I needed to slow down, I needed to rest, and you know, kind of recoup from everything that was going on.

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And so, I went through that, and then almost immediately after all of this, I went through a sexual assault and physical assault.

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Yeah, it was like one thing after another and then of course I went through the court process for my sexual lasted a full year This is she just she just told us the plot to like the the worst horror movie like ever like this is oh My gosh, this is you know, what? creates warriors Mm.

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Beyond truly.

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Mm.

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What did you, so what did you do to combat the, I wanna, I wanna find out what you did to combat the mental health issues.

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Yeah.

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Because to me that's one of the biggest things out there.

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Um, I think everybody's got something like they do.

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Um, and it's, it's, it's time to like, kind of let that rise to the surface and, and, and talk about that kind of stuff.

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What did you do to combat yours? Mental, your mental.

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Well, like he said, it's real life.

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Like, we all go through really tough, really hard things, and you know, it doesn't have to be the same things that I went through, and of course, I would never hope that anybody goes through any of the things that I went through, but You know, we all go through those really hard, really tough times, and I was not very good about, you know, reaching out, getting help, talking about what was going on.

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Um, so I was not a very good example of what to do in that situation.

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What do you, what do you think, what was keeping you from it though? Let me ask, what was, what was your, you know, stopping you there? Blane? Shame.

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A hundred percent shame.

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I think we all hold on to shame really, really deeply.

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And like you said, mental health, especially is not a topic that a lot of people really speak openly about.

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Um, and I'm trying to change that now, which is.

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Again, why I do what I do because I went through it and I felt so alone and I felt like I was never going to get out of that deep dark hole and I think a lot of people have been there.

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Um, it got to the point where, um, I actually ended up attempting suicide because I was so far deep in that hole and I didn't feel like I could get myself out of it.

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So that was where it really turned for me.

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Um, luckily I had my parents that were very supportive and, you know, part of that process and some friends that ended up calling the sheriff's office on me and the sheriff came into my home.

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Yeah, you can't be here alone.

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Um, we're taking you to the mental health facility.

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And so I was actually in there for a little bit and that's where things really started to look up for me.

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Wow.

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And I know on your podcast, and this is, you know, what I really love about what she does first and foremost, thank you for sharing that story.

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I want to acknowledge, those are all hard things and you just shared those very publicly.

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So thank you.

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I know that's not easy.

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I know it's what you do and probably why so many people relate to you, but it's not easy.

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So thank you.

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Um, Hey, you know what? And I'll throw this out there too.

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If you feel this way out there, and you're listening to this right now, NIMH, that's the, what is that, the National Institute of Mental Health.

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Go to the website and get help.

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They can call 988 now.

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988 gets you to the suicide and crisis lifeline.

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Do it now.

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Do it now.

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Somebody out there needs to hear that.

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Do it now because it's too much.

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You got too much.

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Even if you think you're at the bottom, you still got too much in you to throw it away.

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You So go get some help.

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I had to throw that out there.

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Let's get, let's talk about that podcast though.

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Sorry about that.

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Yeah.

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No, you're okay.

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And I appreciate you throwing that in.

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It's very important.

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Um, but you do feature a lot of, um, inspiring interviews.

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Can you tell us particularly like a memorable, you know, interview or experience on your podcast or guests that you've had that you'd like to share or touch on? Oh my gosh, I've done over a hundred podcast episodes now.

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So I've spoke to so many people.

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All incredible.

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Um, but anything is really impactful.

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Oh, sorry.

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Go ahead.

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Yeah.

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One of the ones that was most impactful for me kind of in that moment, um, I met with Dean Smith who talks about forgiveness and I was right in the middle of going through my court process for my sexual assault.

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And his story is incredibly powerful.

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If you haven't heard his story, you need to go listen to it.

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But for me during that moment, it wasn't about finding forgiveness for the man who did that to me, but rather forgiveness for myself.

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Because I think When you're in that situation, there's so much victim blaming and stuff going on in society that you automatically put the blame onto yourself.

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Um, and so there was a lot of shame for myself around, you know, like, should I have gone out on a date with this person? Should I have done this? Should I have done that? And so there was a lot of like, Self resentment there that I had to learn to forget like like you thought so oh my god, it's terrible So what i'm hearing is but it's almost you like blamed yourself.

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You were blaming yourself in some ways absolutely Uh, you know, like when you're in that situation it obviously like he was at fault there 100 but Especially when I was like going through the court process, I know it's their job, but the, the court on his side, um, was very victim blaming, like, you know, blaming me for going out on a date with this person, inviting him into my home, um, doing this, doing that, and that happens so often to survivors.

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And so, We automatically just put that blame on ourselves.

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It's like, well, maybe he's a, he was a good person and this was just like an outlier.

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Um, obviously going through the court process, I was like, this was such a violent act.

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I can't have been the first one that he did this to, but there, the other women that he did this to before obviously weren't able to step up and speak.

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And so that it happened to me and I wanted to kind of put that line down so that it couldn't happen to anybody else.

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And that was me the only one.

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Where's this guy at? Where's he at now? Where's he at now? He's in prison.

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That's what I hope to hear.

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We got found guilty on three felony counts of assault, um, which, which doesn't happen very often in these cases.

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So I was kind of one of very few that got a guilty on my case.

366
00:23:23,455.0361332 --> 00:23:29,185.0361332
Um, and still even with three felony counts of assault, he only got six to eight years in prison.

367
00:23:30,155.0361332 --> 00:23:32,365.0361332
So he'll be out doing it again somewhere like that's.

368
00:23:33,800.0361332 --> 00:23:34,10.0361332
Yeah.

369
00:23:34,10.1361332 --> 00:23:35,0.0361332
Repeat, repeat.

370
00:23:35,50.0361332 --> 00:23:35,620.0361332
I mean, yeah.

371
00:23:35,620.0361332 --> 00:23:37,110.0361332
They have to keep up, keep a watch on this.

372
00:23:37,110.0361332 --> 00:23:38,200.0361332
It's scary.

373
00:23:38,430.0361332 --> 00:23:59,280.0351332
Process though, like the strength that you have and that you found where, where did you dig? I mean, were you, was that prior to, were you in your facility and you had therapists and help and things through that process of your sexual assault or did the depression where on the timeline did that happen? Was it afterwards? So you had already found your.

374
00:24:00,185.0361332 --> 00:24:03,385.0361332
Coping mechanisms and things prior to that.

375
00:24:03,385.1361332 --> 00:24:07,745.0361332
So I, I was assaulted in March.

376
00:24:07,985.0361332 --> 00:24:10,325.0361332
I attempted suicide in June.

377
00:24:11,85.0361332 --> 00:24:18,165.0371332
Um, we, we didn't get the, uh, we didn't go to court until February of the next year.

378
00:24:18,975.0351332 --> 00:24:21,895.0351332
Um, we didn't get our guilty verdict until March.

379
00:24:23,105.0351332 --> 00:24:26,975.0351332
Um, yeah, it took a year, took a year, a whole process.

380
00:24:27,215.0351332 --> 00:24:29,845.0351332
Um, and so, no, I had.

381
00:24:30,775.0361332 --> 00:24:36,965.0361332
started the process, but I was still in the middle of going through it when I ended up in the site facility.

382
00:24:37,405.0361332 --> 00:24:43,15.0351332
And that was one of the best things that could have happened to me during that time, I think.

383
00:24:43,565.0351332 --> 00:24:43,925.0351332
Yeah.

384
00:24:43,985.0351332 --> 00:24:50,325.0351332
And I don't know if people talk about, like, actually having to go into a facility, but.

385
00:24:50,600.0361332 --> 00:24:54,660.0361332
It was, you know, like I had therapists available to me all the time.

386
00:24:54,660.0361332 --> 00:24:57,430.0361332
They set me up with a therapist outside of the ward.

387
00:24:57,830.0361332 --> 00:25:04,180.0361332
Um, when I got out, you know, I had other people around me that were going to, through very similar things.

388
00:25:04,350.0361332 --> 00:25:15,140.0361332
Um, so there was that kind of sense of community and understanding that I, I think when you're going through something like that, you assume that nobody understands what you're going through.

389
00:25:15,980.0361332 --> 00:25:19,490.0361332
And so it was nice to have those people around me who.

390
00:25:19,675.0361332 --> 00:25:21,165.0361332
I was like, okay, yeah, you get it.

391
00:25:22,595.0361332 --> 00:25:27,615.0361332
So it's one thing to go through that and you've got your advocates and you've got your support and your team.

392
00:25:27,865.0361332 --> 00:25:31,685.0361332
It's a very different thing to speak about that publicly.

393
00:25:31,685.0361332 --> 00:25:36,735.0351332
And where do you find that courage and that strength? Ooh, I just got the goose bump.

394
00:25:37,845.0351332 --> 00:25:40,455.0361332
That is so empowering what you do.

395
00:25:40,455.1361332 --> 00:25:41,845.0361332
So talk a little more about that.

396
00:25:41,845.1361332 --> 00:25:46,725.0361332
I mean, you even said that some of these women didn't step up when you did, and you were the one leading the charge.

397
00:25:46,725.0361332 --> 00:25:49,805.0361332
If I heard that correct, like that's crazy already to think that.

398
00:25:51,335.0361332 --> 00:26:01,725.0361332
They're too scared or whatever it may be Gets me amped up over it gets me mad for it does it does uh, you said something go ahead and answer that question Go ahead and answer.

399
00:26:01,725.0361332 --> 00:26:20,90.0361332
I'm, sorry No, it's fine and you're right, you know, like it it's kind of frustrating but at the same time like as a victim myself I get how scary it is to step up and say those things and especially like I said when you feel so alone when you're Questioning yourself and your judgment.

400
00:26:20,470.0361332 --> 00:26:38,60.0371332
Um, it's so easy not to go through with it, but also the reason why I do what I do is to help other people who are in that situation, not feel so alone, to know that there are other people out there who understand to show them that there's life after trauma.

401
00:26:40,250.0371332 --> 00:26:40,780.0371332
I love that.

402
00:26:40,790.0371332 --> 00:26:42,180.0371332
You said something earlier.

403
00:26:42,610.0361332 --> 00:26:43,760.0361332
Does still bother me though.

404
00:26:44,50.0361332 --> 00:26:45,540.0361332
And it's about the courts.

405
00:26:45,560.0361332 --> 00:26:50,640.0361332
And you said the other team had to fight for, you know, that they had to make you look whatever.

406
00:26:51,710.0361332 --> 00:26:52,290.0361332
And I get that.

407
00:26:52,290.0361332 --> 00:26:53,10.0351332
That's their job.

408
00:26:53,70.0361332 --> 00:26:58,180.0351332
But there's a lot of that in large portions of people in society.

409
00:26:58,180.0351332 --> 00:27:00,230.0351332
It's not just in the U S but all over the world.

410
00:27:00,430.0361332 --> 00:27:02,280.0356332
You got people saying, Oh, well, she shouldn't address that way.

411
00:27:02,280.0356332 --> 00:27:03,366.7361332
She, she deserved it.

412
00:27:03,366.7361332 --> 00:27:05,879.9361332
She asked for, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

413
00:27:05,880.0361332 --> 00:27:09,650.0361332
Never, never does anyone ask for a sexual assault.

414
00:27:09,960.0361332 --> 00:27:15,330.0361332
Like that's not, That's not condoned anywhere, but you got people out there who say those kinds of things.

415
00:27:15,360.0361332 --> 00:27:18,420.0361332
So it leaks into the court and that bothers me.

416
00:27:18,470.0361332 --> 00:27:19,610.0361332
It bothers me because it can't be like that.

417
00:27:19,610.1361332 --> 00:27:20,950.0351332
It shouldn't be like that.

418
00:27:22,680.0351332 --> 00:27:40,930.0361332
Well, and that's another big reason why i'm doing what i'm doing is to create change within the systems itself to make women feel Like they can Report these things, and that they're going to be listened to, that they're going to have a great team on their side, that they're going to get that guilty verdict, because right now, that's not, not the norm.

419
00:27:41,340.0361332 --> 00:27:41,990.0361332
It's true.

420
00:27:42,100.0361332 --> 00:27:42,870.0351332
It's not the norm.

421
00:27:42,870.1351332 --> 00:27:45,960.0351332
Most women, most women don't even report it.

422
00:27:46,140.0361332 --> 00:27:47,940.0351332
If they do, they aren't listened to.

423
00:27:48,510.0351332 --> 00:27:55,690.0361332
If they do happen to get a team that listens, To them and says, Hey, yeah, we actually do have enough evidence for this.

424
00:27:56,500.0361332 --> 00:27:58,780.0361332
They'll go through court and not get a guilty verdict.

425
00:27:59,360.0361332 --> 00:28:07,550.0361332
But with another girl that I was at an event, um, that we went through the same thing in practically the same timeline.

426
00:28:07,560.0361332 --> 00:28:09,300.0361332
It was about a month apart from each other.

427
00:28:09,960.0361332 --> 00:28:11,490.0361332
She got not guilty verdict.

428
00:28:13,750.0361332 --> 00:28:17,460.0361332
And how daggers had the soul when you.

429
00:28:18,140.0361332 --> 00:28:18,160.0361332
Yeah.

430
00:28:18,160.0361332 --> 00:28:22,120.0361332
And you have to repeat that story and repeat that story and repeat that story.

431
00:28:22,120.0361332 --> 00:28:24,0.0361332
You know, it's horrible.

432
00:28:24,990.0361332 --> 00:28:44,750.0361332
Well, and the court system itself is such a re victimization the whole way through, you know, like putting those intimate photos up in front of a group of strangers, you know, having to retell that story and look the person that did it to you in the You know, there's so much within that process.

433
00:28:44,750.0361332 --> 00:28:46,225.0361332
That's So hard.

434
00:28:46,505.0361332 --> 00:28:53,205.0361332
And then, like I said, even with me getting a guilty verdict, he only got six to eight years into including time served.

435
00:28:53,385.0351332 --> 00:28:56,95.0361332
He can get out on, you know, parole before that.

436
00:28:56,975.0361332 --> 00:29:11,95.0361332
So was the year that I went through that difficult time worth it? You know, myself in the process, quite literally, was it worth it? I have to ask.

437
00:29:11,925.0361332 --> 00:29:14,685.0351332
It's almost like that year you were imprisoned in that year.

438
00:29:15,755.0361332 --> 00:29:25,965.0351332
You know what I mean? You were, you were technically, you were technically imprisoned in that year yourself and that's Nowhere to live either You're supposed to be free.

439
00:29:26,105.0361332 --> 00:29:32,70.0361332
You're supposed to be, you know, living your best life as they say, but no you had to sit through that process.

440
00:29:32,570.0361332 --> 00:29:33,360.0361332
The system sucks.

441
00:29:33,360.0361332 --> 00:29:34,180.0361332
I'll tell you that right now.

442
00:29:34,650.0361332 --> 00:29:35,180.0361332
The system sucks.

443
00:29:35,210.0361332 --> 00:30:04,193.9796432
What are you doing? You didn't talk about, um, and I, you know, Kyrie, there, it's been broken and, and there's a lot about that, but I do want to dive into, you know, what are you doing for advocacy and how can we at Radio Daybreak and our listeners You know, here in the state of Utah and beyond, because we've got listeners, you know, kind of all over now, right, Blane? How can we help? What are we doing? How, how do we make a change? What do we do? So the safe project is a group I work with locally.

444
00:30:04,343.9796432 --> 00:30:06,703.9796432
They helped me through my entire court process.

445
00:30:06,743.9796432 --> 00:30:18,688.9806432
They were incredible um, but support groups like those whether it's the safe project itself or your local groups that help You know, domestic violence, sexual assault, anything like that.

446
00:30:19,218.9806432 --> 00:30:25,278.9806432
Um, we also need to speak up and make changes in the system itself.

447
00:30:26,28.9806432 --> 00:30:38,998.9806432
So, talk to your local, like, government employees, whether that's, you know, like, your senate, your reps, anything like that, your local, like, city people.

448
00:30:39,308.9806432 --> 00:30:41,598.9806432
They all need to be told that this is a problem.

449
00:30:42,618.9806432 --> 00:30:48,558.9806432
And you also need to believe survivors, regardless of whether there's a guilty verdict or not, believe survivors.

450
00:30:49,598.9806432 --> 00:30:51,728.9806432
Yeah, I love that.

451
00:30:52,38.9796432 --> 00:30:55,598.9806432
You got to absolutely do that because That's tough.

452
00:30:55,638.9806432 --> 00:31:01,98.9806432
If you get a not guilty then that person who Filed the charges then they look like they lied.

453
00:31:01,288.9806432 --> 00:31:11,398.9806432
I get that like that's It's not always true because it could have got tossed out on some stupid technicality that the system put in place and then It's it's messy.

454
00:31:11,428.9806432 --> 00:31:13,923.9806432
It's a messy Messy, messy situation.

455
00:31:14,463.9806432 --> 00:31:16,373.9806432
Um, one more question.

456
00:31:16,503.9806432 --> 00:31:16,993.8806432
Oh, go ahead.

457
00:31:16,993.9806432 --> 00:31:17,563.9806432
Go ahead, Becks.

458
00:31:17,663.9806432 --> 00:31:27,533.9796432
Oh, no, I, I really appreciate you diving into, you know, your story and a lot of the heavy, heavy parts, but I do want to transition just a little bit and tell me.

459
00:31:28,338.9806432 --> 00:31:38,508.9806432
You know, where are your life's at now and how that's changed for you and the positivity that you share on your social media page? And, you know, speak a little bit to that.

460
00:31:40,458.9806432 --> 00:31:40,938.9806432
Yeah.

461
00:31:41,8.9796432 --> 00:31:46,988.9796432
Uh, so since going through all of this, you know, it's kind of crazy how quick my life has turned around.

462
00:31:48,183.9806432 --> 00:31:55,23.9806432
I have really spent the last couple years focusing on myself and my mental health, and it shows.

463
00:31:55,873.9806432 --> 00:32:00,473.9806432
Um, you know, I have a great relationship now, uh, with my partner.

464
00:32:00,513.9806432 --> 00:32:03,553.9796432
I have great relationships with my family members and things.

465
00:32:03,593.9806432 --> 00:32:05,203.9796432
I travel all the time.

466
00:32:05,253.9796432 --> 00:32:06,348.8806432
I get to do this.

467
00:32:06,988.9806432 --> 00:32:17,878.9796432
And it's honestly so wonderful, but I attribute a lot of it to finding the support that I needed and really focusing on myself and my mental health.

468
00:32:19,58.9796432 --> 00:32:19,688.9806432
I love that.

469
00:32:19,688.9806432 --> 00:32:20,858.9806432
And that's what I was going to say.

470
00:32:20,858.9806432 --> 00:32:30,798.9806432
What advice do you have, you know, for listeners who are struggling or have had You know, some traumatic experiences in turning around their life.

471
00:32:30,798.9806432 --> 00:32:51,768.9806432
Like, was there a key, like, nugget, takeaway, like a mantra, if you will, that you kind of defined in those dark moments and that you could share? You know, I would just tell them that it's okay to, like, sit in your feelings with it for a little bit, but don't let it be forever.

472
00:32:52,178.9806432 --> 00:32:59,218.9806432
And make sure that you find the groups of people around you that are really gonna help you up and out of those situations.

473
00:32:59,218.9806432 --> 00:33:06,98.9796432
Cause I think the people that you surround yourself, especially when you're going through those hard things, is absolutely key.

474
00:33:06,428.9806432 --> 00:33:09,298.9806432
I couldn't have done it without those people around me.

475
00:33:09,643.9806432 --> 00:33:14,223.9806432
And, you know, take the time and space you need to work on your healing.

476
00:33:14,243.9806432 --> 00:33:21,773.9806432
For me, I completely quit what I was doing for like a year and a half while I was going through everything.

477
00:33:22,173.9806432 --> 00:33:31,183.9796432
And I think people, especially people in business are really afraid to do that, that they're going to lose all of the progress that they've made over that time.

478
00:33:31,893.9806432 --> 00:33:38,23.9806432
Honestly, it catapulted me forward when I came back and was like, Hey, I'm on my stuff.

479
00:33:38,33.9806432 --> 00:33:40,283.9806432
You know, I am ready to go.

480
00:33:40,303.9806432 --> 00:33:41,263.9796432
I am healed.

481
00:33:41,303.9806432 --> 00:33:48,793.9806432
I am like feeling like I have a story to share and a reason a why behind what I'm doing.

482
00:33:49,363.9796432 --> 00:33:51,273.9806432
And I have done so amazing.

483
00:33:51,293.9806432 --> 00:33:52,262.0002432
That's so great.

484
00:33:52,262.0002432 --> 00:33:58,393.9806432
So if we want to find more from you, it's the confident mompreneur.

485
00:33:58,394.0806432 --> 00:33:59,983.8806432
com.

486
00:34:00,863.9806432 --> 00:34:02,663.9806432
We didn't even talk about you got books on here.

487
00:34:02,963.9806432 --> 00:34:04,63.9806432
You got books on Amazon.

488
00:34:04,73.9806432 --> 00:34:08,273.9806432
You got how many books you got out there? So I have one book.

489
00:34:08,283.9806432 --> 00:34:24,143.9806432
It's called the confident businesswoman and it's a workbook that helps you go through and kind of figure out your why behind your business, setting it up for success from the beginning, you know, making sure that you're balancing work life with your actual life.

490
00:34:24,673.9806432 --> 00:34:27,633.9806432
And, um, then I also have my journal.

491
00:34:28,803.9806432 --> 00:34:29,893.9806432
Which is a daily panel.

492
00:34:29,973.9806432 --> 00:34:32,383.9806432
It has like a gratefulness practice in it.

493
00:34:32,443.9806432 --> 00:34:59,118.9806432
It has like priority list a habit tracker A bunch of different things in there and that's all available on amazon through your website You got some other stuff on here You got all kinds of I I want to uh plug your podcast one more time to the the confident mompreneur It says, uh, well, you can just tell us what's, what's that about? It says, welcome to a podcast that's designed to empower and inspire real women.

494
00:34:59,208.9806432 --> 00:34:59,758.9806432
I love that.

495
00:34:59,988.9806432 --> 00:35:01,948.9806432
Tell us more about that before we get out of here.

496
00:35:03,108.9806432 --> 00:35:06,458.9796432
And how often do you do this show? I know we already touched on a little bit earlier, but.

497
00:35:08,93.9806432 --> 00:35:20,83.9806432
Yeah, so I, I release new podcast episodes weekly every Wednesday and like you kind of said, it's a podcast to inspire real women and it's done by real women.

498
00:35:20,93.9806432 --> 00:35:27,703.9796432
So I love podcasts, but I always felt like the guests that they were bringing on were kind of like those unattainable.

499
00:35:28,588.9806432 --> 00:35:32,788.9806432
Idealistic people, you know, the celebrities and things like that, which is great.

500
00:35:32,828.9806432 --> 00:35:33,838.9806432
And I appreciate that.

501
00:35:33,838.9806432 --> 00:35:39,508.9806432
But I also want like real people with real real stories that I'm like, okay, yeah, I relate to that.

502
00:35:39,608.9806432 --> 00:35:41,178.9806432
I see where you're coming from.

503
00:35:41,428.9806432 --> 00:35:47,988.9806432
And you know, I see how they kind of went through that hard thing and came out on the other, other side better in some way.

504
00:35:48,318.9806432 --> 00:35:51,178.9806432
And so those are the stories that I really try and share.

505
00:35:51,918.9806432 --> 00:35:52,438.9806432
Love that.

506
00:35:52,458.9806432 --> 00:35:57,518.9806432
You can probably, you can find that on all major platforms, I'm assuming, right? Everywhere.

507
00:35:57,518.9806432 --> 00:35:58,58.9806432
Don't search for it.

508
00:35:58,358.9806432 --> 00:36:02,138.9806432
Search for the Confident Mompreneur podcast wherever you listen to pods.

509
00:36:03,578.9806432 --> 00:36:12,788.9806432
Hey, we, we appreciate having you on and yes, this has been so very much, this has been so awesome and thank Good, yeah, yeah, thank you.

510
00:36:12,908.9806432 --> 00:36:24,908.9806432
I mean, heartfelt, and I think that is what is so impactful and powerful about you and your story and everything that you touch, because you, as I start, when we started, I said, you are so authentic.

511
00:36:25,523.9806432 --> 00:36:32,513.9806432
And really, really appreciate that being vulnerable with all of those experiences is not always the easiest things.

512
00:36:33,283.9806432 --> 00:36:35,313.9806432
Thank you so much for being on the share on this.

513
00:36:35,833.9796432 --> 00:36:38,833.9806432
Thank you so much for being on the show and sharing your story.

514
00:36:40,113.9806432 --> 00:36:41,783.9806432
Thank you guys so much for having me.

515
00:36:41,783.9806432 --> 00:36:43,463.9806432
I was so excited when you reached out.

516
00:36:43,503.9806432 --> 00:36:45,683.9806432
So I, I really appreciate it.

517
00:36:45,983.9806432 --> 00:36:46,863.9806432
Yeah, absolutely.

518
00:36:46,993.9806432 --> 00:36:47,473.9806432
Anytime.

519
00:36:48,133.9806432 --> 00:36:48,733.9806432
Anytime.

520
00:36:48,733.9806432 --> 00:36:49,303.9806432
Truly.

521
00:36:49,313.9806432 --> 00:36:52,433.9796432
If you have a message, that is one thing before we go, we'll wrap.

522
00:36:52,593.9806432 --> 00:37:01,333.9806432
Um, do you, do you teach any workshops or anything like that, that we need to know about any upcoming events? I have lots of upcoming events.

523
00:37:02,393.9806432 --> 00:37:11,283.9806432
So the SAFE project that I just talked about is, uh, actually competing in a competition at the University of Wyoming.

524
00:37:11,283.9806432 --> 00:37:14,93.9806432
It's called the Spark Tank Competition.

525
00:37:14,473.9796432 --> 00:37:24,863.9806432
Um, so I'll be speaking on behalf of them about, you know, their role in everything that they did for me and, um, just what an amazing organization that they are.

526
00:37:25,353.9806432 --> 00:37:42,458.9806432
Um, I'm I am also doing a virtual summit which is called the Hike Like a Woman Summit, um, and I'll be talking about my mental health journey and kind of how the outdoors really helped me through that because I'm very outdoorsy.

527
00:37:42,608.9796432 --> 00:37:45,508.9806432
We were talking about some of the pictures from my glacier trip actually.

528
00:37:47,468.9806432 --> 00:37:54,198.9806432
Um, then I will also be doing a entrepreneurship competition at the University of Wyoming.

529
00:37:55,28.9806432 --> 00:38:00,898.9796432
I'll be speaking, um, at the judges panel and then I will also have a booth set up outside of it too.

530
00:38:01,768.9806432 --> 00:38:06,658.9796432
And you can come and see all of the cool students, uh, businesses that are up and coming.

531
00:38:07,149.0416746 --> 00:38:10,69.0416746
Oh man, Kerry Blaney, hard hitting.

532
00:38:10,909.0426746 --> 00:38:20,559.0426746
Let me tell you something though, that University of Wyoming, the thing she was talking about, where she go, where she was going to go and, um, get some scholarship money or whatever it was.

533
00:38:20,799.0426746 --> 00:38:21,489.0426746
She did it.

534
00:38:21,839.0426746 --> 00:38:22,219.0426746
She did it.

535
00:38:22,269.0426746 --> 00:38:23,928.9426746
I saw it posted on, on Instagram.

536
00:38:23,929.0426746 --> 00:38:25,789.0426746
Becks tracked me down.

537
00:38:25,789.0426746 --> 00:38:26,809.0426746
She's like, look at this.

538
00:38:27,279.0426746 --> 00:38:29,919.0426746
I think she got something close to 50 plus.

539
00:38:30,569.0426746 --> 00:38:32,399.0426746
Upwards of 50, 000.

540
00:38:32,829.0426746 --> 00:38:37,619.0426746
I'm really excited for her, proud for her, happy for her.

541
00:38:37,649.0426746 --> 00:38:39,609.0426746
I hope that goes far for her.

542
00:38:40,199.0426746 --> 00:38:42,589.0426746
Carrie, thank you so much for coming on the show today.

543
00:38:42,779.0416746 --> 00:38:47,859.0416746
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544
00:38:47,869.0436746 --> 00:38:48,819.0416746
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545
00:38:49,279.0426746 --> 00:38:50,649.0426746
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546
00:38:50,659.0426746 --> 00:38:51,909.0426746
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547
00:38:52,159.0426746 --> 00:38:53,289.0426746
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548
00:38:53,289.0426746 --> 00:38:55,759.0426746
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549
00:38:55,839.0426746 --> 00:38:56,419.0426746
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550
00:38:56,479.0426746 --> 00:38:57,109.0426746
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551
00:38:58,319.0426746 --> 00:38:59,309.0426746
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552
00:38:59,309.0426746 --> 00:38:59,909.0426746
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