The One Unveiling Life's Warrior Within w/ Michelle Orton (Audio Only)

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Oh, yes.

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Oh, yes, Becks.

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We're here.

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And if you, if you see, if you're
watching, here is at Biscott's.

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You know where you're at if
you're a Daybreaker, right?

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You got it.

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Yes.

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Right here at the Hub at Biscott's.

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Thanks to Prakash for having us out here.

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Now, we're doing things a little
bit different this time, though.

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Yeah.

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Because our guest on today's
show actually showed up.

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She's here.

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She showed up to the DBC today.

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Yes, she did.

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At Biscott's, at Prakash's place.

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Yes.

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I want to make an announcement, though,
because the DBC, the Daybreak Business

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Community, we're moving next week.

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That's right.

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We're at Harman's upstairs.

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Yes.

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So, come out there.

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Daybreak Harman's, North Shore, upstairs,
we'll be in the, uh, what did we decide?

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Southwest corner.

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That's it.

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Second floor.

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So that's 1pm on Wednesday, April
the, what is it, April the something.

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I don't know.

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First Wednesday in April.

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I don't have a date.

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First Wednesday.

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First winter.

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First Wednesday, first winter.

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But today's guest is Michelle Orton.

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Yes.

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Related to, related to Randy Orton.

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We established that in the,
in the, in the interview.

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Michelle, what's your website again?

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It's Michelle, M I C H E L L E
Orton, O R T O N slash RealCoaching.

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com.

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There it is.

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Awesome.

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We'll make sure that link is in there.

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Thank you.

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I, we don't normally do this.

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We don't talk to our guests.

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After we've already interviewed our guest.

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I feel elevated, you know?

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But I love it because
This is a throw down.

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It's the Randy.

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Yeah, that's right.

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What's your wrestling name?

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You got a wrestling name out there?

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Oh my gosh.

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What would it be?

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Thrasher.

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Thrasher.

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I want to be a Thrasher.

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Thrasher.

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Just destroy, eliminate,
and you know, Thrasher.

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I'm coming out of the ashes.

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Wreck everything and leave.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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What would yours be, Becks?

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Oh my gosh.

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I don't even know.

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Oh, come on.

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Dig deep.

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Come on.

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Get one.

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Dig deep.

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Ooh.

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Bone Crusher?

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The Bone Crusher!

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Alright!

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We got the Bone Crusher
and Thrasher out here.

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Nice!

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Alright, this has been great.

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Oh my gosh.

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But now Wait, you didn't
give us your wrestling.

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Oh, But I was actually a pro
wrestler, so I I know, but what's

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your I went by Blaze, I was Blaze.

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I was the Hollywood Psycho.

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Alright!

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The Hollywood Psycho Blaze.

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I came out in, in, not your normal tights.

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I came out in prison garb and I usually
had a policeman escort me to the ring.

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Well, see, I'm a little, I'm a smaller
dude, so I wasn't interested in wrestling

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six foot five, these guys, these giants.

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So I had to come out there
with a different character.

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Well, I wasn't blazing at the time.

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I came out in like prison
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It was wild.

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420.

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So yeah, no, yeah, exactly.

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Wasn't that kind of Blaze?

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Not yet.

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That was later on in life.

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But that was my wrestling name.

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Let's get to this interview
before we keep talking about this.

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Goodness.

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Thank you.

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Just Blane: All right Becks.

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We're here with our guest Michelle
Orton She says it she's a related to

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Randy Orton a professional wrestler.

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You guys just had dinner the
other night you say, right?

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We

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Michelle Orton: did.

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It was a throw down.

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It was successful.

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Just Blane: I

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Michelle Orton: love it.

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I love it.

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I got to know who won out of that.

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Yeah.

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Right.

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Just Blane: So, so Michelle.

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What I hear from Becks is
that you're a trauma coach.

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Now there's, is that what, is that right?

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Michelle Orton: What is it?

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Correct.

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Well, I am a life coach, a trauma coach,
a relationship coach, and a grief coach.

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Okay, so

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Just Blane: hold on.

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I got to stop you right there
because there's, I thought

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that was all the same thing.

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You're telling, is that different?

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Absolutely.

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Tell me the differences.

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I want to hear about that.

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Michelle Orton: Well, first of all,
life is going to take in all of those

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elements and to go to one coach that
can handle everything that life is going

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to throw at you, I think is a benefit.

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So being a life coach, maybe you're just
having a little bit of bumps and bruises.

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You just need a little bit of improvement,
some guidance, some accountability.

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You're just wanting to
navigate a little bit.

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Then you come to me.

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If you want something a little
bit more, then we go into trauma.

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Trauma is something of
the heavier, deeper stuff.

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Divorce, childhood trauma, you know,
something that really rattled your

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cage and took you down to your ashes.

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And then we help you kind of
rise from that and understanding

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what trauma does to your brain.

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And then grief is A sacred space that I
love to walk with, um, because I don't

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think it needs to be as heavy and sad and
as overwhelming as we make great grief.

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It's a beautiful transition and
if we honor it the right way,

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um, it honors our loved one,
whoever passed on the right way.

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And then I teach them what it does to
their brain and how it rewires your brain.

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And then relationships, because
relationships are hard as hell.

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Just Blane: But all kinds though, right?

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We're not just talking about
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with your significant other.

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You're talking about business
relationships, all types

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of relationships, right?

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They are.

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They're all

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Michelle Orton: hard.

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Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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If you have to talk to a human,
you're in a relationship.

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Yeah.

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Just Blane: Hey, I use a lot of,
I use a lot of AI and I feel like

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I'm in a relationship with it.

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Sometimes when you're chatting back
and forth, it's hey, That's a whole

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other, that's a whole other topic.

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Don't get me started on the AI stuff.

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So

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Becks: maybe AI coach is the next thing.

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Michelle's on

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Michelle Orton: the list.

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I'll be a real life AI that has feelings,
emotion, compassion, and knowledge.

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And, um, a little bit of empathy.

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So yes, but thanks for welcoming
and letting me be a part Becks.

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I really appreciate this opportunity
to shed some light on what.

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It means to be a coach because it is
totally separate than a therapist and

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I think that so many layers to coaching
and it gets kind of Misunderstood.

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So, yeah.

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And I know,

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Becks: yes.

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And exactly with that being said, I know,
you know, we were being lighthearted

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earlier, but what you do is actually
life changing for, for a lot of people.

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And I want you to dive in.

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I know that there's a story of a homeless
man that you actually coached, and I

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want you to just share that story briefly
with us and the impact that you had

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Michelle Orton: in his life.

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Oh, it is such a great story.

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Thanks for letting me share it.

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So I was had the opportunity.

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I lived in St.

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George at the time, and I was volunteering
at their, their homeless shelter.

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And every week I taught a life skills
class just to help them get back and

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basic information to when they're
coming out of prison or out of a rehab

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and they just need a little bit more,
so this guy, he comes to my class.

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And he was very enthusiastic.

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He was raising his hand,
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He was participating.

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He was phenomenal.

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And he came up at the very end.

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He says, so you're a coach.

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And I said, yes.

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And he said, I'd like to hire you.

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And I said, I don't
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Well, I just got off
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I have And that's all I have.

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Just Blane: He had, hold on, that cut
out right there, I want to hear that.

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He had what?

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Michelle Orton: 52 cents.

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52 cents.

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And, um, I said, you can't afford me.

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I said, so you're going
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And so I know what they had to do
during the week to live at the shelters.

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There's certain chores and
community service and helping

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stock the kitchen and cleaning.

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And you have to go out and
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And so I said, you have to do
double what everyone else does.

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And then come back and talk to me.

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So he came back in two weeks and he showed
me his little card and he doubled it.

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And he, and I hire you now.

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And I says, well, do you have more money?

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And he says, no, I only have 52 cents.

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And I says, okay, well, this is
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coaching I've ever done.

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Wow.

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So I did the coaching and during the
process, what I think this really

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catapulted my career is because I
figured out what people really need.

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He lost who he was because when you move
the system and you become just a number.

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Throughout our society in throughout
history where people become just a number

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or a mark and and that gets ripped away
from him So I asked him who he was and

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he says well, I was an inmate, you know
Drug addict I committed this crime and

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I says no those are things you did.

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Who are you?

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Yeah, I want to know who you are
and so really when we started to dig

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in and he understood that he has an
identity and he understood that he had

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worth and he understood that I saw him
as a complete human with potential.

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And then finally one day we're
probably about four sessions into it.

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And I said, who are you?

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And he said, you know what?

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I'm real.

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Everything.

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And he said, and I, And I
want to start a company.

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And I said, awesome.

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What's the name of your company?

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And he said, his company was
called, wow, world of wines.

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And he wanted to own a wine tasting
company and he wanted to travel to

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Italy and he wanted to get a degree.

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And that's what his goal was.

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And I said, okay, this moment forward,
every time somebody says, who are you?

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Or what do you do?

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You own that title that you
are the owner of this company.

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So how would you walk?

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How would you dress?

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And I said, I want you to put
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Skip forward six years.

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He graduated with a master's degree.

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He owns a restaurant in
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He has a room called Wow, and
he did end up getting a table.

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So it just reminded me at the beginning
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want is to understand who they are.

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Without labels.

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And as soon as he understood that he
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then he can step into something that he
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And I'm super, super proud of him.

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Just Blane: That's awesome.

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So, so when you help redefine somebody's
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doing, you're redefining their identity,
helping them see their true identity.

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When he said real, I get that.

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I understand it.

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You're not just approaching this
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It's more of a, you're looking at it.

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Each individual and you're
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what they're looking for.

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And it's not you just going
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Michelle Orton: I love that.

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You said that.

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Absolutely.

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They're individuals and everyone is
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And so everyone who comes, that's why
I like to have diversity in my coaching

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because everyone's needs and what
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or handling or, you know, debunking
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Becks: And remind me, Michelle, you've
been doing this for how many years?

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Have you been

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Michelle Orton: coaching now?

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18, almost 19.

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It'll be 19 years this summer.

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So it's, it's a career that I've been
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loved and sitting in this seat and I
feel very humbled and honored that I've

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got to help so many people, which more
honestly, they helped me every time.

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Coaching.

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I'm like, oh yeah, I needed
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listen, but I really needed that.

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So apparently I, in therapy or
coaching for 18 and a half years.

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But yes, so when coaching started
to become really popular a couple

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of years ago, I'm like, what?

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I worked so hard.

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I got my certification, um, through
a program at Stanford and, and

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I've had learning ever since.

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I've never stopped taking classes and.

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So these little weekend coaching
courses that they take and become

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a coach just drives me crazy.

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But I love that anyone is willing to
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So I love that that's available,
but I do think that it's important

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that there is kind of some really
solid anchoring to their education in

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order to help people the right way.

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Go ahead, Becks.

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Just Blane: Go ahead.

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No, you've got it.

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I was just going

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Michelle Orton: to say,

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Becks: and you've done a lot in those
18 years with your, with your coaching.

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I, um, wanted to touch on just
a little thing about, uh, TEDx.

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You had a TEDx talk.

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Michelle Orton: I did.

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I, I didn't know you knew that.

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So I did.

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So yes, I did.

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I was privileged enough to be able
to stand on a TEDx stage in St.

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George.

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It was one for women and what
women have overcome and trauma

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that women have gone through.

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And I was able to tell my story
about overcoming childhood trauma.

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And it was a incredible experience
to share the stage with a whole bunch

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of powerful women, but that was,
oh, probably eight, nine years ago.

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It was, it was, it was very
intimidating, but very exciting.

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And it was an amazing opportunity
to, to shed light on something

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that was a, uh, a dark shadow in my
past and make it be something light

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and bright, which you can trauma.

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Um, so when you own the story.

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And share the story and you see how
it changes somebody else's light.

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It makes that dark theme a little
bit less dark and it just gleams

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a little bit of hope for somebody
else, which makes trauma light.

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No, I really love

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Becks: that.

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We, as you know, had the
international women's day,

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Michelle Orton: um, yes.

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Yes,

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Becks: you did so great, kudos to
you, um, but Blane and I have been

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continuing our shows, you know, with,
with females and kind of continuing

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that, um, through this month.

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And earlier this month we talked to
another guest who had had some very

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traumatic experiences as well and had
to discuss that and even publicly, which

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was very challenging with the situations
that she went through and really kudos

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to you for doing that because so many
more women Need to hear those stories.

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And I won't say just women, individuals.

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Just Blane: Oh, we lost her.

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Oh, let's just, we'll, we'll
just let her stop right there.

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And then I've been bringing her back in.

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I don't know what's happening
with her connections.

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So hang tight.

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Michelle Orton: Okay.

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Sorry guys, my internet

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Just Blane: today.

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I know.

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Just pick right back up right there.

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And we'll, I'll splice

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Michelle Orton: it.

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Becks: Individuals
really need to hear that.

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And the power that comes from
those stories that, you know,

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they see somebody else who have
gone through those moments and it

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Michelle Orton: gives them hope.

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Yeah.

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I think that's

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Becks: a big part of that trauma and
therapy and, you know, moving forward

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is they see that others can do it.

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And it gives them, even if it's
just a little bit of hope in those

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Michelle Orton: Very dark

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Just Blane: times.

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Yeah.

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Now I got to ask you something
no big, cause you said you've

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been doing this for 19 years.

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Is that what you said?

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19?

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So in almost two decades, you do a
great job balancing the differences in

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the types of coaching, but how do you
listen to these stories for 20 years

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and, and, and keep yourself balanced
and not fall into, Oh my God, that's

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the worst thing I've ever heard.

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You know what I mean?

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Like it's gotta be.

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Taxing at some point on you mentally
to hear a lot of this stuff.

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How do you cope with that?

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You know, that

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Michelle Orton: is a question that
I get quite often and it's something

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that I actually teach my clients and
it's something I had to teach myself.

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So when.

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I enter into a coaching.

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I have kind of like a routine or a ritual
just like if you were a pro athlete, you

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know I'm like, you know my cousin right
and I so Like if you go into the ring The

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ring and so when I go into my office, I
have a spot and I tap it and then actually

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it's right here I hold this, this rock
and I put everything in here, all the

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energy, good, bad, positive, whatever it
is, I hold it in there and I sit in that

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space with them and whatever that is.

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And when I'm done, I tap the wall and I
give it all to the rock and I literally

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walk out and I'll see somebody on the
street and they're like, Oh, do you

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remember when we talked about that?

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And I'm like, Nope.

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Um, my rock will, but I have learned just
to say, Separate and use certain tools.

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So I use the rock, I use the tapping.

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Sometimes I use music.

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I do need to decompress after some
of the heavier ones and to honor what

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emotions that are coming into my body.

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So this is the sensation
my body's feeling.

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This is the emotion I'm feeling.

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And then I tell myself,
well, what do I want?

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I want to hold it for them or I want to
release it or I need to journal it or I

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need to do something, but I'd use a tool
and it takes me three to five minutes

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depending on what the situation is.

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But I've just become accustomed
to it and it's a privilege.

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It's really a privilege to heal
people's stories because like you

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talked about stories is what connects.

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Since the beginning of time they would
sit around a campfire and then they

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would write the stories on cave walls.

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And then there's bonnets and
songs and plays and music.

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It's, it's connection.

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So I just feel honored that
someone wants to connect and

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they trust me and they feel safe.

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So I just have a little system
and it works and it's beautiful.

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And

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Just Blane: did, did you come up with that
or, or did that get passed down to you?

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Like how did you come up with.

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With that for you, you know,

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Michelle Orton: tell you truth.

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I I read a story about this guy He had
a very stressful job and when he came

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home his wife was complaining about
How negative he was and how hard he

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was to have dinner with and he was just
grumpy and honoring She says can't you

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just leave the stuff at the front door?

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And he's like, you know what you're
right So every day when he came

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home from work, he'd say I'm just
leaving the stuff at the front door.

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And he tapped the front door and
I'm like, and he said it worked.

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It was just an article I read.

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And I said, does that really work?

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And it does.

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And so I decided to follow suit and I
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and I just leave it there and it holds it.

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And when I tap it, I can
feel it come back into me.

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So something I learned probably 15
years ago, I didn't know how to hold all

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this energy and emotions from people.

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So I was really grateful that
I read this story and, and

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adapted this one simple tool.

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That's incredible.

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Just Blane: So if you pan the camera
over right now to that spot, 15

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years of tapping, I bet there's like
a giant hole in the wall, right?

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Like just,

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Michelle Orton: Well, I know
the emotion there, right?

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Just Blane: Exactly.

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So I'm saying that's what I'm saying.

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Yeah.

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It's gotta be just a giant, just a,
It's been patched a bunch or she's got

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like a just pure concrete over there.

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Oh my gosh.

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Michelle Orton: I've had
to move every two years.

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I just knocked down the walls.

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I've moved 32 times.

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And, and that's the true
reason because I just shattered

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Just Blane: walls.

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She's she's moved 32 times back.

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She just missed that because your
internet dropped out again, but it's okay.

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32 times because she keeps
knocking the walls down.

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That's what she said.

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Oh my gosh.

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Michelle Orton: I bet, Michelle.

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Oh my word.

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Just Blane: Hey, Michelle.

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Michelle Orton: I'll just keep
knocking walls down with people.

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Just Blane: This has been incredible.

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First of all, where can we find you?

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Yeah.

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Before we let you go.

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Michelle Orton: So, my website or my
Michelle Orton dash real coaching.

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com.

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And you can find me there.

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And, uh, my phone number is,
you can give that out also.

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It's 435 215 3013.

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Just Blane: Alrighty.

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We appreciate this.

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Becks, you got anything else for her?

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Becks: I don't.

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Do you have anything else that you would
like our listeners to hear, Michelle,

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anything upcoming or exciting or?

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Michelle Orton: Yeah, absolutely.

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So I am excited this summer.

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I am hosting what's called warrior
weekends and they are going to

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be, um, retreats, but they're
different than normal retreats.

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Retreats.

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I love.

493
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It's usually where you go and you get
pampered and you get to be cocooned

494
00:21:34,969 --> 00:21:38,079
and you get your old blanket and
do your yoga and do your breathing.

495
00:21:38,509 --> 00:21:40,699
And it's really important
to have that sacred space.

496
00:21:40,729 --> 00:21:45,324
But this is not, if you want,
Mine is a warrior weekend.

497
00:21:45,324 --> 00:21:46,904
It's like survivor weekend.

498
00:21:46,914 --> 00:21:47,734
You're going to learn.

499
00:21:48,614 --> 00:21:49,514
Real life.

500
00:21:49,984 --> 00:21:51,344
Here's a bug out bag.

501
00:21:51,364 --> 00:21:52,994
We're going to test your skills.

502
00:21:52,994 --> 00:21:57,424
We're going to face all of your fears
and we're going to level you up.

503
00:21:57,464 --> 00:21:58,414
I want you to rise.

504
00:21:58,444 --> 00:22:01,294
I want you to walk through fear
and come out the other side.

505
00:22:01,294 --> 00:22:05,324
So when we go through something
hard, like the pandemic or something

506
00:22:05,324 --> 00:22:09,884
in your life hits you, you're like,
Hey, I, I know how to rise up.

507
00:22:09,914 --> 00:22:13,404
I know how to handle
this because I just want.

508
00:22:13,494 --> 00:22:14,304
I've done hard.

509
00:22:14,934 --> 00:22:22,464
72 hours where I chose to sit in the
hard and I chose to go through it

510
00:22:22,884 --> 00:22:27,524
the best of my ability and so we're
going to have these going to be June,

511
00:22:27,524 --> 00:22:31,754
July, and August and part of September
I have this beautiful property

512
00:22:31,784 --> 00:22:33,964
that is up near Lava Hot Springs.

513
00:22:35,204 --> 00:22:39,144
Learn survival skills, but there's
also going to be interesting things

514
00:22:39,144 --> 00:22:43,234
like the plants, the municipal, you
know, what you can do with plants, how

515
00:22:43,234 --> 00:22:47,734
to eat them, body paint, tie dye, but
you're also going to learn how to throw

516
00:22:47,834 --> 00:22:52,604
axe and tie knots, and then there's
going to be amazing coaching individual

517
00:22:52,614 --> 00:22:57,839
group, um, but if you've seen the movie
Survivor, That's what my camps are.

518
00:22:57,839 --> 00:23:02,139
So it's absolutely a phenomenal summer.

519
00:23:02,399 --> 00:23:08,499
We're going to have relationship ones,
trauma, ones, grief ones, and just

520
00:23:08,519 --> 00:23:12,159
regular life just helped you handle life.

521
00:23:12,199 --> 00:23:13,839
So that's my exciting summer.

522
00:23:13,929 --> 00:23:15,759
I'm a super, super excited about it.

523
00:23:15,999 --> 00:23:17,219
Just Blane: I love that now survivor.

524
00:23:17,259 --> 00:23:19,969
That's not the one where the last person.

525
00:23:21,244 --> 00:23:22,804
Living gets all the money.

526
00:23:22,804 --> 00:23:23,064
Is it?

527
00:23:23,064 --> 00:23:25,074
That's not a, one of those
battle royale type movies.

528
00:23:25,834 --> 00:23:29,044
Michelle Orton: Yeah, we're going
to battle, but I want everyone to

529
00:23:29,074 --> 00:23:32,984
not survive because I don't like the
word survive because survive means

530
00:23:32,984 --> 00:23:36,314
you just like crawling across the
line and you're still breathing.

531
00:23:36,344 --> 00:23:38,114
I want you to be victorious.

532
00:23:38,174 --> 00:23:42,674
I want you to know that you've won
and you, and you've become a warrior.

533
00:23:42,939 --> 00:23:46,569
And you are living in this
different state of being victorious.

534
00:23:46,589 --> 00:23:50,939
So that's what our survivor camps going
to be is to get you out of survivor

535
00:23:51,059 --> 00:23:54,009
mode and get you into warrior mode.

536
00:23:54,619 --> 00:23:54,959
And

537
00:23:54,969 --> 00:23:58,129
Becks: information on that can
be found at Michelle Orton dash

538
00:23:58,669 --> 00:23:59,389
Michelle Orton: real coaching.

539
00:23:59,879 --> 00:24:00,179
com.

540
00:24:00,549 --> 00:24:01,829
That is coming.

541
00:24:01,849 --> 00:24:05,979
Um, we're still building the website
and the landing page, but it will be

542
00:24:05,979 --> 00:24:11,029
announced on my website when I get
completed, hopefully in about two weeks.

543
00:24:11,409 --> 00:24:11,599
Awesome.

544
00:24:12,374 --> 00:24:12,944
Becks: So excited.

545
00:24:12,944 --> 00:24:13,634
We'll be watching

546
00:24:13,634 --> 00:24:14,034
Just Blane: for that.

547
00:24:14,044 --> 00:24:14,294
Yeah.

548
00:24:14,334 --> 00:24:15,414
Thanks so much, Michelle.

549
00:24:15,514 --> 00:24:15,764
Yeah.

550
00:24:16,384 --> 00:24:17,854
Becks: So great to have you on the show.

551
00:24:17,864 --> 00:24:22,174
Thank you so very much for sharing
and, and diving into those, you know,

552
00:24:22,204 --> 00:24:25,434
sometimes tough topics for people
to talk about and do what you do.

553
00:24:25,434 --> 00:24:26,314
It's fantastic.

554
00:24:26,344 --> 00:24:27,154
Blane, what did you

555
00:24:27,164 --> 00:24:27,704
Michelle Orton: have to add?

556
00:24:27,944 --> 00:24:28,364
That's it.

557
00:24:28,384 --> 00:24:28,804
We're good.

558
00:24:29,514 --> 00:24:30,594
Thank you, Michelle.

559
00:24:30,924 --> 00:24:31,874
I appreciate it.

560
00:24:31,904 --> 00:24:33,514
Thank you very much for having me.