The One All About Love w/ ’Soul Coach’ Rachel Cox Taylor

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We just came off of that crazy interview
with Santa last week, Bex.

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I can't believe, like, did you see the
international stories?

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The news?

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It got picked up in the North Pole.

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It got picked up all the way to the South
Pole.

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Everywhere in between.

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It was fantastic.

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We had some insider info on Santa.

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So how could it not?

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It's wild, but look, we're at the end of
the year, but it's never too early to

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start looking at next year.

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So I don't want to look back at last year,
even though all the interviews were

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fantastic, I'm ready to look at 2024.

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Okay, okay.

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You always hear about New Year, new you.

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We're about to take that up a notch today
with our guests.

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Well Blaine, you know, I've actually
noticed something about you these past

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couple of weeks.

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Oh yeah?

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Yeah, it's almost like something different
about you.

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Like you're almost glowing or you know,
something's different.

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Something is different.

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We're about 45 seconds into the show.

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You haven't ranted yet.

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I mean, this is progress.

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That's true.

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Listen, there is.

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something different about me.

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I did a session with a love coach.

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You hear of life coaches?

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This was an amazing love coach.

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I don't have anything to rant about.

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That's how I feel, Bex.

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So you know something has changed in me.

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Oh my word.

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It is the most stressful time of the year.

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That's something to be said.

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That's true.

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So this got me through the holidays.

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It had me buzzing.

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I even was telling people about this, but
I had a session with Rachel.

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Cox Taylor.

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Yeah.

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The love coach.

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Now, before we bring her in, first of all,
I just gotta say, you know what?

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I love you, Rachel.

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I love you, Bex.

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Oh, Rachel, that's so sweet.

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I love myself.

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And no, I haven't listened to the Fresh
King Benjamin and started going to the

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polygamist company.

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That's not what I'm talking about here.

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So before people get all crazy out there,
that's not what I'm talking about when I'm

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talking about loving people.

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Rachel Cox Taylor is with us.

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And- Yes.

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I'm going to do something to start this
interview off a little different than

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normal.

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Okay.

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I've done this session.

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I want, Miss Rachel, I want you to come in
and center us.

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Can you help us through a breathing
session like you did with me and center us

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and get us where we need to be?

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I sure can.

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And thank you so much for bringing the
love, Blaine.

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You definitely have it.

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So thank you.

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Yes.

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Let's go ahead and you trust me.

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Be what you're willing.

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Take a minute and put your hand over your
heart.

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Okay.

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And close your eyes.

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And listen to the sound of my voice.

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Just notice what you're feeling in your
body right now.

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If you're feeling worried or stressed or
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than being here right now.

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Notice your hand on your heart.

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And feel it beating.

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your life.

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and start to listen to your breath.

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Feel and listen.

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And on your next breath, I want you to do
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I want you to breathe in love and take one
of the deepest breaths you've taken in

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your day this far.

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and feel the fullness of your lungs, the
feeling of love.

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And on your next release, I want you to
focus on releasing and allowing yourself

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to let go of any fears, any doubts, any
worries, any thoughts of lack that don't

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serve you.

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Let them all go in that breath outward.

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Breathe in hope.

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Release doubt.

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Breathe in allowance and being free to be
you.

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and breathe out any feelings that you need
to control, what you can't control.

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Letting go of the feeling that you have to
be a certain way to please someone or

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something other than the feelings in your
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Breathe in, feel the love.

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Breathe out, release the fear.

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You are the love that you feel.

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And when you feel ready, go ahead and open
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Being centered and present for you here
now for you.

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Now that's amazing.

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That's amazing.

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Do you not feel good?

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Bex feels so good.

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Are you centered?

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Yes.

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And you can do that any time that you
desire to come back to yourself because

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during our day, we get caught up in our
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thoughts and our worries, our hearts beat
faster, we start to worry about things and

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we start to become someone who we're not.

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We put on a show, we put on a face, we get
angry, we get frustrated, we get

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overwhelmed and that's not you.

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I really appreciate that we actually
started there because that gives us an

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insight and like we're ready to receive,
right?

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now what you have to say.

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So I just wanted to say that, I felt
prompted to say that.

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So yes, Rachel, please dive deeper into
what this is.

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I wanna dive a little deeper in your
comment.

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You said we're ready to receive what I
have to say, but I wanna take that deeper

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and say, you're ready to receive what your
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already knows, because what happens is we
get in our heads.

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and we're no longer guided by our hearts.

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And taking the time to come back to your
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you want.

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The love, the joy, the answers that you're
looking for, the guidance, it will bring

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you everything.

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But you have to take the time to go there.

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I like what you hit earlier with.

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people are looking for the answers.

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We're all looking for the answer.

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In the wrong place.

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Yeah, the questions might be different for
people, but we're all looking for an

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answer out there.

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How did you come up with this answer for
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Like, what was the inspiration?

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Why are you doing this?

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I went through a dark night of the soul,
like I think most people experience at

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some point in their life.

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You know, where you're really searching
for answers.

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I was going through a faith transition.

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I didn't know where to turn.

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And in my searching, all of it led me back
to my heart and to love.

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I didn't know what I could turn to.

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And the question that I asked is, well,
what can I hold on to?

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And in that moment, clearly into my mind
came love.

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It's the one thing you can hold on to.

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Love.

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When all of my doubts, when I didn't have
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stand on.

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I knew love and then it got deeper because
then the answers really started coming.

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And then when I got quiet and began to
listen, the answer was you are love.

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Oh wow.

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Rachel, I'm going to ask a big question
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You know what's coming.

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I'll keep it simple for everyone.

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What is love?

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Like define it.

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Tell me what it is.

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And I know everybody out there just
thought about that song.

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The what is love?

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No, no, no.

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Maybe don't hurt me.

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Yes, don't hurt me.

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But no, tell us.

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I can't look up how many times that's
coming to my head with that question.

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Thank you.

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I love it.

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What is love?

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Well, it's not what most people think it
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I think a lot of people are misled.

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When I got married to my husband, you've
probably heard the phrase, oh, you found

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your other half.

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And that hurt me in my marriage because I
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Mm-hmm.

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But if I am love, love is whole.

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It is complete.

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Love is allowing things to be as they are.

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It is acceptance.

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It is expansion.

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Love is always growing.

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There's always enough.

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It is abundant.

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It is giving.

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It is including.

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It is because.

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It is coming.

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It is believing.

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It is kindness.

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Love is believing that everything is
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That even the bad stuff in life, there's a
reason for it and you can see a gift in

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that moment.

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Whereas fear, fear makes you want to
contract.

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It makes you want to hide and be small.

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It makes you want to control.

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Like, I gotta control the situation so we
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Love doesn't do that.

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Love shows up and says, hey, I'm here.

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And I'm here to give what I have to give
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what's meant to be there.

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It's not having the mask on, it's being
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Fear is having the mask on and trying to
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and controlling and not allowing.

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I think the biggest thing that I always
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Do I feel expansive?

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Do I feel like I'm seeing things from a
higher plane and I'm seeing that there is

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some gift in this?

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That's what love does.

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It doesn't label.

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There's no labels in love.

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So does that kind of give you an idea?

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Oh, yeah.

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Oh, I love it.

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Okay.

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Amazing.

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I'll add to it.

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Love is everywhere.

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Love is universal.

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And I don't just mean universal here in
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I mean, universe.

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That type of universe, too.

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It's everywhere.

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That's what I see it as.

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I've told you that before, Rachel.

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You agreed.

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This is amazing.

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It really is.

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Yeah, it really, really is.

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How long have you been doing this, Rachel?

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When did you find this?

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And when did this all come about in your
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How many years ago?

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I mean, it's been evolving.

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I don't see myself as finished, but
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started to really get momentum.

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And that was through that experience where
I felt like it was a dark night and I was

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looking for more.

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And often that's when we make our big
breakthroughs and we do see more because

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we want it.

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And when we want it and when we allow it
to come, the answers do come.

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But we have to allow it.

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Like love allows.

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It's not.

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It's not like it's a willing participant
love is.

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You know what?

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A willing participant is what you have to
be to go through the process with you

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because I've done it and I'll talk about
that process just a little bit.

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It's about an hour long session.

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You gotta do an hour.

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Believe me, it flies by, you don't feel
like it's an hour.

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So make time.

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Oh my goodness, that's where I'm at.

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I'm like, okay, sign me up.

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Like, what do I do?

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What are next steps?

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And when did you start taking on?

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clients and doing this for friends or
families or how did it evolve?

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That's my next question.

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And I'm sorry, Blaine, I totally
interrupted you.

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Oh, you're good.

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I'm like, tell me more.

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Yeah.

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The process is fun, but you've got to open
your heart up and be vulnerable with

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Rachel.

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Trust her.

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I promise you, she's got to put a lot of
trust into you as well.

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Like you got to, it's a partnership like
that.

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Blaine, I'm so glad that you brought that
up, that you realized that in your

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session.

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Because one of my favorite phrases is,

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or I, I am the one that I've been waiting
for.

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Okay, we all have things that we want and
we all have things that we don't like and

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we can tell they don't sync up with us.

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And we want to fix these things in our
life but sometimes we feel stuck.

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And then the fear comes in, right?

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The opposite of who we are, not expansive,
not the love.

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The fear comes in and tells us you're
stuck, you don't know what you're doing

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and you should just, you know, give up.

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But what happens is when you allow
yourself to be willing, you allow yourself

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to look at yourself honestly, you give
yourself power because you are not a

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victim.

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All of the sudden you see your life and
you see where you're making choices that

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don't line up with who you are, which is
love, where you're acting out of fear or

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you're trying to control or you're trying
to criticize and you know.

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whatever situation, whether it's in your
marriage or in your parenting or in your

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work, any time you're constricting and
closing yourself off, you are closing

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yourself off to everything you want in
your life and in your heart.

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Because when you are not in alignment with
love and who you are, you default to a

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lower state of fear.

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And when you are in alignment with fear,
you're shutting yourself off.

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to your answers and to seeing what you
need to do differently in order to raise

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where you're at currently in your life.

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You're keeping yourself stuck because
you're not willing to expand like love

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expands.

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And that's probably where you see a lot of
people repeating these same patterns and

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behaviors and yeah.

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Those same patterns.

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Why do I keep doing this?

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Why do I keep hurting my friends?

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Why do I keep hurting my family?

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Why do I keep hurting myself?

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And that is the exact reason, because the
fear wants a band-aid.

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It wants to feel like, okay, well, if I go
and I go eat this burger that I told

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myself I wasn't gonna eat, then it's gonna
make me temporarily feel better.

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And it's going to...

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keep me safe.

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You're looking for comfort rather than
expansion.

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And when you turn to love and you expand,
you look at, well, why do I want this

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burger?

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And do I need this burger?

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And you may say, you know what?

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I'm gonna eat this burger in a whole
different way as love.

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I'm gonna look at this burger, I'm gonna
take a bite, and I'm gonna allow myself to

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enjoy it.

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And then I'm gonna decide how much I
really want of this burger.

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because I'm not going to control it
because love doesn't control it.

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It allows and it loves it.

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Love loves itself enough to say, have a
bite of this burger and enjoy it and

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decide when you're done.

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And then if you're done, maybe, maybe all
of a sudden your heart's going to say, you

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know what, burger was good, but I'm ready.

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I'm ready for something else on my plate.

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And all of a sudden.

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You don't feel the control and the fear
and the shame and the guilt.

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You feel empowered.

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You're empowered because you're expanding
to something more.

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You're seeing this higher version of
yourself.

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You're feeling this higher version by
actually embodying love and allowing

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yourself to take the control, well, not
the control because the control, but

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allowing yourself to make the choice.

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rather than to control it, to make it, to
be aware that you have the choice.

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Okay.

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Because we're not the victims.

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Now we're choosing.

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We're an active participant in this burger
and we're going to get everything good out

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of that we want.

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And we're going to decide if this wealth
serves us.

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And if it doesn't serve us in the way that
we want, we're going to look for what does

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because now we're in tuned with ourselves
and our hearts and our love.

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So you've got to love yourself is what
you're saying before.

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You can love outwards, basically.

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If you start with yourself, it's gonna
branch out, right?

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You definitely, you cannot love others
without loving yourself first.

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Yes.

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You can't love with an empty well.

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So one other question I had for you, as a
woman in business and through this

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process, I'm assuming you do this for all
clients, doesn't matter their gender, it's

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for everyone, but as a woman in business,

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Do you see or would you have advice for
other women that you're kind of seeing are

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something that they need to hear or
something, you know, foundationally across

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that, maybe as a message that you would
like to share to women?

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Absolutely.

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I think the important thing to know is
that we're all equal.

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We're all equal and that we all have this
power inside of us and to not be

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intimidated.

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by gender, but to see us as equal and to
come from that power, that love that we

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all have inside ourselves.

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I really, I believe that love is what will
heal our world.

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That's why I do what I do because when you
come to see who you are and feel and know

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who you are, there really is nothing that
can stop you.

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We're at the beginning of the year because
we're not looking back, we're looking

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forward.

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Give me one thing that man, woman, whoever
can do daily for 365 days this year, and

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then next year, you guarantee that we'll
see a difference in ourselves.

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What can we do daily, one time a day?

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Okay, one thing, well, I'm gonna combine
and this will be one thing, but tell

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yourself, I am the one that I've been
waiting for.

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And center yourself.

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When you feel all of those emotions.

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When you're not feeling peace, when you're
feeling like you need to please other

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people and you got to put on your face,
get that moment and be still with

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yourself.

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And remember, if you don't go within, you
go without.

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And this is the greatest power that exists
in our universe, love.

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And you tell me if you do want to go
without that, because I don't.

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And that's a choice we make when we're in
that.

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And the more we realize we have that.

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you will change every single part of your
life that you live by every day.

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So center yourself and look in the mirror
and say, I am the one I've been waiting

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for.

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And that's it.

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That's all you gotta do.

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365 days and you'll be a whole brand new
you by next, by 2025.

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The greatest force in the universe, love.

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Right here, we have Rachel Cox Taylor.

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It's at Rachel Cox Taylor on Instagram.

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That's how you can get in there.

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Go on there and what, just send you a DM?

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Yeah, Rachel Cox.

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dealer on Facebook as well.

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Now I'll throw one more thing out at you
here.

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I saw an article yesterday that said, love
is so expensive.

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And I started reading it and people are
paying up to $1,500 a month for VIP tender

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services online.

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Now for me to come to you and be able to
love myself, your love is not that

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expensive, right?

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Like your sessions are, you don't have to
give us a price.

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But I don't think at Rachel Cox Taylor on
Instagram is gonna be 1,500 a month for

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what, swiping right, right?

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This is legitimate, feel good about
yourself from somebody who feels good

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about herself, right?

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Absolutely, but the thing that I would
like to say about that is Tinder is a

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wonderful resource.

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If you wanna experience love in your life,
be love.

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Yes.

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Even if you find someone on Tinder and you
haven't discovered how to be love

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yourself, you will not feel it because
you'll be looking for someone to fill that

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inside of you what is already there and
that you have to claim for yourself first.

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Nobody can put it there.

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And when you realize that is inside of you
and you have brought that power into your

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life.

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as your guide and as your source of
inspiration and your dreams and your

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wants, when you are living from your inner
source love guidance, that is what will

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make you fulfilled in the relationship you
find on Tinder, because you're gonna have

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love to give and because you're going to
bring a whole person to that relationship.

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and hopefully that other person is
bringing a whole person to the

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relationship as well.

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And together, you will be unstoppable.

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Exactly.

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You're not bringing the better half,
you're bringing a whole person.

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Blaine doesn't know this, but I met my
husband on Tinder.

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Oh, it's out there!

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What the fuck?

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Not to one up you, but Bex doesn't know
this.

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I met Lindsay on Tinder, so.

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Oh my god.

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And I'm gonna tell you this.

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Well, my husband's my husband.

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Did you meet your husband on Tinder?

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No, not on Tinder, online.

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There you go.

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See?

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Yeah.

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There it is.

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There it is.

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I didn't love I couldn't love somebody on
Tinder till I loved myself.

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And that's when I found her.

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So that's what happened.

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Truly.

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Yeah.

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That's it.

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But thank you so much.

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Rachel Cox Taylor on Instagram.

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Go look her up.

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Thank you.

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Book a session with you.

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You'll be buzzing.

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I promise you'll be buzzing.

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Yeah.

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Yes, thank you.

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Thanks, Rachel.

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Thank you, Rachel.

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Wow.

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What a conversation with Rachel Cox
Taylor.

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The soul coach, she's not a love coach,
she's a soul coach.

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She really is.

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My soul is buzzing.

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Like I'm still buzzing.

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Oh, me too.

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I could talk to her forever, Blaine.

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She was so awesome.

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I mean, just incredibly powerful.

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She's amazing.

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I can't wait for the world to hear her.

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Like really, I can't.

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Yeah.

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There's so much bad, there's so much
fighting going on in the world.

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And I know this is probably naive of me to
say, but.

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If everybody heard that, if everybody
heard what she did, there might not be, I

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won't say there won't be any fighting in
the world out there, but there won't be as

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much.

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There's no way there's gonna be as much.

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The answers are within all of us.

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I mean, that's what she's saying.

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The answers are within all of us and love
is the answer.

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And like dig deep, right?

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Like it's within you.

496
00:24:31,056 --> 00:24:32,657
It's within you to make that difference.

497
00:24:32,657 --> 00:24:34,718
Such a powerful message.

498
00:24:34,739 --> 00:24:38,798
You know, one thing that I thought was
really awesome from that.

499
00:24:38,798 --> 00:24:41,499
Okay, we gotta hear more about your
Tinder.

500
00:24:41,499 --> 00:24:45,320
I did not know that we all met our spouses
online.

501
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:46,941
I knew you were gonna bring this up.

502
00:24:46,941 --> 00:24:50,662
How, like, we didn't plan that, Bex.

503
00:24:50,662 --> 00:24:52,663
Like, Rachel didn't know that.

504
00:24:52,663 --> 00:24:54,044
That's wild that came out.

505
00:24:54,044 --> 00:24:56,185
And that was like 40 minutes deep into a
conversation.

506
00:24:56,185 --> 00:24:58,045
And that's my second time talking to her.

507
00:24:58,078 --> 00:25:00,239
And I never, we never talked about that.

508
00:25:00,239 --> 00:25:02,561
How we met our loved ones.

509
00:25:02,561 --> 00:25:06,944
So our significant other, I don't want to
say my other half cause she talked about

510
00:25:06,944 --> 00:25:07,324
that too.

511
00:25:07,324 --> 00:25:09,045
So it was not my other half.

512
00:25:09,045 --> 00:25:11,867
You know what though, that's so funny that
she brought that up because when I did

513
00:25:11,867 --> 00:25:15,990
meet my wife on Tinder, we never looked at
it and never thought we were the second

514
00:25:15,990 --> 00:25:16,550
half.

515
00:25:16,550 --> 00:25:19,072
We just thought it was, we never thought
that way.

516
00:25:19,732 --> 00:25:22,674
We actually had that conversation and I
did meet her on Tinder.

517
00:25:22,674 --> 00:25:27,817
The wilder thing about me and her meeting
on Tinder is that we did it in Hollywood.

518
00:25:27,918 --> 00:25:30,578
I don't know if you know how many people
are on Tinder in Hollywood.

519
00:25:30,578 --> 00:25:31,798
I don't.

520
00:25:32,039 --> 00:25:36,580
When you put your radius in there, we only
had a small window that we were.

521
00:25:36,580 --> 00:25:37,540
We were living.

522
00:25:37,540 --> 00:25:40,021
We ended up we were living within a mile
and a half of each other.

523
00:25:40,021 --> 00:25:41,421
Didn't even know.

524
00:25:41,421 --> 00:25:42,342
And the middle of Hollywood.

525
00:25:42,342 --> 00:25:43,422
So crazy.

526
00:25:43,422 --> 00:25:47,343
Me being from the middle of nowhere on a
farm in Tennessee and her being from up

527
00:25:47,343 --> 00:25:52,685
north, Ogden, Utah, we met in Hollywood on
Sunset Boulevard through Tinder.

528
00:25:52,685 --> 00:25:55,125
My gosh, that is so wild.

529
00:25:55,702 --> 00:26:00,243
I gotta follow up with your wife because
I've never actually asked her story of

530
00:26:00,243 --> 00:26:01,643
what brought her to Hollywood.

531
00:26:01,643 --> 00:26:04,964
And there's probably a story there that
her and I need to talk about.

532
00:26:04,964 --> 00:26:05,684
Oh, absolutely.

533
00:26:05,684 --> 00:26:06,224
You got to ask her.

534
00:26:06,224 --> 00:26:07,365
You got to get her on for that.

535
00:26:07,365 --> 00:26:08,405
Yeah, for sure.

536
00:26:08,405 --> 00:26:10,286
But that's it for this week's show.

537
00:26:10,286 --> 00:26:11,386
Go book Miss Rachel.

538
00:26:11,386 --> 00:26:12,926
Go at Instagram.

539
00:26:12,926 --> 00:26:15,547
It's at Rachel Cox Taylor.

540
00:26:15,547 --> 00:26:25,169
R-A- At Rachel Cox Taylor.

541
00:26:25,790 --> 00:26:27,191
You gotta get a session with her.

542
00:26:27,191 --> 00:26:27,952
It's amazing.

543
00:26:27,952 --> 00:26:28,892
There's no going back.

544
00:26:28,892 --> 00:26:31,915
Blaine, I'm already working on getting
mine.

545
00:26:31,915 --> 00:26:32,615
She is amazing.

546
00:26:32,615 --> 00:26:34,017
Looking forward to it.

547
00:26:34,017 --> 00:26:35,618
You've already booked a couple sessions.

548
00:26:35,618 --> 00:26:37,539
You got your daughters booked for a
couple.

549
00:26:37,539 --> 00:26:37,980
I do.

550
00:26:37,980 --> 00:26:38,680
Yeah.

551
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:40,462
Rachel's about to be in business for a
while.

552
00:26:40,462 --> 00:26:43,604
And then be sure you're here next week
too, because we're going to have Jen Banks

553
00:26:43,604 --> 00:26:43,985
on.

554
00:26:43,985 --> 00:26:45,886
Oh, we got a great show coming up next
week.

555
00:26:45,886 --> 00:26:46,487
That's right.

556
00:26:46,487 --> 00:26:47,748
Jen Banks.

557
00:26:47,748 --> 00:26:50,670
From A is for adversity.

558
00:26:50,670 --> 00:26:51,971
That's her podcast.

559
00:26:51,971 --> 00:26:54,113
It's right here on Ride the Wave Media.

560
00:26:54,113 --> 00:26:55,113
Guess what?

561
00:26:55,114 --> 00:26:55,796
It's the new year.

562
00:26:55,796 --> 00:26:56,598
Yes.

563
00:26:56,598 --> 00:26:57,600
This thing went crazy.

564
00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:58,202
I can't wait.

565
00:26:58,202 --> 00:27:00,970
We'll see you guys next year right here.

566
00:27:00,970 --> 00:27:02,775
Radio Daybreak, best podcast in Utah.

567
00:27:02,775 --> 00:27:04,177
See you next year, y'all.