Inspiring Wellness: A Deep Dive with WOW and Alison Faulkner

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Oh yes, it's Just Blane
here with Radio Daybreak.

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Special, very special episode this week.

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We're doing a pod swap with, wow,
the Women Optimizing Wellness.

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They got a great interview
with Allison Faulkner.

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If you're not sure who she is, she's
the host of the Allison Show podcast.

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I think, I think she's
got millions of listeners.

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So you gotta go check out that thing.

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Before we get to that though,
We're gonna go to the Farmer's

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Market from last weekend, where
I caught up with Miss Daybreak.

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It's Amanda McCombs, and she's
got a charity gala coming up for

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her birthday, and to help raise
funds for a beautiful cause.

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We'll get to that and ask her, but wait
till you see what I'm gonna donate.

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Wait till you see what I am gonna
put in to the silent auction.

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It could be worth 13, 14.

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Probably 2, 000 by the time we get out
there, but I gotta address one more

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thing before we get to that interview
and that's the Super Bowl halftime show.

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Everybody's talking about it, everybody
wants to know my opinion on it.

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That should speak for itself.

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That should speak for itself.

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That's me and Kendrick some years ago,
and I put us in front of a TV off.

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So there's my response to what I
thought about the Super Bowl show.

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Love you.

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Let's go to Miss Daybreak.

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Amanda McCombs.

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And we'll see you on the other side.

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There's her, there's her title.

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New shirt too.

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Yeah, I

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got a shirt.

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Look at that.

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It's all official.

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All official.

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It's all official.

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I love it.

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It's been official for like two years.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Right?

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Yeah.

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Cause nobody's taking this title.

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Not yet.

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The only way you take it from
me is if I win Mrs. Utah.

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Ooh, that's right because we're
not boxing you in with Ms.

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Daybreak anymore.

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No.

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There's a chance that this
could be something much bigger.

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What about Miss Congeniality?

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Oh, that's something people vote
on at the pageant, actually.

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I think you could win that.

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I've known you for a while.

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You're pretty

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Everyone's so nice, though.

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You're pretty,

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uh Congenial?

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T, I, U. What's the word?

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Congenial.

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Congenial?

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Yeah.

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You got it.

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You did it.

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Well,

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see, I started thinking, I was
like, wait a minute, that sounds

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too much like conjugal visit.

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Oh, yeah, no, that's not the same thing.

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I was trying to make sure in my head.

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That is not the same thing.

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My AI is a little slow

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today.

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My chip, my implant is
a little slow today.

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So it didn't.

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You need to like.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, I gotta reboot.

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Gotta reboot.

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Reboot.

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But I didn't, I couldn't check
that word in my head real quick.

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But I just wanted to make sure.

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Your dictionary

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was a little.

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It

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was.

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It was off.

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It was off.

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a

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tiny bit.

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But

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let me, let me ask you, though.

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Because you got big events before

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the

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pageant.

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Yes.

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Tell me about the one.

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My

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birthday.

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My birthday's February
20th, and it's a Thursday.

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All right.

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We're gonna

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party like it's 1925.

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It's Great Gatsby.

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A hundred years ago?

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Yeah, why not?

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Oh,

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I like that.

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Great Gatsby.

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Now, what should I wear?

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This isn't gonna work.

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Maybe the hat?

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You can maybe get away with the hat,
but I would lose the sweatpants.

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Hey, don't tell people
I got sweatpants on.

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You don't have Sweatpants.

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There are no sweatpants.

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So this is the Miss Daybreak Gala?

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What is this?

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What is this called?

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Yeah, so it's

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a charity gala.

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This is Daybreak's birthday charity gala.

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So it is my birthday, but
I don't need anything.

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I'm working with a non
profit to collect donations.

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Oh,

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who, who is it?

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It's Hearts

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Knit Together.

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Heartsknittogether.

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org?

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Is that the website for them?

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Yes, that's the best website for them.

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I've seen

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that website.

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We, we talked about that website and what
you did with them and have been doing with

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them and it was, it's incredible, huh?

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Yeah.

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I think it's still They
really put themselves out

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there to help people in need.

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Now,

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we're here, we're here at the, uh,
this is Saturday, we'll just date

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this, but we're at the Farmer's Market.

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Yep.

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It's indoors.

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The Farmer's Market here at
Land of a Thousand Hills.

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Hey, there's Tammy!

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Hey

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guys!

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And You got, Laura Gaylord came out here
and put on another great farmer's market.

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What are you doing here, though?

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She set up a spot for me to do a little
meet and greet so people can figure

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out who the heck I am Because they're
seeing me and they don't know who I am.

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So that's the line.

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So I'm

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actually holding you up from
getting to the people, from

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talking to the people at daybreak.

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It's okay.

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They'll know, they'll
know who I am soon enough.

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Because I'm the who's who?

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You're right.

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And I'm

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the what's

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what.

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And you're the what's what.

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Hey, but I want to shout out too because
we're in the Land of a Thousand Hills.

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Yeah.

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They got new owners.

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They got new owners.

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It's so nice and mellow in here.

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I've only been in here a couple times.

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Man, you guys got to get
down here and meet them.

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It's Brad and Amanda, I believe.

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They just got here.

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They're living in Daybreak.

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They just bought Land of a Thousand Hills.

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They're over there making deals right now.

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They're making deals.

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But Miss Daybreak, when is the pageant?

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When is the big day?

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March 29th.

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Now where do you get tickets for that?

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So, they're not available yet,
but I have 15 I'm giving away.

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I'm doing a raffle.

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Fifteen?

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Fifteen, yeah.

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I'm gonna, I'm gonna, they're on me.

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I'll buy your ticket.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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But you have to don't,
it's, uh, 5 donations.

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For every 5 you donate, you get
an entry into the ticket and

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it helps cover my budget fees.

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I love that.

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Now, where are the tickets?

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Where can we get them though?

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We'll have links for that out there.

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Ooh,

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Venmo me at

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NotSoGenius.

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At NotSoGenius.

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One word?

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Yeah,

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that's my Venmo.

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Yeah.

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Probably put that on the screen
somewhere, like right here.

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Yeah, like right here.

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It'll be on there somewhere,
wherever it pops up at.

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But I have to say that I might
have to show up this year.

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They did ask me to come
down there and be a judge.

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No, I'm kidding.

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I'm kidding.

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Nobody's asked me to

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do that.

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That's for sure.

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Just come.

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It's fun.

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It's cool.

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Maybe I'll be a Stanley.

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Maybe I won't.

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Let me get, let me let you get to
your Adoring people of Daybreak.

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My fans.

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Yeah, your fans.

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They are waiting.

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They are waiting.

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They're waving.

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Um, Anything else you
got to tell the people?

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You know what?

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I gotta tell the people something.

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I will donate.

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Is this how it works?

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How does this work for this gala?

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Are we donating stuff?

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Yeah.

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And then people have a silent auction?

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Oh, yeah, we have a silent auction.

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We have some cool art pieces coming.

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Um, barbecue cleaning services.

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I have a whole basket full of my
favorite stuff that i'm gonna give away.

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Alright, I got something
I'm gonna add to that.

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It's gonna be the biggest,
biggest thing you'll have.

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Okay.

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Most, at least for price.

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I'm kinda scared.

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No, no, no, no.

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This'll be a good one.

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This'll be a good one.

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I will give this thing, and listen, now
we're filming this on Saturday, but by

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the 20th, this could be 1300, 1400 worth,
but I'm gonna give it a dozen eggs.

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Oh my goodness, a dozen eggs.

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I'm giving, I'm

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gonna put a dozen eggs out there for you.

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That's like gold.

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I am.

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I'm gonna give a dozen eggs
and that's what I'm gonna.

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Man.

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Is that a good donation I can make?

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That is a good donation.

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I'm also gonna, I'm also

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going to uh, to be DJing
some of that, right?

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I'm gonna be.

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Yeah, we're gonna have a dance

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party.

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I'll play, I'll play some music.

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You're gonna give me
the playlist for that?

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Uh, we'll work on it together.

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What is it

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gonna be, like a femme rage?

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Like just.

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Oh, I'm so angry.

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Actually, I got a great,

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I got a great femme rage playlist.

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Ooh,

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we'll see you there, we'll see you there.

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I kinda like where this is headed.

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February 20th, that's the first time
that we need to see anything about you.

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Don't worry about when the date is
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20th is the date right now.

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Yep.

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Where is that event?

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don't know.

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That is going to be at the Garden
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Well, why not?

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Why wouldn't we have it right
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I love it.

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We'll see you there.

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Yeah.

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Peace.

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A dozen eggs.

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I'm putting them out there.

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I'm putting a dozen eggs out there.

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I don't know how much that's
going to go for, guys.

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That's going to be rowdy.

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It's going to be wild.

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But right now, let's get to Allison
Faulkner and the women of WOW.

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Becks, Nelson, Jen Banks, Michelle, Lena.

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Incredible interview.

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We'll catch you on the other side.

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Welcome back.

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We are here as WOW founders to
interview upcoming keynotes and

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speakers and sponsors that we
have within the WOW community.

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Today, we have Allison Falzer.

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I've been a fan for a while, so
this is like a shriek for sure.

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So, Allison is a writer, speaker,
and creative entrepreneur known for

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her vibrant energy and authenticity.

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As the founder of the Allison
Show, she empowers individuals

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to embrace their unique value
and find joy in everyday life.

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Allison combines her expertise in
branding and personal development

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with a passion for creating meaningful
experiences and connections.

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Inspiring others through workshops,
online courses, and events.

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As a mother of three, she champions
the importance of balancing ambition

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and self care, helping others
to show up as their full selves.

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We're so excited to have you here.

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So I know Jen has got a handful of
questions that I, full disclosure,

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have not read this book yet.

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I barely read

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it.

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I barely remember writing it.

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When did you write it?

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Uh, I wrote it in 20, all of 2020.

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It came out in, in Vended Edits.

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It came out in 2022.

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Yes.

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Um, and it's 2025.

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And, my name is Allison.

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And, um, I think that's what I wrote.

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We're already

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into this thing, so I
hope you felt it right.

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So, we are talking about You're
Already Awesome by Allison Faulkner.

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It is amazing.

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According to Jen, I just
took the click notes.

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Yeah, that much you do.

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So, Jen, dive in.

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I know you had a question about her book.

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Yeah, so you talk a lot about not using
external validation to prove our worth.

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Oh my gosh, I should

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so

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listen to myself.

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That would be

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so

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good.

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That would teach me.

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I think the reason it resonates is because
we all need those reminders constantly.

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Yeah, let's speak to that.

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Oh, I think, you know, the word, I
called my brother today, and I can't

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remember the technical name of it,
but you know the thing where you say

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a word over and over and it starts
to lose its meaning and make sense?

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And I kept saying the word metrics.

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Metrics,

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metrics, metrics.

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And so that's like kind of the language I
would use today if it keeps its meaning.

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Metrics is Um, the metrics, there's
so many vanity metrics, right?

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And what vanity metrics, I would
define those are as your, the number

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on the scale, the number on the
bank account, the number of friends

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or followers or clients, right?

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Like, they're metrics and validation
that other people can see and that

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we feel comfortable with other people
seeing because it sets us in a status.

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Even with weight.

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When you're in shape, because I, you
know, weight fluctuates, when you're

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in shape, you feel and behave a certain
way, and I know for me, I've noticed

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when I gain weight, a weird, weird
thought that I start to have is, I'm

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not going to look as trustworthy.

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I'm not going to look as put together.

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People aren't going to want to
respect me as much because I'm not.

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Outwardly showing this picture Right,
and so that outward validation it

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really goes person by person and their
life experience Their DNA and what

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they value and I think we can Start to
say you shouldn't value this and you

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should value that When really at the
end of the day you value what you value

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right

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like How much of yourself worth?

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How much do you allow yourself to
do or not do things based on that?

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So this outside validation for me, what
outside validation looks like for me is

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people telling me I'm doing a good job,
people telling me they really like me.

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People walking up to me and
saying, wow, you're Allison.

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You helped me with this.

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Outward validation is going to look
like my husband telling me I'm hot.

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My kids being proud of me and
wanting to like show me places.

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Um, it's going to be my family being
proud of me and it's also going to

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be looking really good in a picture.

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Yeah.

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I mean, and so those, and
none of those are inherently

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wrong, bad, evil, or incorrect.

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Um, but man, you can have all
the outward validation in the

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world and it just becomes a very
slippery slope, a sliding target.

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And so it's so fun having a book
called You're Already Awesome

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because people have to be nice about
the title because it's printed.

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And people are

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like, Yay!

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I love it!

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And

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then I'll talk for a while.

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And they're like, Yeah, but like If I
believe I'm already awesome, I'm lazy,

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I'm settling, I've arrived, like I'm here.

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And so it's interesting because
what it suggests is if I decide

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internally, if I validate myself
internally, Um, then I am presupposing

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that I will do nothing to improve.

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So isn't that interesting?

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Yeah, that's when you tell me Well, but
there's that's inherently problematic to

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believe I'm good, and I'm okay Because
how will I improve right but what you're

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saying to me is the only way you know
how to prove is by shaming yourself

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It doesn't, um, it's not super sexy
to tell people you're already awesome.

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Like the book has done well and it's
helped a lot of people, but it's

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not like off the charts bestseller.

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Yeah.

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And

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I think people have a
hard time stomaching that.

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They just do.

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And maybe, maybe, I don't know,
timing, whatever, um, everything is

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going to do what it's meant to do.

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Yeah.

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But I could very easily, and
depending on the day and hour, come

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at that and say, this message of
you're already awesome isn't good.

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Because it wasn't a number one
Times New York's bestseller.

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Like it wasn't number one on the list.

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So if,

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right, there's

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the trick with the outside validation.

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And I have a girlfriend,
Who does fitness programs?

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She's phenomenal and I signed up for one
of her programs and I and she wrote me

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back today and said Thank you so much
for signing up I had a ton of people

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sign up for the first one and I haven't
had as many people sign up for this one

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Mm hmm,

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and you guys probably doing the fence.

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Mm hmm.

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It's so hard.

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Yes your podcast everything you
do It's so hard to believe in the

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inherent value of what you've created
You Without the outward validation.

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Yes!

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And even if you get the outward
validation, How much of it?

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How long do you need it?

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Does it have to continue
to scale as you scale?

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Does it last?

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Yeah.

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Consistency.

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Yeah.

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Maintaining last month's

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numbers to your current one.

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Yeah.

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Maintaining the numbers.

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And I think for me and a lot of people,
the easy jump is, okay, if not as many

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people signed up for my program this
month, how can I make the program better?

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Yes,

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yeah, that might be something
that you would think.

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Which is

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great.

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We should always be looking to
improve, and iterate, and get feedback.

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However, because I've been doing this
so long, it is a very hard lesson to go,

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no, my program is actually phenomenal.

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Right.

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Is

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it a marketing

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thing?

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Is it a timing thing?

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Is it a price thing?

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Is it a packaging thing?

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Is it a, nobody wants this.

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It might be the best book program.

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Was your event

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on July 4th, right?

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Right?

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Is there normal virus going around?

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Do people keep getting sick?

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And so you can see like on big scale,
little scale, how easy and applause

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worthy it is to base your value and your
success on all these metrics, but really

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when it comes down to it, it's super
problematic and it's not sustainable.

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Yes.

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So when I'm talking about metrics,
one metric I'm obsessed with right

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now is like my new identity for 2025
is I'm getting 10, 000 steps a day.

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And here's the

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reason why I'm obsessed with the
metric is because if I get 10, 000

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steps a day, I inherently get the
value of 10, 000 steps, which is good

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for my body, it's good for my mind.

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If I

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get 5,

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000 steps, I still get 5, 000 steps.

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Right?

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Now, if it's about Having 10, 000 steps
a day to get to a weight, or having 10,

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000 steps a day to get to a certain number
somewhere else, that's okay too, but the

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reason why I love the metric in and of
itself being the win, is because then it's

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a, it's like um, little dopamine hits.

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I got my 10, 000 steps.

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Now, this has a lot to do with
masculine and feminine energy,

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and so we can get into that too.

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I

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love what you're saying.

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I want to maybe just dive in a little
bit while we're on this topic and

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say, um, with goal setting, right?

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You are going to be our wow speaker
in Jan, or excuse me, in February.

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So just coming up here in a couple of
weeks, but we're still at the beginning

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of the year where a lot of people said,
you New Year's resolutions and you're

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speaking, you know, to a lot of people
about these metrics and hitting the thing.

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So I would say maybe look at your goals.

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Yeah, maybe look at those goals and
how you're measuring it, how you're

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measuring it, what are the metrics

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you're focusing on.

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Yes.

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And this is even something I'm
challenging myself with, like a new

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project that I'm gonna be working on.

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I'm like, well, what's.

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And this is another way of saying it
is what's the definition of success?

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There it is.

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Yes.

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Right?

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Is the definition of success.

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That you showed up.

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Yes.

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Oh man, wouldn't that be
cute if we actually believed

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ourselves when we said that?

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Like, it would be so cute.

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We would be so well adjusted.

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We would look so, like,
chomping our hearts.

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You know, for me, the success is
just about me showing up for myself.

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I wish, I show up for
myself better than anybody.

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If other people are showing up, I'm
like, why does everybody hate me?

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There's no meaning and point in life.

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And I probably should just
watch another series on Netflix.

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Right?

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So, it's like, I, I'm off in a wild way.

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What was your inspiration behind this?

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I mean, there has to be, Like a
story and a wow of writing this.

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So I know you've touched on this.

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Yeah, honestly, that's

519
00:19:49,670 --> 00:19:50,730
the lifelong goal.

520
00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:52,100
Yeah, it was the story.

521
00:19:52,110 --> 00:19:54,499
The inspiration is that
that's what I wanted.

522
00:19:54,550 --> 00:19:57,679
Yeah, I wanted a book and I
didn't just want to self publish.

523
00:19:57,940 --> 00:19:59,960
I wanted a book with a top publisher.

524
00:20:00,120 --> 00:20:02,220
That's what I wanted and
I wanted it in college.

525
00:20:02,515 --> 00:20:04,684
I wanted it when I started blogging.

526
00:20:04,685 --> 00:20:06,355
I wanted it when I was on Instagram.

527
00:20:06,645 --> 00:20:08,495
I wanted it when I started the podcast.

528
00:20:08,895 --> 00:20:11,435
And I was just so confused that
nobody was offering it to me.

529
00:20:12,395 --> 00:20:14,284
Because like, here I am

530
00:20:14,284 --> 00:20:15,665
being offered all these things.

531
00:20:15,704 --> 00:20:16,184
I showed up.

532
00:20:16,904 --> 00:20:20,414
And I'm getting offered all these
opportunities and all of these things.

533
00:20:20,605 --> 00:20:22,245
And I'm like, but where's the book?

534
00:20:22,264 --> 00:20:22,695
Right.

535
00:20:22,955 --> 00:20:28,215
And so it was perfect timing, right before
the world ended, and everything changed

536
00:20:28,215 --> 00:20:30,295
online and life as we knew it upended.

537
00:20:30,565 --> 00:20:31,514
I got that book deal.

538
00:20:33,935 --> 00:20:34,495
Facetious.

539
00:20:34,565 --> 00:20:35,514
I'm being very sarcastic.

540
00:20:36,435 --> 00:20:40,635
Um, and it was, it was a weird
time to write a book, it was a

541
00:20:40,635 --> 00:20:45,504
weird time to be online, and then
there were the years afterwards.

542
00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:48,470
which were also very
weird, if you will recall.

543
00:20:48,470 --> 00:20:52,770
Um, but maybe you guys noticed
this too, because you do this work.

544
00:20:53,050 --> 00:20:56,339
You talk to people about the last few
years and they literally are like,

545
00:20:56,350 --> 00:20:58,100
they don't even say COVID happened.

546
00:20:58,930 --> 00:20:59,139
Yeah.

547
00:20:59,290 --> 00:21:01,680
It's like, well, this thing happened
and then this thing happened.

548
00:21:02,290 --> 00:21:04,230
It's like we've all
collectively blocked out COVID.

549
00:21:06,460 --> 00:21:07,000
There is

550
00:21:07,010 --> 00:21:08,950
truly maybe a little PTSD there.

551
00:21:09,510 --> 00:21:11,090
It was a hard time for a lot of people.

552
00:21:11,110 --> 00:21:13,660
So I'm a retired ER nurse,
like, living in that, right?

553
00:21:14,110 --> 00:21:15,599
Oh yeah, it's all a blur.

554
00:21:15,849 --> 00:21:16,950
It is sometimes.

555
00:21:16,950 --> 00:21:18,270
I mean, there's some truth to that.

556
00:21:18,289 --> 00:21:20,144
There's some trauma brain there.

557
00:21:20,144 --> 00:21:21,660
Oh, it was a crazy time.

558
00:21:21,660 --> 00:21:21,860
And so

559
00:21:21,910 --> 00:21:26,610
my book came out in 2022, and we
were still barely, as a world,

560
00:21:26,630 --> 00:21:28,140
having big communal events.

561
00:21:28,604 --> 00:21:28,955
Right.

562
00:21:29,415 --> 00:21:33,634
And so for me, the whole market, like
the whole trajectory of everything I

563
00:21:33,644 --> 00:21:35,144
was going to do with this book changed.

564
00:21:35,894 --> 00:21:37,665
And the world changed.

565
00:21:38,114 --> 00:21:43,945
But it's really easy to just think,
oh, this didn't work this way.

566
00:21:44,044 --> 00:21:44,584
Mm hmm.

567
00:21:45,474 --> 00:21:49,445
Without keeping in mind there
were a whole other, there were

568
00:21:49,465 --> 00:21:50,384
all these other circumstances.

569
00:21:50,384 --> 00:21:54,094
It's kind of like, with having a
successful event or having a successful

570
00:21:54,134 --> 00:21:59,265
anything, There can be a lot of
variables and so the motivation

571
00:21:59,295 --> 00:22:01,475
for the book truly is I love books.

572
00:22:01,515 --> 00:22:02,335
I love reading.

573
00:22:02,365 --> 00:22:04,205
I think books are like medicine.

574
00:22:04,565 --> 00:22:10,705
Books change life, lives, my
life, and I just, I love books.

575
00:22:11,035 --> 00:22:11,154
I

576
00:22:11,154 --> 00:22:12,154
love writing.

577
00:22:12,334 --> 00:22:13,835
I've always been a writer.

578
00:22:14,055 --> 00:22:16,935
I've always, yeah, I love communicating.

579
00:22:17,360 --> 00:22:18,350
I like talking to people.

580
00:22:19,550 --> 00:22:20,629
I'm just going to put it out there.

581
00:22:20,770 --> 00:22:23,100
Maybe like, because of that,
there might be another book.

582
00:22:23,100 --> 00:22:23,389
I don't know.

583
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:23,810
I don't know.

584
00:22:23,810 --> 00:22:25,280
I know.

585
00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:25,680
I know.

586
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:26,569
You never know.

587
00:22:26,570 --> 00:22:27,080
You never know.

588
00:22:27,239 --> 00:22:28,379
You never

589
00:22:28,379 --> 00:22:29,409
know.

590
00:22:29,409 --> 00:22:29,730
All the

591
00:22:29,730 --> 00:22:30,320
Allison things.

592
00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:30,798
I

593
00:22:30,798 --> 00:22:31,754
love it.

594
00:22:31,755 --> 00:22:32,233
I

595
00:22:32,233 --> 00:22:32,711
love

596
00:22:32,711 --> 00:22:33,189
it.

597
00:22:33,190 --> 00:22:36,450
Let's circle back to belief because
you mentioned it briefly when you

598
00:22:36,450 --> 00:22:40,050
were talking about belief in yourself,
belief in your product or whatever

599
00:22:40,050 --> 00:22:42,030
you've created or have going on.

600
00:22:42,340 --> 00:22:44,690
And that will be the theme
for February is I believe.

601
00:22:44,950 --> 00:22:46,920
So how can we cultivate this believer?

602
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,300
Is there a time that you really
felt the belief in yourself?

603
00:22:49,300 --> 00:22:50,969
That's

604
00:22:50,970 --> 00:22:52,020
such a good question.

605
00:22:52,020 --> 00:22:53,819
Cause I'm going to be super honest.

606
00:22:53,830 --> 00:22:57,019
I literally five minutes before I
walked in here, had a conversation

607
00:22:57,019 --> 00:23:01,170
with my husband where he said, I
should probably just not do anything.

608
00:23:01,170 --> 00:23:08,590
I should just not do anything.

609
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:10,280
The problem is, what does that mean?

610
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:15,440
It's like, Alison, Becks,
I try not to do things.

611
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:17,050
I try.

612
00:23:17,129 --> 00:23:19,460
This is my version of not doing things.

613
00:23:19,460 --> 00:23:26,245
I just have too much
energy, I think, is what

614
00:23:26,245 --> 00:23:28,772
comes out of you.

615
00:23:28,772 --> 00:23:31,760
Just stay here and do nothing, Alison.

616
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,229
In

617
00:23:34,230 --> 00:23:38,030
my version of doing nothing,
my sister mocks me endlessly.

618
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:39,379
It's like I turn into a pro voter.

619
00:23:41,479 --> 00:23:45,080
So I literally just start planning
people's weddings and funerals.

620
00:23:45,540 --> 00:23:46,169
Legit, I get

621
00:23:46,170 --> 00:23:46,909
like

622
00:23:46,909 --> 00:23:48,479
super into funerals.

623
00:23:48,479 --> 00:23:52,739
And I start showing, like, it's very
expensive, me not doing anything.

624
00:23:52,750 --> 00:23:55,209
Because I keep like buying
things to do nothing.

625
00:23:55,219 --> 00:23:55,549
Right?

626
00:23:56,009 --> 00:24:00,169
Like to support me and my
energy, I'm doing nothing.

627
00:24:00,169 --> 00:24:01,179
So back to believe.

628
00:24:01,689 --> 00:24:05,659
Um, I believe in myself.

629
00:24:05,659 --> 00:24:09,665
You know, I like, um, I love that
question, and I love the idea

630
00:24:09,745 --> 00:24:18,024
of proving versus belief, and I
think where, oh, ew, I hate when

631
00:24:18,024 --> 00:24:20,145
you ask me questions that I need.

632
00:24:20,814 --> 00:24:21,697
Stop it!

633
00:24:21,697 --> 00:24:25,784
Don't make me, don't make me
reflect on what I need to hear.

634
00:24:26,504 --> 00:24:31,625
No, um, but that's, that's really what
it is where it's like, okay, do I believe

635
00:24:31,625 --> 00:24:35,294
in myself, or am I trying to prove
something to myself or other people?

636
00:24:35,294 --> 00:24:35,364
I don't.

637
00:24:36,095 --> 00:24:39,035
And, you know, trying to prove
yourself will get you pretty

638
00:24:39,035 --> 00:24:41,905
far, or it will get you so far.

639
00:24:41,925 --> 00:24:42,585
Some drive behind it.

640
00:24:42,595 --> 00:24:43,185
Yeah!

641
00:24:43,185 --> 00:24:46,895
There's energy, there's drive,
there's some good anger, there's

642
00:24:46,905 --> 00:24:48,665
some like, I'm going to show you.

643
00:24:48,695 --> 00:24:48,895
Yeah.

644
00:24:49,174 --> 00:24:57,685
And I do think a lot of energy
behind the first act of my life

645
00:24:57,705 --> 00:24:59,094
had a lot of proving in it.

646
00:24:59,545 --> 00:25:00,155
Behind it.

647
00:25:00,155 --> 00:25:00,405
Yeah.

648
00:25:00,665 --> 00:25:01,995
Take me seriously.

649
00:25:02,155 --> 00:25:03,555
Don't take me too seriously.

650
00:25:03,825 --> 00:25:04,865
I'm really fun.

651
00:25:04,915 --> 00:25:07,225
I'm not just a girl who pops out of cakes.

652
00:25:07,365 --> 00:25:10,265
I also have a business school, right?

653
00:25:10,444 --> 00:25:11,705
I'm not just a business school.

654
00:25:12,865 --> 00:25:13,065
Right.

655
00:25:13,065 --> 00:25:21,344
Um, and I do think that there's, you
know, it's really easy to believe that

656
00:25:21,344 --> 00:25:27,094
you believe in yourself, but I think
like the, the first thing to do is.

657
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:29,100
To just get really honest with yourself.

658
00:25:29,100 --> 00:25:30,510
Like, what do you feel
like you need to prove?

659
00:25:31,460 --> 00:25:35,910
Um, and noticing where
the energy is coming from.

660
00:25:36,270 --> 00:25:42,939
And it has been a really curious
experiment to not have my

661
00:25:42,999 --> 00:25:47,210
energy coming from a place of
needing to prove or achieve.

662
00:25:48,190 --> 00:25:56,755
And I'm going to tell you, it's like not
quite as, um, Because when you're trying

663
00:25:56,755 --> 00:25:59,695
to prove, it's very public by nature.

664
00:25:59,695 --> 00:26:00,404
And

665
00:26:00,405 --> 00:26:03,155
when you're not trying to prove
something, you just believe it.

666
00:26:03,795 --> 00:26:04,645
It's private.

667
00:26:04,664 --> 00:26:05,985
It's more private.

668
00:26:06,345 --> 00:26:11,824
And so part of the trying to prove is
very public and very vocal and very loud.

669
00:26:11,864 --> 00:26:12,004
And

670
00:26:12,005 --> 00:26:12,285
it

671
00:26:12,545 --> 00:26:13,674
draws people in.

672
00:26:14,075 --> 00:26:15,125
Because they believe in you.

673
00:26:15,125 --> 00:26:16,485
It's like a hero's journey.

674
00:26:16,485 --> 00:26:17,505
It's a story.

675
00:26:17,905 --> 00:26:25,479
And so just the nature of me trying to
prove made me performative or More public.

676
00:26:25,580 --> 00:26:26,330
Outwardly.

677
00:26:26,429 --> 00:26:27,469
Outwardly.

678
00:26:27,479 --> 00:26:28,550
Because I want Box

679
00:26:28,550 --> 00:26:29,330
on the checklist.

680
00:26:29,330 --> 00:26:31,139
Yeah, but also I need to tell you.

681
00:26:31,259 --> 00:26:32,499
I need to prove myself to you.

682
00:26:32,509 --> 00:26:33,560
So I have to talk to you.

683
00:26:33,830 --> 00:26:35,959
If I'm just sitting at home and
I don't have to prove anything

684
00:26:35,959 --> 00:26:37,739
to you, I don't need to show up.

685
00:26:38,100 --> 00:26:44,389
So it has been difficult and interesting,
an interesting experiment to notice how

686
00:26:44,389 --> 00:26:51,420
do you accomplish and achieve from a place
of intention, of purpose, Like, let's say

687
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:58,639
joy, enthusiasm versus proving and like
compulsive behavior to work and achieve.

688
00:26:58,950 --> 00:26:59,120
Wow.

689
00:26:59,120 --> 00:27:03,569
And it's um, I mean it's kind of crazy.

690
00:27:04,079 --> 00:27:05,649
It's really crazy.

691
00:27:05,649 --> 00:27:08,609
And I think it goes back to the
title, You're Already Awesome.

692
00:27:08,729 --> 00:27:14,489
We are in so much the habit of
compulsively proving and earning.

693
00:27:15,215 --> 00:27:19,665
That when you tell someone they
don't have to, they're like,

694
00:27:19,675 --> 00:27:20,945
well, then what would I even

695
00:27:20,955 --> 00:27:21,395
do?

696
00:27:22,545 --> 00:27:26,234
And it's almost insulting to tell
someone they don't need to earn or

697
00:27:26,235 --> 00:27:30,525
prove anything when they are spending
every waking minute, whether they're

698
00:27:30,525 --> 00:27:33,344
conscious of it or not, in that space.

699
00:27:33,355 --> 00:27:35,345
It's almost threatening
to their way of life.

700
00:27:36,264 --> 00:27:37,155
She's talking to me.

701
00:27:37,155 --> 00:27:38,977
I don't need to be.

702
00:27:38,977 --> 00:27:40,799
I don't need to be.

703
00:27:40,799 --> 00:27:41,528
I'm teasing.

704
00:27:41,528 --> 00:27:42,257
I'm teasing.

705
00:27:42,257 --> 00:27:42,986
I'm teasing.

706
00:27:42,986 --> 00:27:43,854
I love that.

707
00:27:43,904 --> 00:27:49,414
And a little bit about Jen, too,
is she teaches and her background

708
00:27:49,415 --> 00:27:50,814
and her book is on identity.

709
00:27:51,419 --> 00:27:54,800
And so as often, right, isn't
this the way that it goes when you

710
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:56,460
connect, especially with other women?

711
00:27:56,460 --> 00:27:58,980
Like you're like, Oh,
I needed to hear that.

712
00:27:58,980 --> 00:28:00,839
This is like, what are you doing today?

713
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:05,909
But truly like, like, where is that
intention coming from versus your drive?

714
00:28:05,939 --> 00:28:11,629
I mean, because you're very extroverted,
bubbly, you have an amazing message

715
00:28:11,629 --> 00:28:16,419
to share, but then how do you
define, is this for everybody else?

716
00:28:16,439 --> 00:28:19,570
Or is this my view within me?

717
00:28:19,945 --> 00:28:21,605
And that's the driving force.

718
00:28:21,605 --> 00:28:29,315
And there's permission and permission
when you're doing it to serve people,

719
00:28:29,325 --> 00:28:32,374
especially if you're a cute woman like us.

720
00:28:32,375 --> 00:28:36,915
Cause we're allowed to be aggressive
and want things in the service of other

721
00:28:36,925 --> 00:28:40,995
people for the good of other people,
for the betterment of the planet.

722
00:28:41,285 --> 00:28:46,124
I don't just get to say I want a
million podcast followers because I

723
00:28:46,124 --> 00:28:47,275
don't want people to listen to me.

724
00:28:47,780 --> 00:28:49,150
That makes me a narcissist.

725
00:28:49,150 --> 00:28:54,730
That makes me a big ego, maniacal
overlord, like all the things.

726
00:28:55,300 --> 00:29:00,520
But if I want a million people to feel
empowered and love themselves and believe

727
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:02,570
they're already as awesome as they can be.

728
00:29:02,690 --> 00:29:03,000
Yeah.

729
00:29:03,190 --> 00:29:04,539
Well, I'm an altruistic saint.

730
00:29:04,670 --> 00:29:05,300
Yeah.

731
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:09,060
Now they can both be coming from
the same place though, right?

732
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:10,600
And you can trick yourself.

733
00:29:10,950 --> 00:29:12,360
So I'm not like really
trying to be negative.

734
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:17,340
I'm just, I'm just more saying
like, It is pretty mind blowing

735
00:29:17,409 --> 00:29:22,969
when you truly give yourself
permission to believe you're good.

736
00:29:23,750 --> 00:29:24,469
Like you're good.

737
00:29:25,310 --> 00:29:26,479
Like lose 10 pounds.

738
00:29:26,529 --> 00:29:26,980
You're good.

739
00:29:27,069 --> 00:29:28,540
Gain 40 pounds.

740
00:29:28,750 --> 00:29:29,229
You're good.

741
00:29:29,580 --> 00:29:30,370
Lose your house.

742
00:29:30,439 --> 00:29:31,259
Lose your husband.

743
00:29:31,299 --> 00:29:32,070
Lose your money.

744
00:29:32,229 --> 00:29:33,089
Lose a child.

745
00:29:33,199 --> 00:29:34,049
Lose your family.

746
00:29:34,679 --> 00:29:35,179
You're good.

747
00:29:36,610 --> 00:29:42,009
It's not going to feel good, but
you inherently and wholly feel good.

748
00:29:42,010 --> 00:29:43,649
You are good.

749
00:29:43,650 --> 00:29:43,910
Yeah.

750
00:29:44,010 --> 00:29:44,640
You're good.

751
00:29:45,390 --> 00:29:48,450
Like, and, and I believe that.

752
00:29:49,860 --> 00:29:53,319
Like, so when you talk about
belief, I think one thing that has

753
00:29:53,319 --> 00:29:55,690
worked for me is I believe that.

754
00:29:56,250 --> 00:29:56,370
Yeah.

755
00:29:56,410 --> 00:29:57,599
I just, I believe it.

756
00:29:57,909 --> 00:29:58,559
I know it.

757
00:29:58,599 --> 00:29:59,370
I believe it.

758
00:29:59,379 --> 00:30:00,219
I feel it for you.

759
00:30:00,249 --> 00:30:01,209
I feel it for me.

760
00:30:01,649 --> 00:30:02,279
I know it.

761
00:30:02,529 --> 00:30:05,659
Now, uh, I think a big part of my
journey was knowing it for myself

762
00:30:05,659 --> 00:30:08,479
as much as I knew it for other
people and really believing it

763
00:30:08,509 --> 00:30:10,249
without having to earn and prove.

764
00:30:11,019 --> 00:30:18,879
And um, now when I show up with that
belief, rather than trying to prove

765
00:30:19,299 --> 00:30:23,649
to you where I will say I can see the
biggest differences in my interpersonal

766
00:30:23,649 --> 00:30:25,259
relationships and my one on one.

767
00:30:25,904 --> 00:30:28,684
Conversations where people
like talking to me more.

768
00:30:28,944 --> 00:30:33,404
Yeah, like friends and family if
they have a problem They're much more

769
00:30:33,404 --> 00:30:35,634
likely to come to me with it now.

770
00:30:35,794 --> 00:30:40,709
Yeah, then maybe When I looked on
top of my game and I'm speaking

771
00:30:40,709 --> 00:30:45,149
to 10, 000 people and everybody
loves me on the Instagram, right?

772
00:30:45,239 --> 00:30:45,429
I

773
00:30:45,429 --> 00:30:46,040
love that.

774
00:30:46,049 --> 00:30:49,879
I think what we're speaking to is
being your true authentic self.

775
00:30:49,889 --> 00:30:50,479
Yeah.

776
00:30:50,519 --> 00:30:56,294
Like what is that internal innate
motivator that gets you and that belief?

777
00:30:56,544 --> 00:30:57,644
Beautiful question, Jen.

778
00:30:57,644 --> 00:30:58,935
Yeah, I know, I know!

779
00:30:59,495 --> 00:31:01,667
Jen was like, you know what?

780
00:31:01,667 --> 00:31:04,706
I'm in my car having this conversation.

781
00:31:04,706 --> 00:31:10,254
There's so much of it ingrained, though,
in part of you and your word and your

782
00:31:10,254 --> 00:31:15,215
message and finding identity, not losing
that identity in motherhood, right?

783
00:31:15,234 --> 00:31:18,624
Because truly as women, too, we play
so many different roles and it's like,

784
00:31:19,479 --> 00:31:23,830
Often you can lose yourself in the
things, in the death, in the marriage,

785
00:31:23,870 --> 00:31:26,669
in the relationship, which is a big one.

786
00:31:27,529 --> 00:31:31,469
And I think that's why, you know, you're
already as awesome as you need to be.

787
00:31:31,489 --> 00:31:33,550
My podcast, Awesome with Allison.

788
00:31:33,570 --> 00:31:35,359
When I say like, only you can be you.

789
00:31:35,789 --> 00:31:37,899
I am very much in the brand school.

790
00:31:37,899 --> 00:31:40,399
I would teach, we do
human needs psychology.

791
00:31:40,709 --> 00:31:45,259
One of my core motivators
values is identity.

792
00:31:45,979 --> 00:31:49,330
I'm, I'm very driven by it by myself.

793
00:31:49,409 --> 00:31:50,659
I mean, it's the Alison show.

794
00:31:50,689 --> 00:31:51,179
Hi.

795
00:31:51,679 --> 00:31:53,789
But also notice how I set my goal.

796
00:31:53,830 --> 00:31:57,919
I'm like my new identity for
2025 is I get 10, 000 steps.

797
00:31:57,919 --> 00:31:58,199
Yeah.

798
00:31:58,619 --> 00:32:03,489
And I have noticed it has helped
me with that goal, that intention.

799
00:32:03,884 --> 00:32:06,354
I'm making it part of my identity
because if it's not part of

800
00:32:06,404 --> 00:32:07,495
my identity, I don't care.

801
00:32:07,604 --> 00:32:08,695
Yeah, for sure.

802
00:32:08,695 --> 00:32:10,294
That's just a thing.

803
00:32:10,294 --> 00:32:11,874
But there are other people

804
00:32:15,594 --> 00:32:20,074
who it would be much more beneficial for
them, because maybe a core human values

805
00:32:20,094 --> 00:32:23,904
connection, that the 10, 000 steps is
something they do with other people.

806
00:32:24,564 --> 00:32:25,245
Got it.

807
00:32:25,284 --> 00:32:25,634
Right?

808
00:32:25,654 --> 00:32:29,274
So that would be like, that's
going to work for some people.

809
00:32:29,284 --> 00:32:33,325
I bet it would work For Jen, because
Jen wrote a book about identity.

810
00:32:33,335 --> 00:32:35,504
She's giving out what she needs.

811
00:32:35,635 --> 00:32:36,115
Right?

812
00:32:36,284 --> 00:32:41,595
And so making something like that part of
your identity is going to help you do it.

813
00:32:41,625 --> 00:32:41,875
Yeah.

814
00:32:42,205 --> 00:32:42,685
Right?

815
00:32:42,995 --> 00:32:43,395
Dang it.

816
00:32:43,405 --> 00:32:45,014
You really are helping me right now.

817
00:32:45,345 --> 00:32:46,474
This is so good.

818
00:32:46,474 --> 00:32:47,475
This is terrible.

819
00:32:47,485 --> 00:32:48,235
Thank you for this.

820
00:32:48,355 --> 00:32:49,325
Oh my gosh.

821
00:32:50,655 --> 00:32:51,225
I know.

822
00:32:52,514 --> 00:32:54,415
The teacher learns the most, right?

823
00:32:54,415 --> 00:32:56,704
Always.

824
00:32:56,704 --> 00:32:56,874
Always.

825
00:32:57,014 --> 00:32:57,185
Yes.

826
00:32:57,635 --> 00:32:57,955
Completely.

827
00:32:59,109 --> 00:33:03,779
Here's as we were talking, um, a little
bit before this in the podcast on some

828
00:33:03,779 --> 00:33:05,299
questions that we wanted to ask you.

829
00:33:13,859 --> 00:33:18,739
So if you have to create a super
fun, three step awesome plan.

830
00:33:19,609 --> 00:33:24,069
For someone feeling stuck today,
what would be the easiest, quickest

831
00:33:24,089 --> 00:33:26,129
way to feel more awesome like

832
00:33:26,129 --> 00:33:27,329
as in right now?

833
00:33:27,539 --> 00:33:29,059
Okay, I love this question.

834
00:33:29,069 --> 00:33:29,829
Thank you so much.

835
00:33:29,869 --> 00:33:31,979
I actually know step
number one immediately.

836
00:33:32,629 --> 00:33:34,179
And it's let's get petty.

837
00:33:34,519 --> 00:33:35,079
Oh.

838
00:33:35,159 --> 00:33:36,229
Oh my gosh.

839
00:33:36,279 --> 00:33:39,569
We are just so, especially if
you're asking that question.

840
00:33:39,569 --> 00:33:39,879
Yes.

841
00:33:40,399 --> 00:33:42,059
If you're listening to this podcast.

842
00:33:42,059 --> 00:33:42,229
Yes.

843
00:33:43,084 --> 00:33:43,814
I know you.

844
00:33:43,815 --> 00:33:44,824
Sister.

845
00:33:44,824 --> 00:33:46,064
Sister, I know you.

846
00:33:46,434 --> 00:33:47,174
I got your number.

847
00:33:48,374 --> 00:33:53,164
And you don't let yourself
feel the hard, negative things.

848
00:33:53,694 --> 00:33:56,134
Because if you're mad at
someone, they hurt your feelings.

849
00:33:56,194 --> 00:33:56,584
Yes.

850
00:33:56,614 --> 00:34:00,054
Well, you're a responsible,
emotionally intelligent person.

851
00:34:00,054 --> 00:34:02,064
You're going to take hyper accountability.

852
00:34:02,065 --> 00:34:04,374
And here, I know where
they're coming from.

853
00:34:04,634 --> 00:34:06,245
And I know what their dad was like.

854
00:34:06,245 --> 00:34:09,584
And I know they probably said that
because they really mean this.

855
00:34:10,109 --> 00:34:10,919
Well guess what?

856
00:34:11,359 --> 00:34:13,199
Whatever they said freaking
hurt your feelings.

857
00:34:14,019 --> 00:34:16,310
So let's just get petty
for just a quick sec.

858
00:34:17,060 --> 00:34:17,979
They hurt my feelings.

859
00:34:18,439 --> 00:34:19,199
Screw her.

860
00:34:19,399 --> 00:34:22,469
I hope she trips on a rock
and gets a scar on her nose.

861
00:34:22,789 --> 00:34:23,279
I do.

862
00:34:23,639 --> 00:34:24,089
I really

863
00:34:24,089 --> 00:34:24,370
do.

864
00:34:25,359 --> 00:34:25,889
Screw her.

865
00:34:25,889 --> 00:34:26,520
I don't agree with anything.

866
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:28,219
I

867
00:34:28,219 --> 00:34:29,534
want bad things for her.

868
00:34:29,754 --> 00:34:29,965
Oh, I do.

869
00:34:29,965 --> 00:34:30,984
I love those bad things.

870
00:34:31,024 --> 00:34:31,875
You get petty.

871
00:34:32,114 --> 00:34:34,774
I would never let myself say
or think something like that.

872
00:34:34,984 --> 00:34:38,514
Almost with like a superstitious
like, God will smite me.

873
00:34:39,435 --> 00:34:43,054
And it's really easy in the self
development world to get there.

874
00:34:43,185 --> 00:34:45,935
Where we don't just like,
notice our feelings.

875
00:34:45,935 --> 00:34:48,185
We micromanage our feelings.

876
00:34:48,464 --> 00:34:50,804
And I very much felt this way about anger.

877
00:34:50,835 --> 00:34:53,560
Where I'm like, It's like pedestrian.

878
00:34:54,650 --> 00:34:56,639
It's like beneath me to be angry.

879
00:34:56,790 --> 00:34:59,720
Like I'm way too advanced a human.

880
00:35:00,050 --> 00:35:01,520
Why would you get angry?

881
00:35:01,809 --> 00:35:02,249
Right?

882
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:04,390
But really that's just a control thing.

883
00:35:04,710 --> 00:35:08,889
And if I, if I give you the
control to hurt my feelings,

884
00:35:08,949 --> 00:35:10,239
then I'm giving you control.

885
00:35:10,240 --> 00:35:11,347
Right?

886
00:35:11,347 --> 00:35:14,645
But I still am hurt.

887
00:35:15,165 --> 00:35:18,154
So if you are feeling stuck,
if you are feeling not awesome,

888
00:35:18,415 --> 00:35:19,845
it's not becoming a victim.

889
00:35:19,904 --> 00:35:21,865
It's not blaming things on other people.

890
00:35:22,285 --> 00:35:27,145
My step number one is what's the feeling
you're not letting yourself feel?

891
00:35:28,105 --> 00:35:34,154
Because anxiety, um, depression,
uh, constant action or numbing,

892
00:35:34,254 --> 00:35:40,535
all of those are to cover That
it feels unsafe for you to feel.

893
00:35:41,315 --> 00:35:45,405
So I would also like to validate the
reason you don't feel angry or you want

894
00:35:45,405 --> 00:35:49,034
to get petty is because somewhere along
the line somebody told you that that was a

895
00:35:49,035 --> 00:35:51,695
very bad, horrible, not safe thing to do.

896
00:35:52,644 --> 00:35:58,824
So in my coaching, I would say like
at least once an hour with everyone,

897
00:35:58,824 --> 00:36:00,414
I'm like, no, no, no, let's get petty.

898
00:36:00,980 --> 00:36:01,940
Ew, I hate that.

899
00:36:02,100 --> 00:36:03,550
Ew, they're the worst, right?

900
00:36:03,550 --> 00:36:09,060
Just like, just get it, help it, let
yourself, like, write it down and burn it.

901
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:13,980
But like, we are in such a
crazy place of either censoring

902
00:36:13,980 --> 00:36:16,170
ourself or ripping people anew.

903
00:36:17,510 --> 00:36:20,230
Under the guise of like
a moral superiority.

904
00:36:20,230 --> 00:36:24,220
Like, I'm allowed to be mean to
people if I'm morally superior to

905
00:36:24,220 --> 00:36:25,419
them.

906
00:36:25,420 --> 00:36:26,530
No, don't be mean.

907
00:36:26,780 --> 00:36:27,750
Be mean in your head.

908
00:36:28,179 --> 00:36:29,720
It's safe to be mean in your head.

909
00:36:29,950 --> 00:36:30,210
Right?

910
00:36:30,230 --> 00:36:33,130
Or maybe tell your 14 year old
all the things you want to say to

911
00:36:33,130 --> 00:36:35,312
your neighbor before you say that.

912
00:36:35,312 --> 00:36:36,922
The first thing.

913
00:36:36,922 --> 00:36:37,995
Yeah, I

914
00:36:37,995 --> 00:36:38,531
am.

915
00:36:38,531 --> 00:36:40,140
My mom said.

916
00:36:40,140 --> 00:36:41,960
That's not what I heard.

917
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,790
And step number one, I
love calling it be petty.

918
00:36:44,849 --> 00:36:44,909
Uh

919
00:36:44,910 --> 00:36:45,170
huh.

920
00:36:45,179 --> 00:36:49,125
But what I really mean by that is
You get to be yourself, because

921
00:36:49,125 --> 00:36:51,665
essentially what you're doing
is you're gaslighting yourself.

922
00:36:51,915 --> 00:36:52,735
I don't feel bad.

923
00:36:53,585 --> 00:36:54,155
I'm not angry.

924
00:36:54,155 --> 00:36:54,885
I'm not hurt.

925
00:36:55,095 --> 00:36:55,725
I'm not sad.

926
00:36:56,535 --> 00:36:58,305
So step into the feeling
and feel the feeling.

927
00:36:58,444 --> 00:36:59,304
Yeah.

928
00:36:59,635 --> 00:37:00,584
And then,

929
00:37:00,894 --> 00:37:02,514
I think, let's see, okay, I like this.

930
00:37:02,524 --> 00:37:03,044
Step number one.

931
00:37:03,934 --> 00:37:04,714
Yeah, we can do it again afterwards.

932
00:37:05,644 --> 00:37:07,595
My petty came out to pee.

933
00:37:08,375 --> 00:37:14,265
And step number two, hmm, I think
maybe like, tune into your values.

934
00:37:14,265 --> 00:37:14,329
Step number three.

935
00:37:14,330 --> 00:37:21,410
Um, cause once you get petty, then we
want to come in and like soothe that.

936
00:37:22,950 --> 00:37:26,520
Where it's like, okay, um,
that person hurt my feelings.

937
00:37:26,965 --> 00:37:28,535
They didn't give me the
benefit of the doubt.

938
00:37:28,545 --> 00:37:29,625
They didn't trust me.

939
00:37:29,625 --> 00:37:32,075
They didn't ask me before
jumping to that conclusion.

940
00:37:32,325 --> 00:37:34,905
This may or may not be a real
example for my life this week.

941
00:37:35,355 --> 00:37:40,755
And, um, it's like pretty offensive that
I've known them for that long, and they

942
00:37:40,755 --> 00:37:44,175
just jumped to that conclusion without
giving me the benefit of the doubt.

943
00:37:44,425 --> 00:37:45,445
That hurt my feelings.

944
00:37:45,445 --> 00:37:45,869
Right?

945
00:37:45,869 --> 00:37:47,566
Feelings are so awesome.

946
00:37:47,566 --> 00:37:55,204
So if I was gonna move into step two,
then I would go, okay, what are my values?

947
00:37:56,345 --> 00:38:01,415
and I'm like, well, I value
letting everyone be themselves.

948
00:38:02,345 --> 00:38:04,685
I might even go, wow,
that hurt my feelings.

949
00:38:04,685 --> 00:38:08,225
Like that was maybe like a two
and it hurt my feelings like a 15

950
00:38:09,185 --> 00:38:09,215
mm.

951
00:38:09,245 --> 00:38:12,154
So then I might get like
really curious, right?

952
00:38:12,154 --> 00:38:17,165
Like curious about like, why
am I valuing that so intensely?

953
00:38:17,230 --> 00:38:18,290
Mm-hmm . Right?

954
00:38:18,380 --> 00:38:18,730
Right.

955
00:38:19,190 --> 00:38:20,735
And so why am I, um.

956
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:25,480
And like, why am I
valuing not getting angry?

957
00:38:26,670 --> 00:38:30,330
Like, why am I valuing not
letting anything affect me?

958
00:38:30,540 --> 00:38:34,650
Because then I might ask myself, do
I really believe that good people

959
00:38:34,650 --> 00:38:36,149
don't let anything affect them?

960
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:42,700
I mean, like, the Zen men of
meditation would have you believing.

961
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:46,760
Like, God bless you, Eckhart Tolle,
but he would have you believing.

962
00:38:47,319 --> 00:38:50,689
God bless you, Michael Singer, but
he would have you believing that

963
00:38:50,689 --> 00:38:54,780
you having no feelings and emotions
is correct, a. k. a. masculine.

964
00:38:54,780 --> 00:38:59,570
Also, interesting, um, we're human.

965
00:38:59,570 --> 00:39:02,491
I'm pretty sure we're
built to have emotions.

966
00:39:02,491 --> 00:39:03,148
Wait

967
00:39:03,148 --> 00:39:05,119
till dinner, Michael!

968
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:08,779
Okay, like I actually value
a range of human emotion.

969
00:39:08,780 --> 00:39:13,270
So it helps me tie back.

970
00:39:13,279 --> 00:39:17,420
So it would be, I'd get petty, and
then I'd check in with my values, and

971
00:39:17,420 --> 00:39:23,399
then probably the third step would be,
what would be, it would probably be

972
00:39:23,399 --> 00:39:27,270
like physiology, which would be move.

973
00:39:27,735 --> 00:39:28,275
Something.

974
00:39:28,485 --> 00:39:33,625
Move a piece of furniture, move your body,
go for a walk, move your mind, because

975
00:39:33,625 --> 00:39:38,195
it is scientifically the fastest way to
change your mental and emotional state.

976
00:39:38,635 --> 00:39:42,965
So that, that would be like a science
research based thing, where it's

977
00:39:42,965 --> 00:39:44,244
like, okay, now we're going to move.

978
00:39:44,304 --> 00:39:45,669
Yeah, we're going to move something.

979
00:39:45,669 --> 00:39:46,675
Move and lock it in.

980
00:39:47,055 --> 00:39:47,495
Yeah, yeah.

981
00:39:47,685 --> 00:39:48,375
Move that energy.

982
00:39:48,405 --> 00:39:52,535
And the great thing is, is like,
just because I move, and this is

983
00:39:52,535 --> 00:39:55,314
what I used to do, I might move,
and then I'm like, oh I got mad.

984
00:39:55,315 --> 00:39:55,445
Yeah.

985
00:39:56,675 --> 00:39:57,255
I felt sad.

986
00:39:57,255 --> 00:39:58,165
I journaled it.

987
00:39:58,445 --> 00:39:58,975
I burned it.

988
00:39:58,975 --> 00:40:01,075
Had a little bonfire, right?

989
00:40:01,815 --> 00:40:02,965
But then I'm still mad.

990
00:40:04,635 --> 00:40:07,579
And like, no, you're not so mad.

991
00:40:07,910 --> 00:40:08,759
We worked

992
00:40:08,759 --> 00:40:09,360
through this.

993
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:12,340
Well, here we go.

994
00:40:13,299 --> 00:40:15,920
And then you repeat the cycle.

995
00:40:16,630 --> 00:40:17,590
It's so beautiful.

996
00:40:18,410 --> 00:40:19,259
We need your help.

997
00:40:20,690 --> 00:40:21,209
I know.

998
00:40:21,210 --> 00:40:23,740
Challenge accepted.

999
00:40:25,490 --> 00:40:26,310
Thank you, Barney.

1000
00:40:26,310 --> 00:40:31,020
No, I think that's beautiful
because it's really tangible things

1001
00:40:31,020 --> 00:40:32,190
that people can do right now.

1002
00:40:34,060 --> 00:40:34,190
That

1003
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:35,240
was so beautiful.

1004
00:40:35,300 --> 00:40:35,590
I'm going to

1005
00:40:35,590 --> 00:40:36,160
practice them.

1006
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:36,989
Good.

1007
00:40:36,990 --> 00:40:37,830
You know what?

1008
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:39,940
Becks, I'm going to do it too.

1009
00:40:39,940 --> 00:40:42,289
I love it.

1010
00:40:42,289 --> 00:40:43,530
We'll connect at WOW.

1011
00:40:43,530 --> 00:40:43,750
Yes.

1012
00:40:43,750 --> 00:40:45,918
You don't have to worry about me.

1013
00:40:45,918 --> 00:40:48,087
You don't have to worry about me.

1014
00:40:48,087 --> 00:40:48,706
No, you

1015
00:40:48,706 --> 00:40:50,565
don't have to worry about me.

1016
00:40:50,565 --> 00:40:50,875
Completely.

1017
00:40:50,875 --> 00:40:51,804
Speaking of WOW.

1018
00:40:52,185 --> 00:40:55,555
Yes, again, we talked that you
are going to be our keynote

1019
00:40:55,555 --> 00:40:57,265
speaker, so thank you for that.

1020
00:40:57,265 --> 00:40:58,041
for

1021
00:40:58,041 --> 00:40:58,818
having

1022
00:40:58,818 --> 00:40:59,594
me!

1023
00:40:59,595 --> 00:41:01,114
What do we anticipate?

1024
00:41:01,114 --> 00:41:01,935
What can we expect?

1025
00:41:02,245 --> 00:41:06,005
Oh, you can anticipate
Anything can happen.

1026
00:41:06,035 --> 00:41:07,705
Yeah, anything can happen.

1027
00:41:09,855 --> 00:41:10,675
Oh gosh.

1028
00:41:10,685 --> 00:41:11,775
How do I keep it appropriate?

1029
00:41:11,775 --> 00:41:13,770
Or what

1030
00:41:13,770 --> 00:41:17,504
can we do to help repair them?

1031
00:41:17,504 --> 00:41:18,735
Or something that we can do with our

1032
00:41:19,155 --> 00:41:19,765
community.

1033
00:41:20,025 --> 00:41:22,125
Here's what I would love to ask you guys.

1034
00:41:22,265 --> 00:41:26,635
Is What do you feel like,
cause you're talking to people.

1035
00:41:26,665 --> 00:41:28,555
You had an event last night.

1036
00:41:29,105 --> 00:41:32,155
People probably asked questions
and people opened and shared.

1037
00:41:32,395 --> 00:41:34,164
What do you, what's your vibe?

1038
00:41:34,315 --> 00:41:36,275
Like, what do you think
people need right now?

1039
00:41:36,275 --> 00:41:37,765
Like, where do you think people are at?

1040
00:41:38,145 --> 00:41:41,155
Are there any questions or
themes you guys are noticing?

1041
00:41:41,650 --> 00:41:41,960
This is

1042
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:44,879
a fun question because Mary
had us do the same thing.

1043
00:41:44,879 --> 00:41:47,020
She said, I want to kind of
get a feel for your audience.

1044
00:41:47,029 --> 00:41:50,529
So let's ask everybody what they
want to gain from this night.

1045
00:41:50,580 --> 00:41:53,279
And so we went around, we asked
the women, we had these answers.

1046
00:41:53,670 --> 00:41:55,640
And we came to marry it and
she's like, Oh no, I got it.

1047
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:57,660
I got a temperature of
the room and everything.

1048
00:41:57,660 --> 00:42:02,209
And so now I guess this is our opportunity
to share that we had some things

1049
00:42:02,210 --> 00:42:04,679
that, that the women were asking for.

1050
00:42:04,679 --> 00:42:07,460
So I had some that wanted inspiration.

1051
00:42:07,660 --> 00:42:10,160
One woman, she was saying
she just had a blank slate.

1052
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:11,529
She wasn't sure what to expect.

1053
00:42:11,529 --> 00:42:12,469
She was just ready.

1054
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:17,300
A lot of people wanted connection
and relationships and I'm

1055
00:42:17,300 --> 00:42:18,250
going to step out of frame.

1056
00:42:18,250 --> 00:42:19,680
Sorry to interrupt just for a second.

1057
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:27,360
And really just prioritizing that wellness
and how, how we can really tune into that.

1058
00:42:27,370 --> 00:42:31,099
Cause you know, when an ultimate wellness
was that look like, how do we really put

1059
00:42:31,099 --> 00:42:33,756
ourselves first and take care of that?

1060
00:42:33,756 --> 00:42:36,109
We're doing this live.

1061
00:42:36,109 --> 00:42:37,874
I love it.

1062
00:42:38,065 --> 00:42:38,335
So

1063
00:42:38,815 --> 00:42:44,075
this is, we had some soft launch,
um, so kudos and, um, ditto to

1064
00:42:44,075 --> 00:42:45,565
everything that you just said.

1065
00:42:45,575 --> 00:42:46,675
A lot of the women.

1066
00:42:47,654 --> 00:42:52,545
really wanted connection relationships
with each other to be in a safe

1067
00:42:52,545 --> 00:42:57,304
space and to hold space for each
other and all of their differences.

1068
00:42:57,304 --> 00:43:02,535
But what I was getting at is we had some
soft launches before our hard launch in

1069
00:43:02,535 --> 00:43:06,725
January and we have the women are our
monthly theme this month was I desire.

1070
00:43:06,734 --> 00:43:08,525
So I'm just going to throw
this out here right now.

1071
00:43:09,685 --> 00:43:13,194
So it was, what do these
women desire in the next week,

1072
00:43:13,194 --> 00:43:14,404
the next month and the next.

1073
00:43:14,944 --> 00:43:18,355
And as I was preparing for our
event, I was reading these and

1074
00:43:18,475 --> 00:43:20,345
forgive me now if I get emotional.

1075
00:43:20,944 --> 00:43:22,555
Never apologize for your emotions!

1076
00:43:22,555 --> 00:43:23,432
It's so true.

1077
00:43:23,432 --> 00:43:24,309
Didn't we learn?

1078
00:43:24,309 --> 00:43:25,084
You don't apologize!

1079
00:43:26,484 --> 00:43:26,865
No.

1080
00:43:27,064 --> 00:43:29,305
As soon as I said it, I
was like, I'm not sorry.

1081
00:43:30,214 --> 00:43:32,074
I will get emotional.

1082
00:43:32,075 --> 00:43:32,294
Yeah.

1083
00:43:32,295 --> 00:43:35,854
Um, but I just wanted to share some
of these because I think they're so

1084
00:43:35,854 --> 00:43:37,455
beautiful right from our community.

1085
00:43:37,835 --> 00:43:40,915
Personal meditation,
education, completion.

1086
00:43:41,295 --> 00:43:44,005
I desire to get a strong body this year.

1087
00:43:44,424 --> 00:43:49,124
Comfort and peace, learning the
process of growth, connecting with

1088
00:43:49,134 --> 00:43:54,275
others, um, to slow down and think
things through before I commit.

1089
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:57,830
Oh, okay.

1090
00:43:57,830 --> 00:44:02,220
I didn't write it, but I could
have growing my business,

1091
00:44:02,470 --> 00:44:05,019
love, joy, happiness, success.

1092
00:44:05,100 --> 00:44:08,729
Um, having gratitude and
letting go of negativity.

1093
00:44:09,240 --> 00:44:11,959
I know we've got a couple of
women in the group that talk about

1094
00:44:11,959 --> 00:44:13,749
finding more time for my family.

1095
00:44:13,769 --> 00:44:15,989
Others are going right
in the thick of divorce.

1096
00:44:15,999 --> 00:44:21,269
So there's some hard out there, but I
think really, truly, as you're looking

1097
00:44:21,269 --> 00:44:25,640
through this, I would love to grow the
family business, garden, homemaking

1098
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:27,680
skills, work through childhood trauma.

1099
00:44:27,990 --> 00:44:32,559
So there is some powerful stuff in that
room and emotion, but I think a lot of

1100
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:38,190
it goes back to friendships, connecting,
feeling confident, feeling worthy.

1101
00:44:38,460 --> 00:44:40,860
Yeah, super powerful stuff.

1102
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,390
So yeah, we're excited
and you're beautiful.

1103
00:44:43,390 --> 00:44:47,289
I

1104
00:44:47,290 --> 00:44:52,509
really do because, you know, like
I said, the book was the dream.

1105
00:44:53,019 --> 00:44:53,889
The book was the dream.

1106
00:44:54,279 --> 00:44:59,489
And then I did the dream and
I got real sick and I was

1107
00:44:59,489 --> 00:45:01,660
like I think it could be done.

1108
00:45:02,340 --> 00:45:04,227
Yeah, I did it!

1109
00:45:04,227 --> 00:45:05,984
I did it!

1110
00:45:05,984 --> 00:45:07,480
I did all of them!

1111
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:09,959
Yeah!

1112
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:13,170
Turns out, like, you turn 40 and you
still have, like, all these years left.

1113
00:45:14,150 --> 00:45:16,870
Oh my gosh, we're gonna
get to 40 in a day!

1114
00:45:16,870 --> 00:45:19,860
Like, I, like, you know, Hamilton,
like, what have you read?

1115
00:45:19,870 --> 00:45:20,810
Like, you're running out of

1116
00:45:20,810 --> 00:45:21,250
time.

1117
00:45:22,270 --> 00:45:23,959
Yeah, because we're running out of time.

1118
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:25,620
That's like how I lived my whole life.

1119
00:45:26,450 --> 00:45:27,080
And then I'm like,

1120
00:45:27,470 --> 00:45:28,910
oh, there's still all this time.

1121
00:45:29,220 --> 00:45:31,609
Like, and now what?

1122
00:45:31,830 --> 00:45:32,479
And now what?

1123
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:36,629
And it's a really
interesting place to be in.

1124
00:45:37,069 --> 00:45:43,370
And when it comes down to it, what I
feel very passionate about is connection.

1125
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:50,240
And I think the reason so many people are
craving that is also the other half of

1126
00:45:50,240 --> 00:45:55,030
those is You never feel more alone than
when you're going through a hard time.

1127
00:45:55,030 --> 00:45:55,570
Yeah.

1128
00:45:55,680 --> 00:45:57,080
Even with the people in your life.

1129
00:45:57,090 --> 00:45:59,999
Cause I went through a really hard
time and all of the people who

1130
00:45:59,999 --> 00:46:05,650
show up at the parties and the
work events, they aren't quite sure

1131
00:46:05,690 --> 00:46:06,920
how to show up when you're sick.

1132
00:46:06,959 --> 00:46:07,289
Yeah.

1133
00:46:08,229 --> 00:46:10,469
They're not quite sure how
to be your friend when you're

1134
00:46:10,589 --> 00:46:13,840
not the one helping them.

1135
00:46:14,220 --> 00:46:19,669
You know, and these, and, and that's
not, um, just an Allison problem.

1136
00:46:19,669 --> 00:46:21,000
That's a person problem.

1137
00:46:21,630 --> 00:46:22,750
Problem, right?

1138
00:46:22,750 --> 00:46:26,940
Where it's a lot easier to show
up for people when you feel okay.

1139
00:46:27,460 --> 00:46:31,230
And it's really hard to allow people to
show up for you when you don't feel okay.

1140
00:46:31,810 --> 00:46:37,100
And when you don't feel okay, you feel
alone and you don't feel like yourself.

1141
00:46:37,149 --> 00:46:41,659
And then you don't want the people
who know you as that other version

1142
00:46:41,659 --> 00:46:45,379
of yourself, or they're not
comfortable with you in that version.

1143
00:46:46,059 --> 00:46:49,969
And I think that it is so beautiful
that we can come together.

1144
00:46:50,355 --> 00:46:54,095
And meet new people in that space, right?

1145
00:46:54,135 --> 00:46:59,655
And so that's what I've really noticed
is there's definitely been a shift in

1146
00:46:59,675 --> 00:47:04,295
the people that I'm attracting and the
people who show up at the things I do.

1147
00:47:04,935 --> 00:47:11,995
And it's a real genuine connection
where people, um, and it's not like

1148
00:47:11,995 --> 00:47:16,235
the other type of connection is
bad, but it's more, um, Honestly,

1149
00:47:16,235 --> 00:47:17,694
it's more popularity and hype.

1150
00:47:18,995 --> 00:47:21,105
There's, there's going to the
Taylor Swift concert because

1151
00:47:21,105 --> 00:47:22,775
you're a die hard Taylor Swift fan.

1152
00:47:23,194 --> 00:47:25,485
And there's going to Taylor
Swift because it's the thing to

1153
00:47:25,485 --> 00:47:27,134
do and it's a fun thing to do.

1154
00:47:28,575 --> 00:47:34,444
And, and she did a great job at
making the fun popular thing to do.

1155
00:47:34,765 --> 00:47:36,415
The celebrities went there.

1156
00:47:36,825 --> 00:47:38,285
All the people went there.

1157
00:47:39,665 --> 00:47:42,205
We're in a financial crisis,
you know, most people put

1158
00:47:42,205 --> 00:47:45,547
it on their credit card, but

1159
00:47:45,547 --> 00:47:49,992
that's okay.

1160
00:47:49,992 --> 00:47:57,975
And, and so part of it is, um, but
you know, you can go to that huge hype

1161
00:47:58,145 --> 00:48:00,964
popular culture and still feel dead alone.

1162
00:48:01,984 --> 00:48:08,294
And I think what a lot of people are
craving is a smaller community where they

1163
00:48:08,294 --> 00:48:11,245
can go and be the aspects of themselves.

1164
00:48:11,629 --> 00:48:13,980
That they haven't really been
able to show up with other

1165
00:48:13,980 --> 00:48:16,150
places and not feel so alone.

1166
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,100
And that has been a concern
with some of the women.

1167
00:48:19,100 --> 00:48:20,470
They said, how big is this going to get?

1168
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:23,009
Cause they didn't want
that intimate connection.

1169
00:48:23,770 --> 00:48:24,430
Yeah.

1170
00:48:24,430 --> 00:48:26,569
And there's a place for all of it.

1171
00:48:26,820 --> 00:48:29,300
No, because we do need fun diversion.

1172
00:48:29,720 --> 00:48:30,640
We do need it.

1173
00:48:30,660 --> 00:48:31,660
Superficial.

1174
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:32,880
We need it.

1175
00:48:32,890 --> 00:48:34,000
We need to show up.

1176
00:48:34,020 --> 00:48:36,019
Go have a good fun time.

1177
00:48:36,020 --> 00:48:36,370
Yeah,

1178
00:48:37,260 --> 00:48:41,579
it's not necessarily a deep dive
because people are hurting like that.

1179
00:48:41,580 --> 00:48:45,765
I mean, I've been through a really
We've all been through hard.

1180
00:48:45,765 --> 00:48:46,544
It's called life.

1181
00:48:46,545 --> 00:48:48,544
It's called the

1182
00:48:48,545 --> 00:48:49,878
journey, right?

1183
00:48:49,878 --> 00:48:55,435
The heavy, ugly, horrible
things and beautiful things

1184
00:48:55,834 --> 00:48:59,075
that life is and has been.

1185
00:48:59,075 --> 00:49:02,174
But I love that it's through the process.

1186
00:49:02,734 --> 00:49:03,104
Right?

1187
00:49:03,134 --> 00:49:06,245
That we make those connections and
not everything has to be a deep dive.

1188
00:49:06,245 --> 00:49:07,684
It's fun to get out and do it.

1189
00:49:07,694 --> 00:49:07,865
Yeah!

1190
00:49:08,444 --> 00:49:08,575
You

1191
00:49:08,575 --> 00:49:08,865
know.

1192
00:49:09,134 --> 00:49:10,035
Go hang!

1193
00:49:10,274 --> 00:49:10,734
But it's

1194
00:49:11,314 --> 00:49:13,464
interesting because I talk,
you know, I coach and talk to a

1195
00:49:13,464 --> 00:49:14,874
lot of people who host events.

1196
00:49:15,075 --> 00:49:20,285
And a lot of people who host these
smaller events are having the problem.

1197
00:49:20,285 --> 00:49:22,115
They're like, people say they're
going to come or even somebody

1198
00:49:22,115 --> 00:49:24,274
inviting people over on the weekend.

1199
00:49:25,020 --> 00:49:25,740
Everybody kisses.

1200
00:49:27,380 --> 00:49:27,810
Yeah.

1201
00:49:28,070 --> 00:49:29,390
Because we all leave our houses.

1202
00:49:29,390 --> 00:49:30,950
But we're

1203
00:49:30,950 --> 00:49:32,020
all creating connections.

1204
00:49:32,020 --> 00:49:35,139
It seemed like a good idea at the time.

1205
00:49:35,139 --> 00:49:37,200
Hey, do you have any
pointers on that, Allison?

1206
00:49:37,200 --> 00:49:37,790
You tell us.

1207
00:49:38,770 --> 00:49:39,869
The pointer is,

1208
00:49:39,870 --> 00:49:43,949
is me working on not being a judgmental
jerk, and just wanting to walk up

1209
00:49:43,949 --> 00:49:45,699
to people and be like, You're sad?

1210
00:49:45,739 --> 00:49:46,459
Get it out of your house.

1211
00:49:46,499 --> 00:49:47,339
You did this to yourself.

1212
00:49:48,179 --> 00:49:50,289
I'm just working on my
compassion over here.

1213
00:49:50,289 --> 00:49:53,249
Quiet.

1214
00:49:53,315 --> 00:49:56,535
When you were speaking actually
to that earlier, I was thinking

1215
00:49:56,535 --> 00:49:59,944
about going through one of the
hardest seasons in my life.

1216
00:49:59,955 --> 00:50:04,035
And truly, I think for
me, I push people away.

1217
00:50:04,105 --> 00:50:06,684
I didn't want people to see me, right?

1218
00:50:06,685 --> 00:50:11,734
Because it's all about the persona and
Becks has got her life together and all

1219
00:50:11,734 --> 00:50:16,764
of these things that we put on ourselves,
labels that we put on ourselves.

1220
00:50:16,764 --> 00:50:19,474
And I don't really want people
to see me in this capacity.

1221
00:50:19,524 --> 00:50:19,864
Yeah.

1222
00:50:19,864 --> 00:50:24,109
And so I did, I kind of, Pushed
away and it's hard to accept help.

1223
00:50:24,109 --> 00:50:26,960
I'm, I'm somebody that's hard for
me to accept help, but you're the

1224
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:30,169
first person to show up when your
help is, I'm the first person

1225
00:50:30,169 --> 00:50:30,680
to show up.

1226
00:50:30,685 --> 00:50:31,044
Okay, girl,

1227
00:50:31,325 --> 00:50:31,964
I know about you.

1228
00:50:32,125 --> 00:50:32,990
I got your number.

1229
00:50:32,990 --> 00:50:33,080
You

1230
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:33,230
know

1231
00:50:33,230 --> 00:50:34,609
me, but it's hard.

1232
00:50:34,609 --> 00:50:37,399
So to your point of getting
there, just come, if you're

1233
00:50:37,399 --> 00:50:38,301
listening to this right now.

1234
00:50:39,044 --> 00:50:41,145
Come, this community is for you.

1235
00:50:41,154 --> 00:50:42,625
I think that's, it's come,

1236
00:50:42,625 --> 00:50:44,474
come messy.

1237
00:50:44,475 --> 00:50:45,515
Come in your jammies.

1238
00:50:45,555 --> 00:50:46,214
Totally.

1239
00:50:46,265 --> 00:50:47,924
Come as your petty.

1240
00:50:47,964 --> 00:50:48,535
Come as you are.

1241
00:50:48,535 --> 00:50:51,585
Ugly version of yourself that
to you seems petty and ugly

1242
00:50:51,585 --> 00:50:54,325
because I promise you it's not.

1243
00:50:54,535 --> 00:50:54,884
Yeah.

1244
00:50:54,975 --> 00:50:55,335
Right?

1245
00:50:55,384 --> 00:51:05,554
Like every version of you is needed and
sometimes people need to sit down and hold

1246
00:51:05,555 --> 00:51:09,879
your hand and look into your eyes for an
hour and That's usually where I take it.

1247
00:51:10,299 --> 00:51:14,379
Um, and sometimes that's
not what people want.

1248
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:18,779
And then I can feel sad that they
didn't want that gift I had to give.

1249
00:51:19,180 --> 00:51:22,169
But I've also got to remember, like,
they just, they didn't need it.

1250
00:51:22,559 --> 00:51:22,869
Yeah.

1251
00:51:23,279 --> 00:51:25,120
I think gift people a gift
they don't want or need.

1252
00:51:26,049 --> 00:51:26,779
And they'd be tiny.

1253
00:51:26,810 --> 00:51:27,819
Yeah, tiny.

1254
00:51:27,819 --> 00:51:28,069
Tiny.

1255
00:51:28,070 --> 00:51:33,044
Like, maybe they just need to
not Be in their head and in their

1256
00:51:33,044 --> 00:51:37,165
feelings and just be with people and
take a break from feeling so much.

1257
00:51:37,174 --> 00:51:37,685
Yeah.

1258
00:51:37,944 --> 00:51:44,694
And that's, it's not up to me to decide
what they need, unless of course they're

1259
00:51:44,694 --> 00:51:47,205
asking me to help them determine.

1260
00:51:47,745 --> 00:51:49,225
Um, and even then.

1261
00:51:50,635 --> 00:51:53,315
I think I'm just so
much more, I don't know.

1262
00:51:53,345 --> 00:51:56,755
I'm just at a place where I'm so much
more like, yeah, I can be super wrong.

1263
00:52:02,755 --> 00:52:07,544
If you like it and if you don't hate
me for it later, I had this guy, it

1264
00:52:07,544 --> 00:52:12,225
was not a good fit and he hired me to,
he, it just was a weird circumstance

1265
00:52:12,275 --> 00:52:15,025
and he hired me for all these sessions
of coaching and he read my book.

1266
00:52:15,025 --> 00:52:16,205
He just found me through that.

1267
00:52:16,925 --> 00:52:20,980
And by about our fourth or fifth session,
he is like, I'm feeling really mad.

1268
00:52:22,149 --> 00:52:24,819
And I was like, totally.

1269
00:52:24,919 --> 00:52:26,910
Are you feeling that anger towards me?

1270
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:28,790
The situation or what we're talking about?

1271
00:52:28,790 --> 00:52:30,690
And he's like, I think
I might be mad at you.

1272
00:52:31,819 --> 00:52:34,899
In the past, I would not have
been able to handle that.

1273
00:52:35,459 --> 00:52:38,959
I would not have been
able to receive that.

1274
00:52:39,149 --> 00:52:40,299
I wouldn't have been okay with it.

1275
00:52:40,540 --> 00:52:42,250
I wouldn't have been
able to sleep at night.

1276
00:52:42,310 --> 00:52:44,589
I wouldn't need to make
sure he was happy with me.

1277
00:52:45,410 --> 00:52:47,220
And now I'm like.

1278
00:52:47,890 --> 00:52:49,910
I talked to him for
about four or five hours.

1279
00:52:50,589 --> 00:52:51,419
I'm not too worried about it.

1280
00:52:51,420 --> 00:52:58,989
I'm no longer the
correct solution for him.

1281
00:52:59,019 --> 00:52:59,379
Yes.

1282
00:52:59,390 --> 00:53:01,559
He definitely should talk to someone else.

1283
00:53:01,559 --> 00:53:01,859
Yes.

1284
00:53:02,109 --> 00:53:05,950
And I know I made him mad because I
asked him to think about something.

1285
00:53:06,355 --> 00:53:08,175
That is very harmful in his personality.

1286
00:53:08,175 --> 00:53:11,845
Of course you don't like me.

1287
00:53:11,845 --> 00:53:13,973
People don't like when
you hold up a mirror.

1288
00:53:13,973 --> 00:53:15,343
People don't like when
you hold up a mirror.

1289
00:53:15,343 --> 00:53:17,134
People don't like when
you hold up a mirror.

1290
00:53:17,135 --> 00:53:19,095
When is that ready?

1291
00:53:19,375 --> 00:53:23,664
And even if you're paying someone
and asking them for it, they hold

1292
00:53:23,665 --> 00:53:25,055
that mirror up and you're like,

1293
00:53:25,485 --> 00:53:25,635
Yikes!

1294
00:53:25,635 --> 00:53:29,345
I won't want that from you.

1295
00:53:29,825 --> 00:53:32,375
And I've been mad at
therapists and coaches.

1296
00:53:33,865 --> 00:53:40,665
Just being able to like, Yeah, and like
sit with that and know like, and I told

1297
00:53:40,665 --> 00:53:45,225
him, I'm like, Hey, I want to thank you
again for sharing everything you shared.

1298
00:53:45,225 --> 00:53:46,554
This is super vulnerable.

1299
00:53:47,344 --> 00:53:52,004
I might not be the person and you're
going to know what's best for you.

1300
00:53:52,515 --> 00:53:54,234
And we didn't have another
session after that.

1301
00:53:55,185 --> 00:53:56,335
Our sessions were done.

1302
00:53:56,625 --> 00:53:58,615
Is it because I made a map?

1303
00:53:59,295 --> 00:54:00,835
Is it because we were done?

1304
00:54:01,775 --> 00:54:02,965
It honestly just doesn't matter.

1305
00:54:02,965 --> 00:54:03,495
It's

1306
00:54:03,495 --> 00:54:04,024
okay.

1307
00:54:04,025 --> 00:54:07,134
It's okay, but like, I used to
not be able to live with that.

1308
00:54:07,735 --> 00:54:09,445
So, back to validation.

1309
00:54:10,215 --> 00:54:13,605
Because I would have said that
I'm doing a good job if he

1310
00:54:13,605 --> 00:54:14,765
thinks I've done a good job.

1311
00:54:15,515 --> 00:54:16,224
I see.

1312
00:54:16,465 --> 00:54:17,525
That external.

1313
00:54:17,555 --> 00:54:18,755
External validation.

1314
00:54:18,764 --> 00:54:22,735
Where now the validation comes
from checking with myself.

1315
00:54:23,145 --> 00:54:26,645
Was there something that I could
have said or done differently?

1316
00:54:26,685 --> 00:54:28,335
Could I have been more compassionate?

1317
00:54:28,865 --> 00:54:30,365
Did I overstep?

1318
00:54:30,425 --> 00:54:31,505
Was I right?

1319
00:54:31,505 --> 00:54:31,775
Like

1320
00:54:31,805 --> 00:54:32,015
mm-hmm

1321
00:54:32,315 --> 00:54:37,115
.
And looking back at my actions,
I feel very comfortable and

1322
00:54:37,115 --> 00:54:38,975
secure in what they were.

1323
00:54:39,035 --> 00:54:39,305
Yeah,

1324
00:54:39,635 --> 00:54:43,595
if I didn't, I would, you know,
make amends, you know, repair,

1325
00:54:43,595 --> 00:54:45,965
apologize, whatever needs to happen.

1326
00:54:46,025 --> 00:54:49,835
Mm-hmm . Um, and so when it comes back
to that internal validation, it really

1327
00:54:49,835 --> 00:54:55,110
does require you to, on a regular basis,
check in with yourself, with your values.

1328
00:54:56,290 --> 00:55:00,680
and what your motivation is, right?

1329
00:55:00,680 --> 00:55:06,100
Whereas like, my motivation, if
somebody hires me and wants help

1330
00:55:06,100 --> 00:55:11,930
from me, my motivation is to serve
them in a way that will serve them.

1331
00:55:12,170 --> 00:55:12,560
Yeah.

1332
00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:15,940
Not to help them in the way I
think they should be helped.

1333
00:55:15,980 --> 00:55:16,170
Right.

1334
00:55:16,790 --> 00:55:21,069
Now, that's not always gonna
be what the other person wants.

1335
00:55:22,070 --> 00:55:22,470
Right?

1336
00:55:22,810 --> 00:55:24,680
And that's, it's hard.

1337
00:55:25,300 --> 00:55:25,710
Yes.

1338
00:55:26,150 --> 00:55:27,030
It's harder to

1339
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:27,850
want everybody to love you.

1340
00:55:27,850 --> 00:55:30,280
Especially when you are in that position.

1341
00:55:30,490 --> 00:55:31,070
We all do.

1342
00:55:31,070 --> 00:55:32,489
We all want love.

1343
00:55:32,490 --> 00:55:34,330
We all want acceptance of love.

1344
00:55:34,710 --> 00:55:39,165
But, truly understanding it's
not about you, it's about them!

1345
00:55:39,165 --> 00:55:39,830
I know!

1346
00:55:39,830 --> 00:55:40,783
Wait, so what is it?

1347
00:55:40,783 --> 00:55:41,670
Cause it's like all about me!

1348
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:48,500
I wanted to ask you kind of a
fun other little question too to

1349
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:49,919
switch gears just a little bit.

1350
00:55:50,329 --> 00:55:54,109
Um, you've worked with a lot of
businesses, a lot of companies, big

1351
00:55:54,110 --> 00:55:57,050
brands like Microsoft, Alaska Airlines.

1352
00:55:57,340 --> 00:56:01,550
If you could collaborate with anyone,
Um, excuse me, if you could collaborate

1353
00:56:01,550 --> 00:56:04,090
with anyone next, even Beyonce, Oprah.

1354
00:56:04,090 --> 00:56:08,429
Oh my gosh!

1355
00:56:08,430 --> 00:56:11,570
Um, should I say living or dead?

1356
00:56:11,570 --> 00:56:14,016
I'm just going to make this harder.

1357
00:56:14,016 --> 00:56:15,064
Let's say living.

1358
00:56:16,275 --> 00:56:18,515
Who would it be, and what
kind of magic would you

1359
00:56:18,515 --> 00:56:20,564
create?

1360
00:56:20,565 --> 00:56:20,595
What?

1361
00:56:21,085 --> 00:56:23,216
You're such a fun
personality, I have to ask.

1362
00:56:23,216 --> 00:56:24,182
Oh my gosh, wait!

1363
00:56:24,182 --> 00:56:26,985
But like, I don't even
collaborate with you.

1364
00:56:26,985 --> 00:56:29,327
I

1365
00:56:29,327 --> 00:56:31,669
know.

1366
00:56:34,270 --> 00:56:36,990
Because there's like people I want
to collaborate with and I'm not.

1367
00:56:37,140 --> 00:56:39,050
I went to like Wayne's
World and I'm like I'm

1368
00:56:39,050 --> 00:56:41,295
not

1369
00:56:41,295 --> 00:56:43,539
worthy.

1370
00:56:43,540 --> 00:56:45,710
Or there's just too many if it's too hard.

1371
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:47,009
No, I'll just tell

1372
00:56:47,009 --> 00:56:47,500
you this.

1373
00:56:47,530 --> 00:56:47,890
Yeah.

1374
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:50,964
Like, who do I want to
be obsessed with me?

1375
00:56:52,134 --> 00:56:55,584
Again, let's like, circle
back to like, values, Allison.

1376
00:56:55,604 --> 00:56:56,694
Toxic much?

1377
00:56:56,694 --> 00:56:58,582
Like, that's not, like, about me.

1378
00:56:58,582 --> 00:56:58,874
Like,

1379
00:56:58,874 --> 00:57:01,145
one of the people who gives me a

1380
00:57:01,145 --> 00:57:03,144
pass for everything I say.

1381
00:57:03,144 --> 00:57:03,544
Oh,

1382
00:57:03,544 --> 00:57:04,344
that's it.

1383
00:57:04,344 --> 00:57:05,274
I'm like, who

1384
00:57:05,414 --> 00:57:06,604
would I like to be in love with me?

1385
00:57:06,604 --> 00:57:07,734
That's not what she asked.

1386
00:57:07,774 --> 00:57:08,805
That's not what she asked.

1387
00:57:10,544 --> 00:57:11,887
Um, but you know, What

1388
00:57:11,887 --> 00:57:13,034
would you admire?

1389
00:57:13,035 --> 00:57:14,809
Like, who would you admire?

1390
00:57:15,140 --> 00:57:16,610
I'm obsessed with RuPaul.

1391
00:57:17,029 --> 00:57:17,600
Okay.

1392
00:57:17,690 --> 00:57:19,330
I love RuPaul.

1393
00:57:19,330 --> 00:57:20,250
I love RuPaul.

1394
00:57:20,690 --> 00:57:25,730
I love RuPaul because RuPaul has made
a career, the drug queen, has made a

1395
00:57:25,730 --> 00:57:32,610
career using their skills and platform
to give other people a platform.

1396
00:57:32,630 --> 00:57:32,950
Yeah.

1397
00:57:33,785 --> 00:57:42,365
And so when I think of, um, like career
role models, which I never used to have

1398
00:57:42,365 --> 00:57:44,435
one because I was like, I'm so special.

1399
00:57:45,124 --> 00:57:46,855
I don't need a role model.

1400
00:57:47,215 --> 00:57:51,875
And then I heard RuPaul say one time, you
got to have somebody to model your career

1401
00:57:51,875 --> 00:57:55,044
after maybe in a different like industry.

1402
00:57:55,685 --> 00:57:59,025
And I was like, Oh yeah, I don't
have to reinvent everything.

1403
00:57:59,395 --> 00:58:02,125
And RuPaul happens to
be one of those people.

1404
00:58:02,500 --> 00:58:08,490
Where, I mean, I would just absolutely
love, you know, I dream of being a

1405
00:58:08,490 --> 00:58:11,835
guest judge on Um, RuPaul's Drag Race.

1406
00:58:12,085 --> 00:58:12,515
I do.

1407
00:58:12,535 --> 00:58:13,925
I dream of it.

1408
00:58:14,255 --> 00:58:18,265
And my dream is I would never
criticize a single queen.

1409
00:58:18,284 --> 00:58:22,045
I would only tell them how proud
of them I am and how great they

1410
00:58:22,045 --> 00:58:22,345
are.

1411
00:58:22,954 --> 00:58:25,484
Um, and so, I do.

1412
00:58:25,484 --> 00:58:26,484
I have that dream.

1413
00:58:26,784 --> 00:58:29,655
But my dream is to be on a
RuPaul's show just telling

1414
00:58:29,655 --> 00:58:30,895
everyone how much I love them.

1415
00:58:30,950 --> 00:58:32,611
Is that right?

1416
00:58:32,611 --> 00:58:35,935
Do I have to pronounce it?

1417
00:58:35,935 --> 00:58:37,043
That's a

1418
00:58:37,043 --> 00:58:38,150
fine one.

1419
00:58:38,150 --> 00:58:39,258
That's a

1420
00:58:39,258 --> 00:58:39,812
good

1421
00:58:39,812 --> 00:58:40,366
one.

1422
00:58:40,366 --> 00:58:42,582
That's a good one.

1423
00:58:42,582 --> 00:58:46,279
Because they have such a
beautiful message to share.

1424
00:58:46,289 --> 00:58:46,709
Yes.

1425
00:58:46,950 --> 00:58:51,475
As well, I mean, every time I've
listened to that show, Oh, did

1426
00:58:51,475 --> 00:58:52,328
that just come out of your mouth?

1427
00:58:52,328 --> 00:58:53,875
I'm going to see that you one day.

1428
00:58:53,875 --> 00:58:55,234
Like you speak so eloquently.

1429
00:58:55,234 --> 00:58:57,964
Well, and that's why I really love RuPaul.

1430
00:58:58,435 --> 00:59:01,805
I mean, I could wax philosophical
on this, but one thing I love about

1431
00:59:01,825 --> 00:59:05,464
the show, which I've watched for
years and years and years, is RuPaul

1432
00:59:05,475 --> 00:59:06,835
chooses the winner every week.

1433
00:59:07,725 --> 00:59:09,484
He chooses who goes home and stays.

1434
00:59:09,714 --> 00:59:12,615
And I love that because
that's a lot of ownership.

1435
00:59:13,384 --> 00:59:16,234
Because lots of shows, they're
like, I'm not going to put myself

1436
00:59:16,234 --> 00:59:17,424
in a position to not be liked.

1437
00:59:17,424 --> 00:59:17,844
I love it.

1438
00:59:18,004 --> 00:59:20,205
I'm not going to put
myself in the bad way.

1439
00:59:21,265 --> 00:59:24,924
And I love Rue because at the end of the
day, and people are mad all the time.

1440
00:59:25,015 --> 00:59:26,564
People are always mad at RuPaul.

1441
00:59:26,565 --> 00:59:27,494
They're always mad at the show.

1442
00:59:27,495 --> 00:59:28,185
They did this wrong.

1443
00:59:28,185 --> 00:59:29,154
They did that wrong.

1444
00:59:29,774 --> 00:59:31,754
And I just love the ownership.

1445
00:59:32,285 --> 00:59:33,884
I love the ownership.

1446
00:59:34,304 --> 00:59:40,804
I love the using your skills to
give other people a platform.

1447
00:59:41,464 --> 00:59:42,269
Um, and I love that.

1448
00:59:42,790 --> 00:59:46,200
And I think that's something like
I, like I think that's like a talent

1449
00:59:46,270 --> 00:59:48,160
I have is seeing people's talents.

1450
00:59:49,180 --> 00:59:55,980
And I can be very aggressive about wanting
people to see their potential and talent.

1451
00:59:55,980 --> 00:59:57,733
So I had to learn.

1452
00:59:57,733 --> 01:00:00,501
See me in the arts!

1453
01:00:00,501 --> 01:00:01,055
Yeah!

1454
01:00:01,055 --> 01:00:06,037
And I had to learn to be kind about

1455
01:00:06,037 --> 01:00:07,144
the arts.

1456
01:00:07,815 --> 01:00:11,355
Well, we are so excited to have
you in the keynote, and we loved

1457
01:00:11,415 --> 01:00:13,071
having this conversation with you.

1458
01:00:13,071 --> 01:00:14,884
that was so fun!

1459
01:00:14,884 --> 01:00:15,205
for helping

1460
01:00:15,205 --> 01:00:15,775
me.

1461
01:00:16,585 --> 01:00:18,234
for giving me the conversation I needed.

1462
01:00:18,235 --> 01:00:21,794
Jen,

1463
01:00:21,795 --> 01:00:23,557
can we just stay for a minute?

1464
01:00:23,557 --> 01:00:25,400
I have a few

1465
01:00:25,400 --> 01:00:26,322
more questions

1466
01:00:26,322 --> 01:00:27,244
for you.

1467
01:00:27,245 --> 01:00:28,095
We could do this for

1468
01:00:28,365 --> 01:00:28,535
a minute.

1469
01:00:31,445 --> 01:00:34,174
Yeah.

1470
01:00:34,175 --> 01:00:35,745
Thank you guys so much for having me.

1471
01:00:35,765 --> 01:00:37,305
Thank you for doing this work.

1472
01:00:37,585 --> 01:00:39,065
It's really hard to do things.

1473
01:00:39,175 --> 01:00:39,675
Yeah.

1474
01:00:39,865 --> 01:00:41,134
So good job doing them.

1475
01:00:41,164 --> 01:00:41,664
Thank you.

1476
01:00:41,685 --> 01:00:41,985
Especially,

1477
01:00:42,435 --> 01:00:45,204
you know, truly as we
are still learning too.

1478
01:00:45,365 --> 01:00:45,855
Yeah.

1479
01:00:45,945 --> 01:00:47,525
For me, it's incredibly hard.

1480
01:00:47,665 --> 01:00:51,465
I think you hit the nail on the head is
we're all learning and it's incredibly

1481
01:00:51,465 --> 01:00:54,695
hard for me to stand up there because,
please, I don't know how to figure it out.

1482
01:00:54,695 --> 01:00:56,724
We're like, again, going
through the journey.

1483
01:00:56,724 --> 01:00:58,474
Well, and how long were you an ER nurse?

1484
01:00:58,775 --> 01:01:01,904
Um, in healthcare for 20
years, a nurse for 15.

1485
01:01:01,995 --> 01:01:02,784
Okay, so it's

1486
01:01:02,785 --> 01:01:07,835
like, the hardest thing, I think,
and you don't realize it until you

1487
01:01:07,835 --> 01:01:11,215
start to get older, is continuing to
allow yourself to be the beginner.

1488
01:01:11,395 --> 01:01:11,815
Yes.

1489
01:01:11,935 --> 01:01:13,015
And your ego.

1490
01:01:13,450 --> 01:01:16,360
It wants to tell you, you don't
get to show up and be new at this.

1491
01:01:16,540 --> 01:01:19,810
You're at the top of your industry,
20 years, you're respected.

1492
01:01:19,930 --> 01:01:23,410
Everybody sees you in this way, and you're
like, I'm gonna show up like an idiot.

1493
01:01:23,650 --> 01:01:24,220
Lifelong.

1494
01:01:24,460 --> 01:01:25,360
Lifelong, right?

1495
01:01:25,720 --> 01:01:26,590
Lifelong.

1496
01:01:29,590 --> 01:01:32,590
And it's hard sometimes to step
back and go, oh yeah, let me

1497
01:01:32,590 --> 01:01:36,610
just listen , you know, I'm not
gonna show you how to do that.

1498
01:01:36,610 --> 01:01:40,000
Like, oh yeah, let's allow others, because
that helps them learn and grow too.

1499
01:01:40,150 --> 01:01:40,450
Yeah.

1500
01:01:40,690 --> 01:01:40,940
Yeah.

1501
01:01:40,980 --> 01:01:42,720
But anyway, we're all in
this journey together.

1502
01:01:42,750 --> 01:01:43,140
Oh yeah.

1503
01:01:43,190 --> 01:01:43,759
So beautiful.

1504
01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:44,190
Oh yeah.

1505
01:01:44,540 --> 01:01:45,110
We're all here.

1506
01:01:45,259 --> 01:01:46,800
Thank you guys so much for having

1507
01:01:46,800 --> 01:01:47,040
me.

1508
01:01:47,220 --> 01:01:47,740
Thank you guys.

1509
01:01:47,740 --> 01:01:48,150
We'll see you

1510
01:01:48,380 --> 01:01:49,070
later this month.

1511
01:01:50,220 --> 01:01:53,030
Man, what an incredible
interview with Allison Faulkner,

1512
01:01:53,640 --> 01:01:54,729
host of The Allison Show.

1513
01:01:54,750 --> 01:01:59,815
Go check that thing out and follow Women
Optimizing Wellness wherever they are.

1514
01:01:59,815 --> 01:02:02,710
YouTube, Instagram, all them places.

1515
01:02:02,710 --> 01:02:05,790
Go search for them and we will
see you guys right here next week.