Beyond Boundaries: Mary Crafts and the Art of Living Authentically

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Hey there Daybreak.

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We've got a great show for you
today here on Radio Daybreak.

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It's a special episode with Becks,
Jen Banks and Michelle Orton.

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Wow.

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The Women Optimizing Wellness.

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Now, their guest is a
lady named Mary Crafts.

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Now, if you don't know who Mary Crafts
is, let me get out my, let me get out

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my, my long list of what she does.

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She's an author, a podcaster, speaker.

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Healer, entrepreneur, and just a
huge advocate for women empowerment.

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Mary Crafts Inc.

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I N C dot com.

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That's her website if
you want to hear more.

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You go there, you're gonna find
out real quick that she's a badass

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woman with purpose, grace, and grit.

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Her book is Unbounded
from Sorrow to Summit.

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You guys gotta stick around
and listen to this interview.

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She's got some amazing, just
amazing advice for women.

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Anybody out there though, uh, but
before we get to that, a couple

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of, a couple of announcements, man.

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We're in a new studio.

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We're in a new studio.

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I mean, it's still in the basement
and I love it though, but, uh,

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my wife did want to, uh, hide a
bunch of googly eyes around here.

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I just found one.

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I just found one.

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She wanted to hide googly
eyes in the background.

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I might have to, we might
have to go for that.

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I think that'd be a kind of fun idea.

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Let's go back to this,
um, this farmer's market.

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So you guys saw the video we put out.

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We put a video out Saturday morning
and there was a farmer's market.

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Laura Gaylord and Empower Community
Markets, we're down at Novel.

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I got my fresh fruit right here.

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I still got my fresh fruit.

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That's not the only one
that she's doing though.

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She's doing these all the way
until the farmer's markets

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outside get picked back up.

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The next one at Novel is February 8th.

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Go out there and get your
Valentine's Day stuff.

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You ain't gonna, the last time,
you, you guys, I went to this

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place called Lux and Whimsy.

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They didn't pay me for this.

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They didn't pay me, I promise.

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I promise.

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But,

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not many places can you go and buy a bat.

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I'm talking about, not a baseball
bat, I'm talking about a B.

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I got a live, well he's not alive
anymore, he's frozen up, but I

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got a bat at the, at the market.

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You guys gotta get out there, you
can find anything and everything.

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I gave it to my wife, it was one
of the best presents she ever got.

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Lux and Whimsy, Haley
I believe was her name.

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You know what, I gotta
get her on the show.

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Speaking of businesses, the B.

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I., I'm not talking about B.

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I., I know it's the
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Let's go get to this
interview with the Wow!

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Women Optimizing Wellness and Mary Crafts.

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We'll see you guys on the other side.

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Welcome to Wow!

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Women Optimizing Wellness, where
we celebrate the incredible journey

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and wisdom of inspiring women.

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Oh, okay.

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Is that why I'm here?

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That's why you're here.

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Yes.

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And today we have the privilege
of speaking with you, Mary Crafts.

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She is a trailblazing entrepreneur,
speaker, adventurer, and

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author of the powerful book,
Unbounded, from sorrow to summit.

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Her journey from overcoming fear
and vulnerability to climbing Mount

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Kilimanjaro and building a multi
million dollar business is a testament

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to resilience and transformation.

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Mary's mission is to inspire
others to embrace courage,

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authenticity, and personal growth.

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So good to have you here, Mary.

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Thank you so much.

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I'm honored to be

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here

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and to be involved

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in this.

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You know, your new launch of,
of your retreats and so many

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things that you guys are doing.

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So it's really an honor to be here.

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Oh, well, thank you.

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We feel

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the very same way about you.

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We have to like really write down that
intro because there's so many things

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that you have done in your world,
your life and so many accomplishments.

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So truly, thank you so
much for being here.

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I'm going to start off with a
really tough question, right?

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Like, let's get the
hard one out of the way.

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Um, so.

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So I really just kind of wanted to
dive into, um, Mary, your life has been

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filled with incredible transformations.

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Uh, what was the most pivotal?

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Moment for you that has really shaped,
um, the woman that you are today.

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Yeah, I really, that was easy for me.

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Oh, good because it happened at a
very succinct moment and I remember

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it as if it were yesterday, uh, it
50th birthday and so now I'm 20,

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I'm 71, so that's 21 years ago.

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And that's.

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Before we had cell phones
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Right.

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And people were at my 50th
birthday party doing this.

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And then you take the film into
Kmart when there was still Kmart.

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I remember.

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Yes.

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And you would get it developed
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anxiously when you would get it
developed and flip through them.

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And I was sitting out there
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of my 50th birthday party.

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And I came across the picture of me.

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Just by myself.

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I just started to weep.

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Who's that

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person?

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I never saw myself as that person.

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I don't know how to get away from that.

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I'm

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so lost.

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I don't know how I got here, so how
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To get away!

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I was just seized with this
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And as I sat there longer and
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This is my moment

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to make a turn and to shift.

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Wow.

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At the time, I didn't
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I didn't know how long it would take me.

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But I knew that I was turning.

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Mm.

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I could feel myself literally turning.

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And so at that point in my life, I
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I was already a very
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But, I was just burying deeper
and deeper all the struggles that

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I had dealt with my whole life.

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And putting out here, well look
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Surely I must be okay.

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I was wearing this badge that
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a night, aren't I wonderful?

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You know, all the things we as
women do to build up these badges

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on us that make us okay, as opposed
to dealing with what's inside.

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At the time, I was 284 pounds,
and just really hating myself.

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And yet, to the outside world, As
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smiles and laughter and successful,

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but so, so sad inside.

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So what you saw in that photo was not just
the exterior that you're talking about.

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You saw me, you saw yourself.

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Yeah.

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The full authenticity of who that was.

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And all that smiling just melted
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Oh, I see.

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I think that's so relatable, especially
as women, we do seek that external

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validation to mean something about
us, but really no matter how much you

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chase, that doesn't fix anything inside.

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Wow.

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So very pivotal moment
for you of transition.

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What was step one for you?

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What was step one?

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just the realization and acceptance
that I was going to stop hiding.

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Was huge.

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because I felt like I'd
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And so, you know, I would look
over here and all these things.

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Don't pay attention over here.

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Kind of like the Wizard of Oz.

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These are not the drones
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I was playing this game all the time
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Just don't look here.

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a very pivotal moment as I realized,
and as I walked through this, the very

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first two or three months, Realizing
how much my life was controlled by fear.

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Wow.

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To the point where I had to
finally say, You know what, Mary?

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Every single decision you
make is based in fear.

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Wow.

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Of what people will think of you.

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That is just huge.

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About what clients will think,
what your family will think, what

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your neighbors will think, what
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I mean, I was so afraid
of pleasing everyone.

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I was just making all those
decisions based on fear.

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How lost you must have felt in that time.

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Just did, you know, that's why
I asked about step one, how

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challenging that would have been.

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Like, where do you start when
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on who everybody else wants you
to be or what they think of you?

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Wow.

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so I took on that mantra that the
healing starts when the hiding stops.

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And so when you asked me before
we began here on this podcast,

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what was I willing to share?

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And I, everything, whatever you ask me, I
will share just because I'm so committed

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to standing naked in front of people.

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They're not necessarily physically
naked, even though I have had to

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become comfortable with that too.

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Yeah.

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And basically me in front of the mirror.

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Uh huh.

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Yes.

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Uh, but socially.

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Emotionally, mentally, spiritually.

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And, uh, as I accepted that nakedness,
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this is the crazy part I realized,
and is the number one thing that

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I want you listeners to get.

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Yeah.

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And that the very things that I
thought were going to push people

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away from me, or make them want
to run away from me, are the very

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things that drew them close to me.

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Now, when I share things, you can
imagine, afterwards, the number

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of women that come up to me and
say, Oh, I felt that same thing.

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Really?

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That's just like me.

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And they are so thrilled to
have someone they can relate

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to, and then, now, particularly
someone that made it out of that.

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And, so, there's nothing greater than
to stand naked and find yourself still.

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Accepted and loved more than
you ever have been in your life.

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Mmm.

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Wow.

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Yeah.

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That's incredible.

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A lot of wows today.

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From this lady.

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She is absolutely amazing.

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Yes.

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I know Jen had a question, um, about,
um, part of that journey with Mt.

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Kilimanjaro.

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Yeah.

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So, um, Switching gears a little bit.

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It's such a powerful metaphor.

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What was the most unexpected
lesson you learned from that?

251
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Yeah,

252
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there are so many lessons on Kelly and
I really had to write them all down.

253
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And that's kind of where
the book came from.

254
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Uh, I found it.

255
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Yes.

256
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I started this journey, as I said,
at age 50 and it took me about six to

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seven years to lose all the weight.

258
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Okay.

259
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And, uh, to start down the journey
to add to that, then the physical

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fitness, uh, strength training,
all those kinds of things that now

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are just a daily part of my life.

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And as I started down that road, I, I was
like, I kept looking for markers and I

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found markers along the way where I could
plant my flag and say, I made it this far.

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I made it this far.

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And so at age 60, I was on the
foundation board at Utah Valley

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University and a gentleman named
Martin Fry was on the board with us

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and he was giving a recap to the board.

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of, uh, he is the only man in the world
still to have climbed all seven major

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peaks and to have sailed all seven seas.

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What am I doing with my life?

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And so that's exactly what I thought.

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I've accomplished before,
but I haven't done that.

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And I know that was not within my

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comfort zone.

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I was a little older.

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I was only 60.

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I'm just saying.

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And so, but as he talked,
I was just like mesmerized.

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And when he sat down, he came and sat
next to me, and I turned to him and I

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said, Martin, I want to do something.

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Something physical, because physical
had never been a part of my life.

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I had told myself and convinced
myself that if it involved anything

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physical, I'm sorry, that one's
not for me, what's another thing?

284
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But now I was strong, and I was fit,
and I, I said, I could do something.

285
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So what is it?

286
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I'm thinking he's going
to tell me to do some

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2K or something,

288
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you know.

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He just turned to me

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and

291
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he said,

292
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You shall climb Kilimanjaro.

293
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Oh, so he just kept it simple for you.

294
00:13:43,234 --> 00:13:44,084
Yeah, just easy.

295
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And I looked and I said, What?

296
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What?

297
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Oh my gosh.

298
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Yeah.

299
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How long do you need to get ready?

300
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Wow.

301
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He just didn't even blink.

302
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He didn't say how does that sound
to you or anything like that.

303
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He just said, Here it is.

304
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Yeah, you shall climb Kilimanjaro.

305
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Yeah, good.

306
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Well, I don't know.

307
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I don't know what that entails.

308
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He goes, I think you're fit enough.

309
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I think that you're strong enough.

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You have enough resilience.

311
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I think you can do it.

312
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In fact, I know you can.

313
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So how long do you need?

314
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How about five

315
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years?

316
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And he said,

317
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Mary, you're 60 and you want to
wait five years until you're 65?

318
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I

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go.

320
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I was really backpedaling with fear.

321
00:14:29,279 --> 00:14:30,839
Fear was really coming in.

322
00:14:31,059 --> 00:14:33,749
So that's the one thing people
need to know is that it's not

323
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like, Oh, I make this decision and
then it's just walking up stairs.

324
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You know, keep going.

325
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There

326
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are down and up and the plateaus
that you think will never end.

327
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And uh, I just thought,
well, I need to learn 65.

328
00:14:50,844 --> 00:14:51,974
And he said, alright.

329
00:14:52,104 --> 00:14:53,114
He didn't question it.

330
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He said, I'll check in with you once a
year, see how that goal's coming for you.

331
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It's okay.

332
00:14:58,824 --> 00:15:02,994
So literally every year, he would call
me and say, how's that goal coming?

333
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I said, I'm working on it.

334
00:15:04,724 --> 00:15:08,494
But you and I really
was not working on it.

335
00:15:08,494 --> 00:15:11,074
I mean, I was just like
having to stay steadfast.

336
00:15:11,894 --> 00:15:12,824
It's far enough away.

337
00:15:13,044 --> 00:15:14,274
Is there an August?

338
00:15:14,904 --> 00:15:16,404
I turned 65.

339
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Okay.

340
00:15:17,004 --> 00:15:22,614
And I realized, okay, because I started
telling people the moment I took the

341
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goal, everyone knew I was doing this.

342
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That's what I'm like.

343
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I really recommend that to people.

344
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Tell as many people as you can.

345
00:15:31,354 --> 00:15:35,444
And so I'm going to have to
go back and say, my arthritis

346
00:15:35,444 --> 00:15:37,594
won't let me, my back's too bad.

347
00:15:37,944 --> 00:15:39,144
I don't have the money.

348
00:15:39,184 --> 00:15:40,504
I'd have to say something.

349
00:15:41,264 --> 00:15:43,514
Or I have to do it.

350
00:15:43,514 --> 00:15:45,434
It's, it's here you to do it or you don't.

351
00:15:45,434 --> 00:15:45,494
Yeah.

352
00:15:46,154 --> 00:15:50,084
I thought, okay, if I have until
August of next year now, so I have

353
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a year,

354
00:15:51,194 --> 00:15:52,364
I'm, I'm gonna do this.

355
00:15:52,364 --> 00:15:59,204
So the first thing I did was to, uh,
look for, um, an out back country,

356
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a guide, and, uh, talked to a lot of
people who had gone to Kilimanjaro.

357
00:16:03,134 --> 00:16:04,514
They recommended this one.

358
00:16:04,904 --> 00:16:07,364
I decided to, and so I
signed up, paid my money.

359
00:16:08,684 --> 00:16:09,024
Okay.

360
00:16:09,024 --> 00:16:09,604
Committed now.

361
00:16:10,054 --> 00:16:10,574
Better go.

362
00:16:10,704 --> 00:16:13,184
Yeah, and then I bought my tickets
and then I really committed.

363
00:16:13,194 --> 00:16:13,734
Yeah.

364
00:16:13,794 --> 00:16:14,074
You know.

365
00:16:14,524 --> 00:16:18,024
And, um, in January,
I waited till January.

366
00:16:18,024 --> 00:16:22,314
I'm like, you know, I,
I really better do this.

367
00:16:22,634 --> 00:16:23,894
I better get cracking.

368
00:16:24,144 --> 00:16:26,304
So, um, I made a training guide.

369
00:16:26,314 --> 00:16:27,954
They have a training guide for you.

370
00:16:28,424 --> 00:16:34,569
And, uh, however, true to my form, I'm
always thinking, okay, okay, okay, uh huh,

371
00:16:34,619 --> 00:16:36,089
uh huh, uh huh, I got this, okay, now.

372
00:16:37,119 --> 00:16:41,309
I was not looking detailed
at the training with me.

373
00:16:41,449 --> 00:16:42,289
You just kind of skimmed.

374
00:16:42,539 --> 00:16:42,979
Yeah, got it.

375
00:16:42,979 --> 00:16:46,359
Skimmed, yeah, we'll do some stair
steppers, take a hike every month,

376
00:16:46,419 --> 00:16:48,079
every week, blah blah, I got that.

377
00:16:48,589 --> 00:16:52,379
But When it came to the stair
stepping, I did my stair stepping.

378
00:16:52,379 --> 00:16:55,129
I could do an hour of stair
stepping without any big issue.

379
00:16:55,389 --> 00:16:58,019
When I got there, we were talking
the first night and the one lady

380
00:16:58,019 --> 00:17:01,159
said, Yeah, the stair stepping
was sometimes a challenge for me,

381
00:17:01,169 --> 00:17:03,279
especially with that 35 pound backpack.

382
00:17:05,054 --> 00:17:06,434
Did you miss that part?

383
00:17:06,484 --> 00:17:07,224
That little detail.

384
00:17:08,394 --> 00:17:11,844
I was supposed to climb
all the way to the back.

385
00:17:11,844 --> 00:17:13,794
It's a little more challenging.

386
00:17:13,794 --> 00:17:17,064
And then they start sharing
their different training things

387
00:17:17,064 --> 00:17:21,734
and then one woman said, Yeah,
I hiked about, uh, 250 miles.

388
00:17:21,884 --> 00:17:25,184
And so I'm thinking, you know,
from January it was, Oh, I've

389
00:17:25,354 --> 00:17:26,964
definitely hiked 250 miles, I'm good.

390
00:17:27,364 --> 00:17:28,694
She said, A month.

391
00:17:29,464 --> 00:17:30,914
And I went, Oh my God.

392
00:17:32,894 --> 00:17:35,674
So, I, this is what I realized.

393
00:17:37,184 --> 00:17:41,894
That moment, sitting around the campfire
the morning before we leave, and you don't

394
00:17:41,904 --> 00:17:50,514
just all of a sudden train overnight,
that, pay attention to the details, but

395
00:17:50,514 --> 00:17:57,884
whatever your goals are, you're going
to face them again and again and again.

396
00:17:59,259 --> 00:18:04,619
And I realized that every single one of
my fears that I thought I had overcome

397
00:18:06,039 --> 00:18:07,519
were right in front of me again.

398
00:18:08,429 --> 00:18:10,499
And my fears looked something like this.

399
00:18:11,089 --> 00:18:12,549
That I couldn't physically do it.

400
00:18:12,549 --> 00:18:12,699
Now

401
00:18:12,699 --> 00:18:13,199
I'm

402
00:18:13,619 --> 00:18:16,219
face to face with, can
I physically do this?

403
00:18:16,749 --> 00:18:19,029
I'm 15 years older than the next person.

404
00:18:19,599 --> 00:18:20,129
Wow.

405
00:18:20,409 --> 00:18:21,719
And they're so much more trained.

406
00:18:21,729 --> 00:18:23,559
They had done Everest.

407
00:18:24,089 --> 00:18:25,849
You know, Denali.

408
00:18:25,849 --> 00:18:26,449
You know, all this.

409
00:18:27,849 --> 00:18:30,429
So we got out that night before
hanging around talking about

410
00:18:30,439 --> 00:18:31,339
all the mountains we've seen.

411
00:18:34,519 --> 00:18:40,829
And I said, well I did do Manchu
Picchu because that's at the height,

412
00:18:40,839 --> 00:18:44,969
the elevation that you can know if
you can do killing without oxygen.

413
00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:45,559
Okay.

414
00:18:45,569 --> 00:18:46,309
And I could.

415
00:18:46,409 --> 00:18:46,809
Yeah.

416
00:18:46,859 --> 00:18:47,809
I didn't have any problems.

417
00:18:48,099 --> 00:18:48,909
Had it checked.

418
00:18:48,999 --> 00:18:49,449
Checked, checked.

419
00:18:49,459 --> 00:18:52,569
And everybody was like, Oh, Manchu
Picchu is a great training ground.

420
00:18:52,829 --> 00:18:55,269
So what did you do like for
some of your big mountains?

421
00:18:56,469 --> 00:18:57,949
That's it.

422
00:18:57,949 --> 00:19:03,369
And so, I'm just like, In my
usual mode of just BS, you know?

423
00:19:05,209 --> 00:19:08,459
And so I said, well, you probably
haven't heard of this one, but it's

424
00:19:08,459 --> 00:19:15,449
like a really big mountain and, uh, you
solo up and down and, uh, by yourself.

425
00:19:15,759 --> 00:19:19,939
Sloth scrambling, a lot of hand over
hand mountain, just like climbing.

426
00:19:19,939 --> 00:19:21,269
Well, what's the name of it?

427
00:19:21,759 --> 00:19:23,934
I said, Um, Timpanogos.

428
00:19:25,444 --> 00:19:27,974
And of course, the men are like, I
didn't bring a bottle, where is that?

429
00:19:29,004 --> 00:19:29,314
That's in

430
00:19:29,314 --> 00:19:29,644
Utah.

431
00:19:32,894 --> 00:19:33,934
That is really funny.

432
00:19:33,934 --> 00:19:37,904
So, you know, once again, I realize,
okay, I have this fear of hiding,

433
00:19:38,124 --> 00:19:40,084
and here I am, hiding again.

434
00:19:40,514 --> 00:19:45,444
Rather than just saying, you know,
I may not be as prepared as, as I

435
00:19:45,444 --> 00:19:47,824
could be, but I'm going to do this.

436
00:19:48,164 --> 00:19:51,779
And ask for their support, rather
than just like, I got this.

437
00:19:52,239 --> 00:19:53,819
You wish you were like me, right?

438
00:19:53,819 --> 00:19:56,799
But you did it.

439
00:19:56,799 --> 00:19:57,849
But I did do it.

440
00:19:57,849 --> 00:20:00,829
But I was face to face with
every one of those fears.

441
00:20:00,829 --> 00:20:03,309
Like, I always had a fear
of not being dressed right.

442
00:20:03,309 --> 00:20:07,189
What if I showed up in jeans
and everyone was in dress pants?

443
00:20:07,689 --> 00:20:10,119
What if I showed up in a dress
and everyone else was in jeans?

444
00:20:10,189 --> 00:20:13,039
I mean, I always worried
about how I was dressed.

445
00:20:13,599 --> 00:20:15,839
And I thought, well, here I am again.

446
00:20:16,304 --> 00:20:20,244
As he's going through my backpack
saying that's not a big enough coat,

447
00:20:20,294 --> 00:20:22,194
that's not this, that's not that.

448
00:20:23,304 --> 00:20:25,294
Once again, Mary's not dressed right.

449
00:20:26,414 --> 00:20:29,974
I mean everything that I've
ever feared in my life was

450
00:20:30,004 --> 00:20:31,344
right there again to look at me.

451
00:20:33,004 --> 00:20:38,754
And since then, my challenges
with those things have not

452
00:20:38,754 --> 00:20:40,104
been as big, I have to say.

453
00:20:40,454 --> 00:20:43,004
I really feel like I've
conquered a lot on Kelly.

454
00:20:43,894 --> 00:20:45,184
But they are always with you.

455
00:20:45,524 --> 00:20:46,084
Yeah,

456
00:20:46,164 --> 00:20:47,204
every challenge.

457
00:20:47,804 --> 00:20:53,234
I still have those moments where
Well, let's talk about right now.

458
00:20:53,274 --> 00:20:54,304
Yeah, I'll be here.

459
00:20:55,334 --> 00:20:58,384
I Thought I'm gonna go on
this podcast and I got this.

460
00:20:58,384 --> 00:21:03,184
I've been on a million podcasts, but
What if I'm not what they're looking for?

461
00:21:03,704 --> 00:21:05,654
Oh, Jimmy you start.

462
00:21:05,734 --> 00:21:08,144
Yeah, am I enough?

463
00:21:09,494 --> 00:21:11,804
Or have I just been living
the imposter syndrome?

464
00:21:13,334 --> 00:21:16,254
No, no, no, no Larry
Now let's take a look.

465
00:21:16,274 --> 00:21:17,314
Let's look at this realistically.

466
00:21:17,344 --> 00:21:18,284
Yes, truly.

467
00:21:18,284 --> 00:21:20,664
And you know, look at that
realistically as I'm driving here.

468
00:21:22,014 --> 00:21:23,014
I so have this.

469
00:21:23,044 --> 00:21:23,804
Yes.

470
00:21:24,104 --> 00:21:26,094
What would I possibly have to hide from?

471
00:21:27,199 --> 00:21:28,179
And then, but it

472
00:21:28,189 --> 00:21:29,009
still is there.

473
00:21:29,049 --> 00:21:29,669
Still there.

474
00:21:29,679 --> 00:21:30,499
You still make that decision.

475
00:21:30,889 --> 00:21:31,279
You bet.

476
00:21:31,349 --> 00:21:32,539
It's a journey.

477
00:21:32,569 --> 00:21:36,679
It sounds like for you and continues
to be, which I love that you mentioned

478
00:21:36,679 --> 00:21:40,179
that because, you know, I'm looking
at you and we're preparing for this.

479
00:21:40,179 --> 00:21:42,129
And I told Jen, I'm like, I'm nervous.

480
00:21:42,239 --> 00:21:43,119
We both are podcasters.

481
00:21:43,769 --> 00:21:45,049
Like we've done this several times.

482
00:21:45,049 --> 00:21:46,119
I'm like, I'm nervous.

483
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:46,319
Right.

484
00:21:46,719 --> 00:21:47,779
And I do a weekly

485
00:21:47,819 --> 00:21:48,079
podcast.

486
00:21:48,399 --> 00:21:49,349
Yes, you do.

487
00:21:49,349 --> 00:21:50,849
I'm on the camera

488
00:21:50,849 --> 00:21:51,499
every week.

489
00:21:51,499 --> 00:21:52,049
And yeah.

490
00:21:52,159 --> 00:21:53,129
And yet driving here.

491
00:21:53,354 --> 00:21:54,774
I hope I'm enough for them.

492
00:21:54,794 --> 00:21:56,004
So it does pop up.

493
00:21:56,034 --> 00:21:57,124
It is a journey.

494
00:21:57,124 --> 00:22:02,724
This is just kind of part of life and
being truly your authentic self and

495
00:22:02,754 --> 00:22:05,514
sitting here very vulnerable, right?

496
00:22:05,534 --> 00:22:06,934
Cause I'm feeling that too.

497
00:22:07,044 --> 00:22:08,264
I'm like, Oh, don't mess up.

498
00:22:08,274 --> 00:22:09,434
Don't stumble over the words.

499
00:22:09,774 --> 00:22:11,224
We're interviewing Mary Crass.

500
00:22:11,254 --> 00:22:12,294
Like it's a big deal.

501
00:22:12,674 --> 00:22:13,854
So yeah.

502
00:22:13,984 --> 00:22:15,254
And so you're speaking to my

503
00:22:15,254 --> 00:22:15,574
heart.

504
00:22:15,764 --> 00:22:19,054
So those things definitely
are always still with us.

505
00:22:19,054 --> 00:22:19,384
Yeah.

506
00:22:19,384 --> 00:22:24,204
I'm thinking that maybe at some point
they'll be gone, but I don't know.

507
00:22:24,774 --> 00:22:28,864
They are just, I think I'm much
quicker now to recognize them.

508
00:22:28,874 --> 00:22:33,574
That's one of the big keys and I'm
quicker to know how to handle it,

509
00:22:34,554 --> 00:22:37,414
how to step into my authenticity.

510
00:22:37,474 --> 00:22:37,684
You

511
00:22:37,684 --> 00:22:39,114
don't let that fear hold you back

512
00:22:39,114 --> 00:22:39,524
in control.

513
00:22:39,554 --> 00:22:41,114
And I know that the biggest way to do

514
00:22:41,174 --> 00:22:41,444
that

515
00:22:42,594 --> 00:22:45,084
is to be vulnerable, to not hide.

516
00:22:46,204 --> 00:22:49,524
And I love that lesson that it does keep
coming back because you're a little bit

517
00:22:49,524 --> 00:22:51,384
more prepared the next time you do see it.

518
00:22:52,029 --> 00:22:54,869
What are some other lessons that
you've weaved into your book?

519
00:22:56,569 --> 00:23:01,319
Well, I mentioned that imposter syndrome
and I felt like even though I had

520
00:23:01,319 --> 00:23:05,879
had my business for 20 years, we had
been best of state a number of times.

521
00:23:05,879 --> 00:23:08,049
We had had all these awards, blah, blah.

522
00:23:08,369 --> 00:23:10,329
I still felt like that

523
00:23:10,379 --> 00:23:13,299
someday they were going to come
and realize that I really wasn't

524
00:23:13,299 --> 00:23:16,499
as good as I put out to people that
were taking everything away from me.

525
00:23:17,319 --> 00:23:18,529
But we still have

526
00:23:18,579 --> 00:23:18,799
that.

527
00:23:19,364 --> 00:23:23,304
Pretending, it all boils down,
can you see how all of this boils

528
00:23:23,304 --> 00:23:25,644
down to pretending and hiding?

529
00:23:26,104 --> 00:23:26,524
Yeah.

530
00:23:27,134 --> 00:23:32,844
And that the moment you stop hiding,
that's the moment you begin to heal.

531
00:23:34,484 --> 00:23:36,654
And whenever you're hiding again,
you know you're backsliding.

532
00:23:36,654 --> 00:23:38,164
And

533
00:23:38,164 --> 00:23:40,994
that's why that lesson
is so critical to me.

534
00:23:41,764 --> 00:23:45,774
Then there's the lesson of being enough
that we always have to be dealing with.

535
00:23:45,774 --> 00:23:45,994
Yeah.

536
00:23:45,994 --> 00:23:46,214
Yeah.

537
00:23:46,214 --> 00:23:46,534
Yeah.

538
00:23:46,944 --> 00:23:50,614
And I do think that it is
the base fear of everything.

539
00:23:52,074 --> 00:23:54,124
That you might have a fear of failure.

540
00:23:54,234 --> 00:23:55,234
Well, why is that?

541
00:23:55,284 --> 00:23:56,984
Well, because you think you're not enough.

542
00:23:57,054 --> 00:24:01,444
You might have the fear of,
um, you know, being laughed at.

543
00:24:01,504 --> 00:24:03,134
Well, why would people laugh
at you if you're not enough?

544
00:24:03,414 --> 00:24:08,584
Because you're really not enough and that
you might end up being a horrible mother.

545
00:24:08,584 --> 00:24:12,654
Well, why would you be a horrible
mother unless you're not enough?

546
00:24:12,654 --> 00:24:15,924
And that fear is the
base fear of all things.

547
00:24:15,924 --> 00:24:20,464
You can trace that back to every single
thing back to we have this fear, this

548
00:24:20,484 --> 00:24:22,814
innate fear that we are not enough.

549
00:24:23,204 --> 00:24:24,824
I was having dinner last night.

550
00:24:24,824 --> 00:24:29,524
John and I was another couple,
uh, to probably one of the most

551
00:24:29,524 --> 00:24:31,514
accomplished women that I've ever met.

552
00:24:31,964 --> 00:24:36,004
That I just love, and I, well I
walk away such a better person

553
00:24:36,004 --> 00:24:37,064
when I spend time with her.

554
00:24:37,494 --> 00:24:41,504
And, uh, so I always choose
a word for each year.

555
00:24:42,234 --> 00:24:45,504
And, uh, I don't do resolutions,
I haven't done resolutions, well

556
00:24:45,514 --> 00:24:47,644
since I started this 21 years ago.

557
00:24:47,984 --> 00:24:48,414
Wow.

558
00:24:48,424 --> 00:24:50,464
I haven't done one New Year's resolution.

559
00:24:50,594 --> 00:24:51,274
Just your word.

560
00:24:51,304 --> 00:24:53,554
But I pick a word that will be my guide.

561
00:24:53,594 --> 00:24:54,024
I do it too.

562
00:24:54,034 --> 00:24:55,444
That will lead out in front of me.

563
00:24:55,444 --> 00:24:55,874
I love it.

564
00:24:56,164 --> 00:24:58,124
So we can talk about those
words in just a minute.

565
00:24:58,684 --> 00:25:02,574
And so this year my word is permission.

566
00:25:04,194 --> 00:25:07,794
I want to give myself
permission to keep singing.

567
00:25:09,194 --> 00:25:15,410
Because they're, in our world today,
If you're 71, your song's done.

568
00:25:15,410 --> 00:25:16,439
You're done.

569
00:25:16,439 --> 00:25:16,949
Girl, look at you.

570
00:25:16,949 --> 00:25:17,879
Go

571
00:25:17,879 --> 00:25:19,819
sit on the shelf somewhere and be quiet.

572
00:25:19,869 --> 00:25:20,509
You know what I mean?

573
00:25:20,779 --> 00:25:21,949
They don't expect this

574
00:25:22,019 --> 00:25:23,119
person to still

575
00:25:23,129 --> 00:25:25,355
have such a song to

576
00:25:25,355 --> 00:25:25,829
sing.

577
00:25:25,829 --> 00:25:29,999
And I know I have songs
inside of me that are unsung.

578
00:25:30,259 --> 00:25:35,709
I don't want to leave this existence
without having sung every one of them.

579
00:25:36,199 --> 00:25:38,769
But I fought it inside
for the last four months.

580
00:25:39,689 --> 00:25:41,159
Should I step in the more?

581
00:25:41,449 --> 00:25:43,929
Should I just like, be quiet and go away?

582
00:25:44,909 --> 00:25:45,229
And I

583
00:25:45,229 --> 00:25:47,319
finally decided my word was permission.

584
00:25:48,039 --> 00:25:51,949
I'm going to give myself permission
to keep singing every day.

585
00:25:51,949 --> 00:25:57,539
So the woman across from me, this,
remember, very accomplished woman,

586
00:25:59,209 --> 00:26:00,689
I asked her what her word was.

587
00:26:02,229 --> 00:26:04,489
And she is now in her late forties.

588
00:26:05,829 --> 00:26:08,359
And she said, please.

589
00:26:08,724 --> 00:26:09,754
Can I

590
00:26:09,754 --> 00:26:10,594
be

591
00:26:10,594 --> 00:26:11,434
enough?

592
00:26:11,434 --> 00:26:14,724
And of course inside
I'm like, what the hell?

593
00:26:14,994 --> 00:26:16,554
Yeah, how can you feel that?

594
00:26:19,594 --> 00:26:23,674
Inside of me there was also
that piece of I get you sister.

595
00:26:23,754 --> 00:26:30,574
Mm hmm Yeah, let's let's step
into that Absolutely knowing and

596
00:26:30,584 --> 00:26:32,274
being assured that you are enough.

597
00:26:32,884 --> 00:26:38,949
I talk a lot about that in the book
And I talk about Coming back from

598
00:26:38,949 --> 00:26:43,679
Kilimanjaro, that it didn't matter
everything I accomplished and all the

599
00:26:43,679 --> 00:26:45,799
fears that I overcame on Kilimanjaro.

600
00:26:46,249 --> 00:26:51,249
It does not matter that I lost
half of my body weight and

601
00:26:51,249 --> 00:26:52,849
more than half of my body fat.

602
00:26:53,419 --> 00:26:54,449
That didn't matter anymore.

603
00:26:54,949 --> 00:26:56,149
Because when did that happen?

604
00:26:57,809 --> 00:26:58,409
Yesterday.

605
00:26:59,769 --> 00:27:01,309
And what am I bringing today?

606
00:27:02,619 --> 00:27:05,949
What you bring each and every day is
really the only thing that matters.

607
00:27:05,949 --> 00:27:07,917
That's every single day,

608
00:27:09,227 --> 00:27:14,577
I bring the very best that I can to my
life and the lives of those around me.

609
00:27:15,757 --> 00:27:16,497
That's beautiful.

610
00:27:16,852 --> 00:27:17,442
Truly.

611
00:27:17,492 --> 00:27:19,862
So impactful.

612
00:27:19,862 --> 00:27:20,182
Right?

613
00:27:20,202 --> 00:27:22,112
Cause it, yesterday's history.

614
00:27:22,212 --> 00:27:27,072
So, move forward and, and, and
give yourself permission to do so.

615
00:27:27,242 --> 00:27:29,972
Like, stop getting in your
way and, and move forward.

616
00:27:30,322 --> 00:27:31,732
Do you have a word this year, Jen?

617
00:27:31,842 --> 00:27:32,532
I do.

618
00:27:32,892 --> 00:27:35,892
Well, I kind of toyed between a couple.

619
00:27:36,417 --> 00:27:37,067
As we do.

620
00:27:37,317 --> 00:27:37,567
Yeah.

621
00:27:37,587 --> 00:27:41,587
One was I really just wanted to slow
down kind of like we were talking about

622
00:27:41,597 --> 00:27:45,267
at the beginning wearing that badge It's
like look what I've done and right not

623
00:27:45,267 --> 00:27:49,717
basing our worth on accomplishments and
just you're worthy enough Just as you

624
00:27:49,717 --> 00:27:54,287
are and so I I kind of slowed down a
little bit But still the word I ended

625
00:27:54,287 --> 00:27:58,067
up settling on was persistence like yes,
I'm slowing down, but I'm not stopping

626
00:27:58,067 --> 00:27:59,827
I'm still working towards those things.

627
00:27:59,827 --> 00:28:04,857
My energy is just more focused, but just
persistence and so, you know, sometimes

628
00:28:05,117 --> 00:28:10,357
We reach a certain goal or we reach a
certain state and Maybe it feels like

629
00:28:10,467 --> 00:28:13,887
too much to keep going or you know,
it's like, okay, well we did this.

630
00:28:13,887 --> 00:28:14,947
We can just take a break now.

631
00:28:14,947 --> 00:28:17,137
But there's still things
that I want to accomplish.

632
00:28:17,417 --> 00:28:19,217
And so that persistence will get there.

633
00:28:19,567 --> 00:28:20,317
I love that.

634
00:28:20,337 --> 00:28:22,527
That persistent focus too, right?

635
00:28:22,527 --> 00:28:23,682
Like to continue on.

636
00:28:23,682 --> 00:28:24,387
It's not

637
00:28:24,387 --> 00:28:26,077
one big push and then I'm done.

638
00:28:26,078 --> 00:28:28,147
It's that

639
00:28:28,147 --> 00:28:30,737
persistent looking for excellence.

640
00:28:30,737 --> 00:28:31,717
Your very best self.

641
00:28:32,647 --> 00:28:33,897
I tell people all the time,

642
00:28:34,317 --> 00:28:35,957
if you seek for perfection.

643
00:28:37,632 --> 00:28:41,212
You will struggle and be
disappointed every day of your life.

644
00:28:42,002 --> 00:28:45,162
But if you seek for excellence
and bring your best every

645
00:28:45,162 --> 00:28:47,012
day, and be persistent at it,

646
00:28:49,372 --> 00:28:52,132
you will find that you are
in the most beautiful, loving

647
00:28:52,132 --> 00:28:54,332
place for yourself and others.

648
00:28:56,522 --> 00:28:56,912
Yeah.

649
00:28:57,002 --> 00:28:57,962
What about your books?

650
00:28:58,232 --> 00:28:59,912
Yeah, so same thing.

651
00:28:59,912 --> 00:29:03,482
I did this exercise, you know, as,
as we're just starting into the new

652
00:29:03,482 --> 00:29:06,272
year and I do it every year, so I
love that you mentioned that, Mary.

653
00:29:06,602 --> 00:29:10,172
Um, I'm not really a big, uh,
new Year's, new Year's resolution

654
00:29:10,172 --> 00:29:11,642
girl either, but I do have a word.

655
00:29:11,642 --> 00:29:15,362
Last year it was intentionality
and I wanted to be very.

656
00:29:15,687 --> 00:29:21,717
Specific with that in, um, just really
being intentional in all of those aspects.

657
00:29:21,717 --> 00:29:24,812
I am a very, a personality
driven Go, go, go.

658
00:29:24,817 --> 00:29:25,197
Oh, really, huh?

659
00:29:26,122 --> 00:29:26,412
Yeah.

660
00:29:26,417 --> 00:29:26,757
Interesting.

661
00:29:26,847 --> 00:29:27,657
Army or any of us.

662
00:29:28,587 --> 00:29:28,887
Yeah.

663
00:29:28,887 --> 00:29:32,577
We are kind of similar, uh,
women here on this panel today.

664
00:29:32,997 --> 00:29:33,207
Um.

665
00:29:33,763 --> 00:29:38,492
But for me, last year, 2024, and
as my kids are aging, I wanted

666
00:29:38,492 --> 00:29:42,372
to get really intentional with,
with my time and being present.

667
00:29:42,372 --> 00:29:45,842
So it's not just about my business,
but it's also about my relationships.

668
00:29:46,692 --> 00:29:50,312
And the reason I bring up last year
is because this year it moved me

669
00:29:50,312 --> 00:29:53,662
into my next word, which is momentum.

670
00:29:54,907 --> 00:30:00,447
So, really focused on the things that were
important and grounding in that and then

671
00:30:00,527 --> 00:30:03,627
continue that with that momentum forward.

672
00:30:03,667 --> 00:30:06,347
So it kind of brought
me to my word vision.

673
00:30:06,417 --> 00:30:10,837
Because clearly you have some momentum
building and you've been building

674
00:30:10,837 --> 00:30:14,477
it and to stay persistent Yeah.

675
00:30:14,687 --> 00:30:15,887
In that momentum.

676
00:30:15,997 --> 00:30:16,447
Yeah.

677
00:30:16,867 --> 00:30:19,757
And not rest on what you've
accomplished in the past.

678
00:30:19,817 --> 00:30:20,057
Because

679
00:30:20,097 --> 00:30:21,477
that's yesterday, right?

680
00:30:21,487 --> 00:30:22,457
That's last year.

681
00:30:22,707 --> 00:30:24,947
Keep that momentum and
keep that moving forward.

682
00:30:25,247 --> 00:30:27,077
So I have some questions for you.

683
00:30:27,117 --> 00:30:27,787
Yes.

684
00:30:27,997 --> 00:30:28,537
All right.

685
00:30:28,637 --> 00:30:31,547
So as a personality woman.

686
00:30:31,777 --> 00:30:32,137
Yeah.

687
00:30:33,027 --> 00:30:37,967
What do you think are some of the
biggest challenges that women in

688
00:30:37,967 --> 00:30:43,147
their mid age range I'm still thinking
that because I'm living to be 105.

689
00:30:43,147 --> 00:30:44,057
I love that.

690
00:30:44,057 --> 00:30:45,397
I love that for all of us here.

691
00:30:46,197 --> 00:30:48,537
What do you think are some
of the biggest challenges?

692
00:30:49,507 --> 00:30:50,477
Being a woman?

693
00:30:50,657 --> 00:30:51,107
Yeah.

694
00:30:52,527 --> 00:30:55,867
Well, I have to keep
this G and I can't swear.

695
00:30:55,897 --> 00:31:00,387
That is, that is one of my things as
I'm trying to, uh, keep it clean here.

696
00:31:00,387 --> 00:31:03,117
So, um, I think the, I think the labels.

697
00:31:03,167 --> 00:31:06,527
So I will say this being labeled
a villain of like, right.

698
00:31:06,557 --> 00:31:10,277
I think that's one of those things with
an A personality because I'm very driven.

699
00:31:10,297 --> 00:31:15,087
And so I have come across that a
lot in life and it's less about

700
00:31:15,087 --> 00:31:20,627
perfection and more about striving for
excellence, but that could be viewed as.

701
00:31:21,202 --> 00:31:26,182
Being a certain derogatory term that,
you know, women are often called,

702
00:31:26,192 --> 00:31:27,812
which I don't really care for.

703
00:31:28,042 --> 00:31:29,722
But I think for me it's labeled.

704
00:31:30,422 --> 00:31:32,222
Yeah, yeah, thank you.

705
00:31:32,282 --> 00:31:32,772
A witch.

706
00:31:32,782 --> 00:31:33,742
That's the G version.

707
00:31:33,752 --> 00:31:34,252
You're welcome.

708
00:31:34,682 --> 00:31:38,592
Um, yeah, so being that
is, is really challenging.

709
00:31:38,642 --> 00:31:42,962
Um, some of the negative spins that can
go on that, I don't really care for that.

710
00:31:43,442 --> 00:31:47,837
Um, But not to go just in a
negative direction, but also there

711
00:31:47,837 --> 00:31:49,617
is a lot of positive around that.

712
00:31:49,647 --> 00:31:52,037
It's who you surround
yourself with, right?

713
00:31:52,037 --> 00:31:56,167
Your social circles, other strong,
powerful women, being in those

714
00:31:56,177 --> 00:32:01,687
rooms where they boo you up and
they want you to be successful.

715
00:32:01,707 --> 00:32:06,057
I've really learned that in 2024 is
who are you surrounding yourself with?

716
00:32:06,497 --> 00:32:07,527
Who's in your circle?

717
00:32:07,747 --> 00:32:08,487
I'm a total

718
00:32:08,487 --> 00:32:08,827
believer.

719
00:32:08,827 --> 00:32:12,937
And I talk about that in the book
of being the sum of the five people

720
00:32:12,947 --> 00:32:14,627
that you hang out with the most.

721
00:32:14,637 --> 00:32:15,697
Yes, totally agree with that.

722
00:32:15,707 --> 00:32:17,477
What do you have to say around that, Jen?

723
00:32:17,737 --> 00:32:19,087
I think something that

724
00:32:19,617 --> 00:32:22,277
I have revisited over and over,
we talk about these recurring

725
00:32:22,277 --> 00:32:24,737
lessons, is expectations.

726
00:32:24,837 --> 00:32:31,022
I've always gotten myself Some expectation
pain when things didn't work out as I

727
00:32:31,022 --> 00:32:32,902
wanted them to or hoped that they would.

728
00:32:32,932 --> 00:32:38,052
And so I've had to learn flexibility
and being able to pivot and

729
00:32:38,282 --> 00:32:42,312
really just accepting that what
you have is what's best for you.

730
00:32:42,762 --> 00:32:46,332
I never pictured having a
boy and I have three sons.

731
00:32:46,772 --> 00:32:48,092
So I.

732
00:32:48,527 --> 00:32:52,777
Just from the get go have learned
how to just readjust and be flexible

733
00:32:52,777 --> 00:32:57,357
and find the good in every situation
So, but I know that a lot of us do

734
00:32:57,387 --> 00:32:58,597
tend to have these expectations.

735
00:32:58,597 --> 00:33:00,697
We get our eye on the
prize We have a vision.

736
00:33:00,707 --> 00:33:05,237
We we know how we want it to be
But if we don't really leave room

737
00:33:05,237 --> 00:33:09,637
for that flexibility, then we we
are Causing pain for ourselves.

738
00:33:10,087 --> 00:33:12,007
That's huge That is massive.

739
00:33:12,007 --> 00:33:17,087
That's been a really reoccurring thing
for me too, being an A personality.

740
00:33:17,087 --> 00:33:19,767
It's like, I have a vision, I
want it done, I'm striving for

741
00:33:19,767 --> 00:33:21,087
excellence, I want it done this way.

742
00:33:21,087 --> 00:33:21,977
Just ask my team.

743
00:33:22,317 --> 00:33:23,367
They're behind the camera right now.

744
00:33:24,607 --> 00:33:25,197
Hi team!

745
00:33:25,877 --> 00:33:27,257
They're making faces at me right now.

746
00:33:27,677 --> 00:33:30,947
Um, but truly, yeah, that
is very, very powerful.

747
00:33:31,117 --> 00:33:32,067
How about you, Mary?

748
00:33:32,067 --> 00:33:33,667
I'll turn that question back to you.

749
00:33:34,217 --> 00:33:34,777
Um,

750
00:33:35,277 --> 00:33:40,077
well I think that, Even though we
live in a state that is no longer

751
00:33:40,167 --> 00:33:45,897
majority, um, from the Church of
Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints, the

752
00:33:45,997 --> 00:33:50,097
expectations still linger over all of us.

753
00:33:50,877 --> 00:33:53,637
First of all, as women,
we have that challenge.

754
00:33:54,267 --> 00:34:01,357
That, um, How can I be all I want to
be and still not seen as the witch?

755
00:34:02,417 --> 00:34:03,377
So there is that.

756
00:34:03,847 --> 00:34:09,037
And when you surround yourself
with women, like at your upcoming,

757
00:34:09,397 --> 00:34:11,827
um, big launch the end of January,

758
00:34:12,367 --> 00:34:12,857
uh,

759
00:34:13,087 --> 00:34:16,187
you realize that you're not alone.

760
00:34:17,707 --> 00:34:20,197
And I think that's huge for women.

761
00:34:21,257 --> 00:34:26,177
And the perfectionism issue
is still big for women.

762
00:34:26,847 --> 00:34:28,747
How to let go of that.

763
00:34:29,347 --> 00:34:30,137
Putting a mold.

764
00:34:30,347 --> 00:34:30,787
Yep.

765
00:34:31,517 --> 00:34:36,067
And even this morning, this is just me
being vulnerable again, Uh, I was, uh,

766
00:34:36,777 --> 00:34:42,797
I was listening to the audio version of
my book because it's just coming out and

767
00:34:43,647 --> 00:34:48,697
I did this, I read, I listened to this
part where it talked about, you know, not

768
00:34:48,697 --> 00:34:54,437
being perfect and I'm like, yeah, I did
write that and yeah, I do say that a lot.

769
00:34:55,067 --> 00:34:57,157
Have I really let go of that?

770
00:34:57,197 --> 00:34:57,957
Yeah.

771
00:34:58,567 --> 00:35:00,097
What does that look like for me?

772
00:35:03,167 --> 00:35:06,667
What would be the acceptable things
for you not to be perfect in?

773
00:35:09,992 --> 00:35:16,012
Are you okay to not be perfect in
your physical realm now since that

774
00:35:16,012 --> 00:35:17,862
was such an accomplishment for you?

775
00:35:17,863 --> 00:35:21,752
I was like, well, everything but that.

776
00:35:23,322 --> 00:35:26,012
But then I'm like, I am aging.

777
00:35:26,662 --> 00:35:29,102
And I have to stand in front
of the mirror and look.

778
00:35:29,587 --> 00:35:33,427
Okay, I don't weigh any
different, but I look different.

779
00:35:33,837 --> 00:35:35,007
I surely do.

780
00:35:35,457 --> 00:35:37,937
My, I have a flat stomach.

781
00:35:38,837 --> 00:35:40,627
And now it's got a little pooch in it.

782
00:35:40,677 --> 00:35:43,737
I'm everyday like, what
is wrong with that?

783
00:35:44,567 --> 00:35:50,127
Do I need to And then just do that.

784
00:35:50,127 --> 00:35:53,917
Okay, that's just the
body of a 77 year old.

785
00:35:54,317 --> 00:35:56,057
And are you okay with that?

786
00:35:56,077 --> 00:35:57,557
Less than perfection.

787
00:35:57,667 --> 00:35:58,087
Hmm.

788
00:35:58,382 --> 00:36:00,782
I'm like, well, of course I, I want to be.

789
00:36:02,532 --> 00:36:06,172
The other thing I think helps us
along this path that I think is facing

790
00:36:06,172 --> 00:36:09,342
women is the use of the word should.

791
00:36:09,952 --> 00:36:14,002
If we can just eliminate
that from our vocabulary.

792
00:36:14,842 --> 00:36:18,212
I hear women and I, and I, and
I hear them say that, well I, I

793
00:36:18,212 --> 00:36:20,952
really should, and I really need.

794
00:36:21,732 --> 00:36:24,032
And so then I just come back
and I say, can I help you

795
00:36:24,062 --> 00:36:25,762
reframe that just a little bit?

796
00:36:25,762 --> 00:36:26,132
Yeah.

797
00:36:26,412 --> 00:36:28,842
Can we reframe that to, I could.

798
00:36:31,212 --> 00:36:35,522
And instead of, I need, could
you reframe it to, I want.

799
00:36:36,362 --> 00:36:40,492
How does that shift inside of
your body, your feeling, when

800
00:36:40,492 --> 00:36:42,832
you say, I need to do this.

801
00:36:43,382 --> 00:36:45,922
Versus, I want to do this.

802
00:36:46,922 --> 00:36:48,912
Just that little reframe.

803
00:36:49,412 --> 00:36:50,822
And should versus could.

804
00:36:50,822 --> 00:36:51,182
Right?

805
00:36:51,182 --> 00:36:51,962
Very exactly.

806
00:36:52,052 --> 00:36:52,472
Yeah.

807
00:36:52,472 --> 00:36:54,692
So I have to be mindful of that.

808
00:36:54,722 --> 00:36:54,932
Yeah.

809
00:36:54,932 --> 00:36:55,532
I wonder how often.

810
00:36:55,532 --> 00:36:58,652
No, I can't hear it without, yeah.

811
00:36:58,832 --> 00:36:59,732
I mean, I hear it.

812
00:36:59,732 --> 00:37:00,032
You'll have

813
00:37:00,032 --> 00:37:01,292
to hold me accountable on that.

814
00:37:01,292 --> 00:37:02,672
John, you're around me a lot.

815
00:37:03,122 --> 00:37:04,082
Night and day.

816
00:37:04,087 --> 00:37:05,257
The shoulds and the coulds.

817
00:37:05,477 --> 00:37:06,632
And the need.

818
00:37:06,632 --> 00:37:08,402
And the want and the need and the watch.

819
00:37:08,517 --> 00:37:11,702
And if you don't want it, why
are we putting energy there?

820
00:37:11,762 --> 00:37:12,332
Yeah.

821
00:37:13,712 --> 00:37:15,542
We really need so few

822
00:37:15,542 --> 00:37:16,112
things.

823
00:37:16,112 --> 00:37:17,762
You need air.

824
00:37:18,112 --> 00:37:18,882
Water.

825
00:37:19,042 --> 00:37:19,352
Food.

826
00:37:19,362 --> 00:37:20,732
Little shelter space.

827
00:37:20,832 --> 00:37:23,602
You know, if those aren't
on the need list, then uh

828
00:37:24,052 --> 00:37:27,052
These are wants, and
wants are inspirational.

829
00:37:27,342 --> 00:37:27,812
Yeah.

830
00:37:27,902 --> 00:37:30,552
Wants light up a fire inside of you.

831
00:37:31,642 --> 00:37:33,772
I want to climb Kilimanjaro.

832
00:37:34,442 --> 00:37:34,892
Yeah.

833
00:37:36,362 --> 00:37:40,377
But I need to climb Kilimanjaro
to become a Debbie Downer, right?

834
00:37:40,377 --> 00:37:42,222
Yeah, that shifted me.

835
00:37:42,222 --> 00:37:45,122
I was like, ooh, I don't want to
be obligated to do that, right?

836
00:37:46,242 --> 00:37:47,152
But I want to.

837
00:37:47,202 --> 00:37:49,542
That's more inspirational.

838
00:37:50,422 --> 00:37:54,412
So, Mary, I want to shift a little
bit because you did mention you are

839
00:37:54,732 --> 00:37:56,672
going to be our keynote speaker.

840
00:37:57,002 --> 00:37:59,992
What can we anticipate
at the end of this month?

841
00:38:00,022 --> 00:38:01,332
And, um

842
00:38:01,977 --> 00:38:02,887
Well, let's hope

843
00:38:02,887 --> 00:38:03,067
that

844
00:38:03,067 --> 00:38:06,567
I have something in my brain by then,
because I've been, I've been kind of

845
00:38:06,567 --> 00:38:12,537
ruminating on it, and, uh, one of the
things I've done before is to walk

846
00:38:12,547 --> 00:38:17,807
into a room and just start asking
women, so tell me why you're here.

847
00:38:18,667 --> 00:38:22,757
Tell me what are you hoping to, what,
see that's me, hoping, what do you

848
00:38:22,757 --> 00:38:25,287
want to walk away with from here today?

849
00:38:26,247 --> 00:38:30,077
I set my little notepad and
I'm just making notes, and

850
00:38:30,087 --> 00:38:31,387
then I get up and I talk.

851
00:38:32,467 --> 00:38:37,407
And I think for them one of the
best pieces will be the Q& A,

852
00:38:37,677 --> 00:38:38,197
yeah,

853
00:38:38,927 --> 00:38:42,097
where they get to really ask
anything of a naked woman.

854
00:38:43,567 --> 00:38:45,757
I'm not gonna really step
there naked, but, you know.

855
00:38:45,757 --> 00:38:45,837
I

856
00:38:45,837 --> 00:38:47,507
was ready to bring a robe, just in case.

857
00:38:47,917 --> 00:38:49,637
Like, you never know with
Mary what we're gonna get.

858
00:38:49,638 --> 00:38:51,007
There you go.

859
00:38:51,607 --> 00:38:58,187
But, uh, what if you really could ask
someone who had passed through your age.

860
00:38:58,567 --> 00:38:59,287
Yes.

861
00:38:59,667 --> 00:39:02,107
And really emerged on the other side.

862
00:39:03,577 --> 00:39:04,027
Anything.

863
00:39:05,417 --> 00:39:06,347
What would you ask her?

864
00:39:07,507 --> 00:39:13,447
And so, um, I kept looking my
whole life for a mentor my age.

865
00:39:13,987 --> 00:39:14,987
A bit older than I was.

866
00:39:15,807 --> 00:39:20,707
And I kept thinking, I'm going to find
this woman who's in a rocking chair on

867
00:39:20,717 --> 00:39:24,777
the front porch and she's, you know,
got her grey bun behind her head.

868
00:39:25,157 --> 00:39:30,897
She's going to give me all of this
wisdom on how she was an entrepreneur.

869
00:39:31,527 --> 00:39:39,577
And how she built her business and how
she balanced family and career and that

870
00:39:39,587 --> 00:39:44,697
she was going to now be able to, as I
was approaching retirement, that she was

871
00:39:44,697 --> 00:39:49,427
now going to be able to say, and this is
how I moved from this point to this point

872
00:39:49,817 --> 00:39:53,237
and, and built on my value even more.

873
00:39:54,412 --> 00:39:59,392
I would envision her, you know,
and then one day, as I, about

874
00:39:59,392 --> 00:40:04,212
a month before I retired, I
realized that woman doesn't exist.

875
00:40:05,292 --> 00:40:09,612
That woman would need to be 85 or 90.

876
00:40:12,327 --> 00:40:14,937
And there weren't a lot
of women entrepreneurs.

877
00:40:15,577 --> 00:40:17,067
Not in that generation, no.

878
00:40:17,587 --> 00:40:18,587
And that I'd

879
00:40:18,627 --> 00:40:21,477
been looking for someone
who probably didn't exist.

880
00:40:22,987 --> 00:40:27,397
So, making the decision at that
point, I want to learn as much

881
00:40:27,397 --> 00:40:30,427
as I can, so that I can be that,

882
00:40:31,187 --> 00:40:31,437
for

883
00:40:31,497 --> 00:40:33,257
everyone who comes behind me.

884
00:40:34,392 --> 00:40:36,692
Thank you for giving yourself
permission to do that.

885
00:40:37,382 --> 00:40:37,732
Yeah.

886
00:40:37,782 --> 00:40:39,231
Because we need you.

887
00:40:39,231 --> 00:40:39,613
Yes.

888
00:40:39,613 --> 00:40:39,996
Absolutely.

889
00:40:39,996 --> 00:40:41,144
She keeps singing.

890
00:40:41,144 --> 00:40:43,322
We need you to sing, girl.

891
00:40:43,862 --> 00:40:47,702
It speaks to your bio of being a
trailblazer and being that person that you

892
00:40:47,702 --> 00:40:49,422
couldn't find, but being that for others.

893
00:40:49,802 --> 00:40:52,592
Well, in the meantime, before our
launch party, how can people find

894
00:40:52,612 --> 00:40:54,182
you, connect with you, learn more?

895
00:40:54,522 --> 00:40:55,612
Uh, well, you

896
00:40:55,612 --> 00:40:56,502
can, yeah.

897
00:40:56,562 --> 00:40:58,242
This is on Amazon.

898
00:40:58,272 --> 00:41:00,832
Unbounded from sorrow to summit.

899
00:41:01,152 --> 00:41:06,362
So, it is the metaphor of my climb
from Ankile and preparing for

900
00:41:06,362 --> 00:41:08,052
my climb to the actual summit.

901
00:41:08,512 --> 00:41:13,412
But in there are the lessons that I
learned in the 15 years before I left.

902
00:41:13,972 --> 00:41:15,832
Of, of waking up.

903
00:41:17,102 --> 00:41:18,542
To what was holding me back.

904
00:41:19,172 --> 00:41:21,122
And then setting a plan.

905
00:41:21,662 --> 00:41:24,492
So in here, I feel like it's a guide.

906
00:41:24,722 --> 00:41:25,062
Yeah.

907
00:41:25,072 --> 00:41:28,052
For people to become their very best self.

908
00:41:28,052 --> 00:41:29,272
To let go of fear.

909
00:41:29,802 --> 00:41:31,142
To become fearless.

910
00:41:32,952 --> 00:41:37,832
Think of how powerful this world
would be if more people step into

911
00:41:37,832 --> 00:41:40,702
that vulnerable Authentic self.

912
00:41:41,102 --> 00:41:42,202
Yeah, you haven't read this.

913
00:41:42,222 --> 00:41:44,492
You guys absolutely need to again.

914
00:41:44,492 --> 00:41:48,372
It's unbounded from sorrow to
summit Miss Mary Crafts I'm

915
00:41:48,372 --> 00:41:48,942
Amazon.

916
00:41:49,582 --> 00:41:54,522
You could visit my website, which is Mary
crafts Inc and the crafts is with an s.

917
00:41:54,742 --> 00:42:00,222
Yeah, so like arts and crafts
Um, uh, Not Like the Cheese.

918
00:42:00,252 --> 00:42:00,816
Not Like

919
00:42:00,816 --> 00:42:01,543
the Cheese.

920
00:42:01,543 --> 00:42:02,632
And then you

921
00:42:02,632 --> 00:42:03,722
have a podcast.

922
00:42:03,722 --> 00:42:05,212
And I have a podcast.

923
00:42:05,212 --> 00:42:06,532
Every week it comes out.

924
00:42:06,582 --> 00:42:09,922
Um, that's on YouTube and
I have my own channel.

925
00:42:10,282 --> 00:42:12,332
And you can visit my social media.

926
00:42:12,332 --> 00:42:14,042
I invite people to follow me there.

927
00:42:14,452 --> 00:42:16,902
Um, it's full of all
sorts of ups and downs.

928
00:42:16,942 --> 00:42:19,232
And, um, and real life.

929
00:42:20,252 --> 00:42:21,682
It's not all perfect now.

930
00:42:22,562 --> 00:42:25,042
I will say though, it's so much better.

931
00:42:25,782 --> 00:42:27,102
Than last year.

932
00:42:28,682 --> 00:42:31,322
As I went into this
year, my word was dream.

933
00:42:33,892 --> 00:42:37,472
And I began to dream
what was possible still.

934
00:42:38,152 --> 00:42:39,572
And now I have permission to do it.

935
00:42:39,722 --> 00:42:40,122
I love it.

936
00:42:40,942 --> 00:42:43,562
But last year for me was very pivotal.

937
00:42:43,892 --> 00:42:50,582
I, I didn't know if someone my age
would find the love of their life.

938
00:42:51,432 --> 00:42:51,672
But

939
00:42:51,672 --> 00:42:52,879
I dreamed it.

940
00:42:52,879 --> 00:42:54,922
I dreamed it so big.

941
00:42:56,872 --> 00:42:57,262
And.

942
00:42:57,877 --> 00:42:59,207
Last April we were married.

943
00:42:59,427 --> 00:43:00,857
Oh, congratulations!

944
00:43:00,907 --> 00:43:02,727
So we've been married nine months.

945
00:43:02,728 --> 00:43:04,722
Oh, you're newlywed, girl!

946
00:43:04,722 --> 00:43:06,217
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

947
00:43:06,217 --> 00:43:07,707
You're marital blessed right now.

948
00:43:08,697 --> 00:43:11,307
And so, that was really wonderful for me.

949
00:43:11,337 --> 00:43:12,527
Just to dream.

950
00:43:12,897 --> 00:43:14,497
And realize that it didn't matter.

951
00:43:14,677 --> 00:43:17,077
Age does not stop you from dreaming.

952
00:43:17,307 --> 00:43:21,117
Only your belief in your age
and what that says about you.

953
00:43:21,117 --> 00:43:21,567
Yes.

954
00:43:22,172 --> 00:43:28,832
And, um, when I went to make this
step of permission, I also felt I

955
00:43:28,832 --> 00:43:30,702
needed to ask John for permission.

956
00:43:32,662 --> 00:43:37,582
And I told him about what I was
thinking and the alternative to that

957
00:43:37,582 --> 00:43:41,722
would be just to find the love and joy
of staying here and being with you.

958
00:43:42,862 --> 00:43:46,752
And being with my grandchildren
and my children and travel and

959
00:43:46,832 --> 00:43:48,252
all those things we love to do.

960
00:43:50,152 --> 00:43:53,862
Is that, I mean, what, what
would you do if you were me?

961
00:43:54,192 --> 00:43:55,262
Can it be an and?

962
00:43:55,392 --> 00:43:56,742
And what do you want me to do?

963
00:43:58,042 --> 00:44:03,032
And he just sat back and thought for a
minute and he said, I want you to sing.

964
00:44:03,322 --> 00:44:08,362
Oh, that's so beautiful.

965
00:44:08,362 --> 00:44:12,202
So, now that I have his permission, I
can definitely give myself permission.

966
00:44:13,072 --> 00:44:15,832
So, what I just heard is Mary's
going to be singing for us.

967
00:44:15,833 --> 00:44:18,432
On the 27th.

968
00:44:19,372 --> 00:44:23,062
So, again, that will be on
January 27th, Monday, January

969
00:44:23,072 --> 00:44:26,392
27th at 6pm at Novel Daybreak.

970
00:44:26,482 --> 00:44:26,977
We are so excited.

971
00:44:27,487 --> 00:44:29,596
Just right down the street.

972
00:44:29,596 --> 00:44:32,247
Just right here in South Jordan Daybreak.

973
00:44:32,257 --> 00:44:32,557
Jen,

974
00:44:32,557 --> 00:44:33,957
what final thoughts do you have?

975
00:44:35,837 --> 00:44:42,147
I just, I love the takeaway that
our, our challenges don't leave us,

976
00:44:42,197 --> 00:44:44,027
but that's not a discouragement.

977
00:44:44,117 --> 00:44:45,597
We can still go through them.

978
00:44:45,597 --> 00:44:46,797
We can still face them.

979
00:44:46,797 --> 00:44:50,267
They might become less, but
they're still going to be there.

980
00:44:51,082 --> 00:44:52,602
And we're worthy no matter what.

981
00:44:53,022 --> 00:44:53,752
No matter what.

982
00:44:53,822 --> 00:44:54,002
Yeah,

983
00:44:54,003 --> 00:44:55,347
that's

984
00:44:55,347 --> 00:44:56,692
beautiful.

985
00:44:56,692 --> 00:44:57,962
I'm going to share one more thing.

986
00:44:57,962 --> 00:45:00,992
But this was a thought I had
this morning as I read my book.

987
00:45:01,132 --> 00:45:02,352
Because I'm listening to it now.

988
00:45:02,602 --> 00:45:03,992
Because the audio is coming out.

989
00:45:05,672 --> 00:45:14,122
And that at one point I wrote if
you believe that you are going to be

990
00:45:14,132 --> 00:45:17,502
more worthy if you accomplish a goal

991
00:45:17,862 --> 00:45:18,652
Mmmmm

992
00:45:18,957 --> 00:45:20,907
Then you're coming at
that from the wrong point.

993
00:45:21,317 --> 00:45:27,257
If you believe you're going to be more
worthy for losing weight or becoming

994
00:45:27,257 --> 00:45:35,497
fit, your worth did not change when you
shifted to that point, and it's not going

995
00:45:35,497 --> 00:45:37,497
to change when you shift away from it.

996
00:45:38,252 --> 00:45:39,442
It is constant.

997
00:45:39,512 --> 00:45:43,252
It's the one constant that's
in our life, our worth.

998
00:45:44,332 --> 00:45:45,822
It's always with us.

999
00:45:46,192 --> 00:45:48,572
The only thing that's shifted
is our perception of it.

1000
00:45:50,272 --> 00:45:55,132
And what if we could all just sit every
morning and bask in our worth and beauty?

1001
00:45:56,487 --> 00:46:01,747
I know you focus a lot on gratitude
too and being mindful in that

1002
00:46:01,877 --> 00:46:03,867
gratitude I think is very helpful.

1003
00:46:03,957 --> 00:46:04,247
Yeah.

1004
00:46:04,567 --> 00:46:05,427
In that space.

1005
00:46:05,437 --> 00:46:07,617
Because sometimes when you're
down and out and thinking, you

1006
00:46:07,617 --> 00:46:11,857
know, of the past and being stuck
in fear and all of those things.

1007
00:46:12,432 --> 00:46:17,652
That can be a really negative space and
it's hard to break out of that and I found

1008
00:46:17,662 --> 00:46:22,342
in my own mental health struggle through
the years, specifically postpartum,

1009
00:46:23,632 --> 00:46:25,702
gratitude was everything for me.

1010
00:46:26,092 --> 00:46:32,932
Just taking that moment to shift
the thinking and recognize and

1011
00:46:32,932 --> 00:46:34,442
realize your worth is here.

1012
00:46:34,442 --> 00:46:35,232
It's constant.

1013
00:46:35,312 --> 00:46:37,062
Your worth is constant.

1014
00:46:37,612 --> 00:46:42,567
What are the things, even as bad
as life is, that you have To be

1015
00:46:42,567 --> 00:46:46,127
grateful for and sitting in that
moment of gratitude really does shift.

1016
00:46:46,128 --> 00:46:46,277
It

1017
00:46:46,277 --> 00:46:47,057
does shift.

1018
00:46:47,077 --> 00:46:47,977
It totally does.

1019
00:46:48,227 --> 00:46:50,917
I think about a little
baby coming into the world.

1020
00:46:51,367 --> 00:46:55,567
And would you ever say to a
little baby, just so you know,

1021
00:46:55,567 --> 00:46:57,437
sweetheart, you are worth nothing.

1022
00:46:58,877 --> 00:47:00,747
You have to prove yourself here.

1023
00:47:01,392 --> 00:47:05,622
You have to work hard and then
you'll get to be worth something.

1024
00:47:06,472 --> 00:47:09,292
We never think of saying that to a baby.

1025
00:47:10,402 --> 00:47:15,542
And yet somewhere along the way,
this world changes our perception.

1026
00:47:18,292 --> 00:47:19,402
We're going to shift it back.

1027
00:47:19,772 --> 00:47:20,302
I love it.

1028
00:47:20,972 --> 00:47:23,092
Come join us on January 27th.

1029
00:47:23,552 --> 00:47:24,012
Love it.

1030
00:47:24,072 --> 00:47:25,152
Thank you again.

1031
00:47:25,452 --> 00:47:26,732
That was so beautiful.

1032
00:47:26,932 --> 00:47:27,752
That was so beautiful.

1033
00:47:27,752 --> 00:47:29,312
We really appreciate you being here today.

1034
00:47:29,322 --> 00:47:29,952
My pleasure.

1035
00:47:29,952 --> 00:47:30,382
Thank you.

1036
00:47:30,402 --> 00:47:31,052
Thank you.

1037
00:47:31,257 --> 00:47:32,217
Aw, Mary Crafts.

1038
00:47:32,427 --> 00:47:34,557
Mary Crafts and Women Optimizing Wellness.

1039
00:47:34,557 --> 00:47:38,127
Their big launch is coming
up January 27th, I believe.

1040
00:47:38,697 --> 00:47:39,867
Mary Craft's right there.

1041
00:47:39,867 --> 00:47:40,827
She was talking about it.

1042
00:47:40,827 --> 00:47:45,497
And basically, if you, if you're your
authentic self, you can change the world.

1043
00:47:45,887 --> 00:47:48,077
That's, that's some words
that I live by as well.

1044
00:47:48,587 --> 00:47:50,117
Uh, just be you.

1045
00:47:50,727 --> 00:47:51,597
Just be you.

1046
00:47:52,737 --> 00:47:53,607
That's all you gotta do.

1047
00:47:53,612 --> 00:47:56,517
If you, if you're really gonna
be you, you can change the world

1048
00:47:56,517 --> 00:48:00,457
because you're gonna connect with
the people who are like-minded or

1049
00:48:00,457 --> 00:48:04,507
in that same realm that you're in
on that same wave that you're on.

1050
00:48:04,657 --> 00:48:05,767
You'll find those people.

1051
00:48:05,767 --> 00:48:09,587
Just be authentic mary crafts inc.com.

1052
00:48:09,587 --> 00:48:10,757
You can go find out more about her.

1053
00:48:11,472 --> 00:48:13,092
For us, it's radiodaybreak.

1054
00:48:13,092 --> 00:48:15,062
com, at Radio Daybreak across the board.

1055
00:48:15,712 --> 00:48:20,312
Don't forget your BNI, BNI
Business Network International,

1056
00:48:20,392 --> 00:48:21,832
right here in Daybreak.

1057
00:48:22,162 --> 00:48:22,682
9 a.

1058
00:48:22,682 --> 00:48:22,902
m.

1059
00:48:23,242 --> 00:48:26,932
Wednesdays at the DCC, the
Daybreak Community Center.

1060
00:48:26,932 --> 00:48:28,552
I know I'm throwing a
lot of acronyms at you.

1061
00:48:29,142 --> 00:48:31,342
I promise we'll have all
the info out there for you.

1062
00:48:31,552 --> 00:48:34,192
We would love to see any of you
Daybreak business owners, or

1063
00:48:34,442 --> 00:48:38,452
the owners of businesses around
the area that support Daybreak.

1064
00:48:38,927 --> 00:48:39,977
Come to these meetings.

1065
00:48:40,237 --> 00:48:41,477
They are going to be beneficial.

1066
00:48:41,637 --> 00:48:42,777
This thing is going to blow up.

1067
00:48:43,727 --> 00:48:46,807
We'll see you guys next
week at Radio Daybreak.